Small or Big Family?

@annierose (17419)
Philippines
March 29, 2016 8:32pm CST
I grew up in a small family. My siblings and I have large age gap so sometimes we could not understand each other much, but I love them of course. My mom doesn't want to have more kids because she gets nervous just by the thought of delivering a baby. Whenever I visit my other relatives and friends and I saw them too many in the house and happy, I wish I were in a big family too. When my father got sick, we found it difficult to divide the tasks among ourselves since my other siblings have their own family and their kids are still too little. When my aunt got sick, there was no problem about who will do this or that because she has many kids. I think that is one of the advantages of having a big family because things become simple to do.
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@SIMPLYD (75854)
• Philippines
30 Mar 16
How many siblings do you have . I have four all girls . Two , one a widow and the other separated from husband with all their 3 kids grown up are with my parents . Thus , being them in the house they take care of my diabetic father whose left leg was amputated . It's a blessing that they are at my parents house , that's why father fears if ever they will eventually leave the house (the nieces and nephews) to have their own families .
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@annierose (17419)
• Philippines
30 Mar 16
I have 4 siblings. The first one was very far from us. It takes 5 hours by bus to reach their place. The second one is married also to a man who lives far from us too. It takes 3 hours to go to their place by bus. And now, the youngest is getting married and her future hubby also lives far away from the city. There is a need to ride a ship to go there and if we want to reach them faster, we can go for an airplane. We just have one nephew and one niece. I do not know if our family will get bigger. Haha
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@SIMPLYD (75854)
• Philippines
30 Mar 16
@annierose They are indeed far from home so i guess it's you who will take care of the parents when they grew older.
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@SIMPLYD (75854)
• Philippines
31 Mar 16
@annierose That's very nice of you . Your mother must be so proud .
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@youless (87480)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Mar 16
I grew up in a small family. There were only four people in my family, they were my parents, my grandma and I. Now I am married and my parents in law have three children besides my husband. So namely now my family members are more than before.
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@annierose (17419)
• Philippines
30 Mar 16
Are you happier when you have small family or you feel more elated when you got already in a big family? As for me, I feel happy every time my married brother, his wife, my married sister, her husband and my niece and nephew are also in the house. Although the house becomes messy, but I don't mind. I love to see my nephew and niece play around and my mom happily talking with us.
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@youless (87480)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Mar 16
@annierose Perhaps I still prefer to have a small family because everything is simple. When there are more relatives, some may ask you for help and borrow money etc. Sometimes it is just not easy to decline.
@annierose (17419)
• Philippines
30 Mar 16
@youless I understand. I rarely encounter our relatives asking us help of money. Actually we do not want as much as possible to lend money especially if we know that person even a relative do not really pay his debt. There are one a case that after all the help that we gave, in the end we were still the bad one.
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@marlina (64793)
• Canada
30 Mar 16
My parents had 6 children, and we had so much fun together.
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@annierose (17419)
• Philippines
30 Mar 16
When I was the youngest in the family, I hardly remember a time that I played with my 2 siblings. All I know is I always asked my parents to let me go outside to play with my cousins. However, I was not allowed to play much outside. My mom would rather teach me how to read than to allow me to play with other kids. I think that is the reason, I love to read a lot.
@rina110383 (24202)
30 Mar 16
I have 3 siblings. One lives and works outside of the country with her husband & son. My two siblings live with my parents. There are only 2 of us who are single, me and the youngest, my brother. So far, we haven't encountered issues like this. If it will happen in the future, I'll make sure each one of us will be obligated to give his/her share regardless of the status (married/single) in life.
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@annierose (17419)
• Philippines
30 Mar 16
Well everyone did their responsibilities when our father suffered from cancer. But due to their locations it was a bit difficult for them. Maybe if they just live near to us, then it won't be too difficult.
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@toniganzon (42793)
• Philippines
30 Mar 16
I grew up in a big family. I have two brothers and two sisters. I enjoyed fighting and playing with them. I'm the youngest and the age gap between me and the fourth sibling is 4 years. When I was very young I wished that I was an only child. But that changed when we lost our parents when I was 13. Boy was I glad to have my siblings around me.
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@annierose (17419)
• Philippines
30 Mar 16
Siblings are angels in disguise. I would love also to have many siblings rather than being a solo child in the family. However, now that my youngest sister is about to married, I will be the only child in the house with mom. The house seems to be quiet and sad.
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• Philippines
30 Mar 16
My siblings age gap is five years so it's very hard to relate to them. but there are moments were my eldest and I get along in some issues. well, family is family, and we should love and protect each other.
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@annierose (17419)
• Philippines
30 Mar 16
There is a 7 year age gap between my elder sister and I, and between my youngest sister and I. Sometimes I cannot relate with them. However, I have cousins whose age gap is just one year and they get along well together.