*IMPORTANT* What can someone do to make the alcoholic person get sober?

@Lxandra79 (1536)
United States
November 24, 2006 2:23pm CST
Or make him go to the meetings (AA)??? Yes this is for my dad that im talking about:( My mom and I are tired of him drinking, she is fed up with it she has been dealing with him for about 26 years now. He thinks its a normal thing, 'just a few drinks for fun' he says. If he dont sober up, they are goin to get a divorce, or she wants to send him to my country (peru), she would call imigration but he is a resident, so we dont know what to do:(:( So please respond.
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@Kylalynn (1773)
• South Africa
24 Nov 06
Oh no! My heart goes out to you both. I offer a free counselling service to the members of mylot. I am still studying for counselling psychology, so any advise is still from a layman. I can understand your mom being fed up. Does he get out of hand when he has been drinking, or does he stay friendly. Is he drunk all of the time.
@Kylalynn (1773)
• South Africa
24 Nov 06
Drunk from Thursday to Sunday, sounds like he is a weekend alcholic. Can I invite you to be my friend and we can discuss it privately?
@Lxandra79 (1536)
• United States
24 Nov 06
yes please:)
@Kylalynn (1773)
• South Africa
24 Nov 06
I have requested you to be my friend, but you have to approve it first.
@AJ1952Chats (2340)
• Anderson, Indiana
25 Nov 06
I find it strange that your mom wishes that he would hit her so that she could send him to jail. She should count herself lucky that he doesn't. There are women in physically-abusive situations who would trade places with her any day. This, of course, doesn't mean that she should just go on and allow status quo to happen. Once he becomes sober, what you should do is to have a family conference with an outsider brought in to help you. You and your mother should say that you only get to enjoy him sober for three days out of the week, and that isn't enough. You mother should insist that he gets help for his drinking problem or she will have no choice but to leave him, because it isn't healthy to have her life go on and on like this. If he does get help, don't chew him out when he falls off the wagon. Tell him that you understand that this is a one-day-at-a-time sort of thing and that he shouldn't get discouraged but, instead, just pick himself up and try again.
@Lxandra79 (1536)
• United States
25 Nov 06
Well my mom is hopin or wishes for him to hit her because we dont want him in the house anymore, if u were here u would understand.
@Lxandra79 (1536)
• United States
25 Nov 06
Whenver he stops drinking for 1-2 days he gets moody and cranky, he started drinking at the age of 15 he is now 51, its pretty hard to stop now isnt it?
@ashutoshgl (1446)
• United States
11 Dec 06
bring awareness in that person not to drink..n tell him hw much harmful it is fr ones health....