It Ain't Over Till The Fat Lady Sings

@josie_ (7665)
Philippines
April 1, 2016 8:41am CST
There is a viral video going around the internet that is casting the Philippines and the Filipino in an unfavorable light. Elayne Peddy, a tourist from the UK vlog about her discrimination experience in El Nido, a popular resort island located in the southern part of the Philippines. I watch her video where she teary eyed narrated how on several occasions during her stay in EL Nido, she claim she was called a "fat ugly monkey" and a "big black fat girl". The experience so shook Elayne she remain inside her hotel room for the remainder of her stay until the time of departure from the island. While I commiserate with her for her unfortunate experience, I would like to get a proper perspective of the incident. There are questions unanswered because the video provided scant facts of the incident to go on. Just her say so. El Nido is one of the more popular destination of foreign travelers. Native residents are use to seeing foreigners. The beaches teem with scantily clad foreign tourists. Was she also in a bikini or thongs? Some beach wear are not suited or flattering for certain body build. Female modesty despite the big inroads made into gender equality is still deeply ingrain in the Filipino culture. Elayne also did not mention who or how many were subjecting her to ridicule. Adults(who should know better),teenagers(blame the adults),or street urchins(a permanent fixture where tourists flock)? She simply made a sweeping statement. I would like to know in what context and circumstance the "slurs" were uttered. Was it in a disparaging angry outburst or in a jovial teasing manner? Filipino humor can be deprecatory. Taken in good humor by Filipinos but often misunderstood by foreigners. I also wonder about the credibility of the story. Was it exaggerated given the emotional state of Elayne. You be the judge. Here is the link to the video: Philippines Worst Holiday StoryTime (Its at the end of the article) Here is another link to one of her video I found in her youtube channel ElAYNE PEDDY she titled it "I WANT TO LICK YOUR ASS PLUS SIZE TINDER (TENDER?) RANT https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A6id1PDQlYY Lastly, to the many Filipinos with knee-jerk reaction who commented on her video...I am puzzled at your apologetic and depreciating bashing of the Filipino. These are some of the less offensive (to me) comments by my compatriots. "Dear, Elayne. On behalf of the ignorant in our country I am sorry." "In the Philippines, a lot of us lack the education to be more sensitive." (Speak for yourself) "Don't worry about them their just mean bullies, its common in the Philippines." "Dear Elayne, I'm so ashamed. Please accept my apologies on behalf of the ignorant in our country.?" "I can only attribute this to my people's incipient naivete on what is politically correct and what is not." (The gall!, "my people"? Is he the President?)
This video was really hard to make but I think it is important for me and for everyone watching. Thank you
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13 responses
@WorDazza (10091)
• Manchester, England
1 Apr 16
No matter where you travel in the world there will always be a tiny minority who will make ignorant, insulting remarks to people. This isn't about Filipinos being obnoxious this is about a small number of people being obnoxious. There's a fair chance she hears similar things occasionally while walking down the street in the UK. It doesn't make it right but it's also not right to try and suggest these people are typical of Filipinos.
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@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
1 Apr 16
@WorDazza _In her defense, she did mention that except for that part of her vacation trip, the rest of her stay in the Philippines was a wonderful experience.
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@WorDazza (10091)
• Manchester, England
1 Apr 16
@josie_ And typically, it's the one bad thing (which as I said could have happened to her anywhere in the world, such is human nature!) that everyone chooses to pounce on (again, such is human nature)!!!
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@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
1 Apr 16
@WorDazza _I am particularly perplex at the reaction of some Filipinos who made depreciating comments against their own countrymen. Is it remnants of our colonial mentality? A perusal of the comments reveal most were from Filipinos. It could also be our "crab mentality"
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@MGjhaud (20672)
• Philippines
1 Apr 16
i think she took the jokes seriously. ive seen a small part of her other video where she gave points for plus size women and it seems like shes a sensitive type or serious about what you say to her physical appearance. i say some of it is purely misunderstanding. but we'll never know, we're never there. sorry if my countrymen made her feel that way but i hope she'll rethink what really happened..
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@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
1 Apr 16
@MGjhaud _Yes, that's my point. we were never there and have to take her word that it happen just the way she said it in her vlog. As to her being the sensitive type, Do they post titles like the other link I provided from her youtube channel?
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@MGjhaud (20672)
• Philippines
1 Apr 16
@josie_ shes blunt about other things but the one we, filipinos, showed her is not her kind of being blunt
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@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
1 Apr 16
@MGjhaud _I would use the word "tackless" in place of blunt but then Kris Aquino might be offended. But yes, we Filipinos are the forgiving kind. Even when we are on the receiving end of an injustice.
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@LadyDuck (175962)
• Switzerland
1 Apr 16
You can have problems no matter where you go around the world. Not everyone you meet is a cultivated or well mannered person. It is rude to condemn a country only because someone told you nasty things.
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@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
1 Apr 16
@LadyDuck _ A cultivated or well mannered person only means he is well verse in the social graces of polite society,not that they are without prejudice. But I agree with you that the vlogger should have been more circumspect in issuing accusation that cannot be verified save for her say so.
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@LadyDuck (175962)
• Switzerland
1 Apr 16
@josie_ Yes, this is what I meant.
@allen0187 (33914)
• Philippines
4 Apr 16
First time I've heard about this. It is so sad that someone would be ridiculed because of her/his physical attributes but there are two sides to every story so I'd like to check the truthfulness of her claims.
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@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
4 Apr 16
@allen0187 _Discrimination should be denounce, but I would like some proof that it happen EXACTLY as she said it did.
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@allen0187 (33914)
• Philippines
4 Apr 16
@josie_ exactly. Hard to believe her claims when her side is the only one we are hearing.
• United States
2 Apr 16
I get exactly your point my friend. And truly, even if this incident indeed occured (where is the proof?), please go on with her vacation as planned. This stuff can happen anywhere and why take it and make a big deal out of it? I see some of the comments are sucking up, not cool. She goes on and on and on ..truly annoying. Big deal for 4 days
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@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
2 Apr 16
@TiarasOceanView _All her videos in her youtube channel average about a hundred or so views. This video where she spoke unfavorably about her vacation in the Philippines and allege she was discriminated on gathered over 60,000 plus (and growing) views. Now that she had her 15 minutes of fame, I hope she fades away into oblivion
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• United States
2 Apr 16
@josie_ I do not find her credible josefina. I am judge and jury lolz
@1hopefulman (32446)
• Canada
2 Apr 16
We should never judge the tree by a few bad apples.
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@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
2 Apr 16
@1hopefulman _I question the veracity of her accusation. Was there any bad apples in the first place.
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@1hopefulman (32446)
• Canada
2 Apr 16
@josie_ I don't have all the facts and so I cannot say where the bad apple was.
@norcal (3213)
• Nevada City, California
3 Apr 16
Fat shaming is quite commonplace in the US. I wonder if it is really more common in the Philippines.
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@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
3 Apr 16
@norcal _Bullying and discrimination against minority groups happens around the world.
@AkoPinay (10099)
• Philippines
3 Apr 16
She only wants more YouTube views so I wont spend time watching. LOL
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@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
3 Apr 16
@AkoPinay _Agree! Her other videos in her youtube channel are AWFUL!!! They have so few views compare to her "Philippines worst vacation". Why should we patronize it?
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• Philippines
2 Apr 16
man, she really cried out there, i bet those natives have no idea on what their saying. or maybe some of them just don't care.
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@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
2 Apr 16
@Letranknight2015 _There are always two side of a coin. We heard only her side. Should we accept it happen that way just because she said so??? No witness, no collaborating evidence. Consider the damage done to the image of the Philippines and the Filipinos. Is that fair?
@Shavkat (65270)
• Philippines
1 Apr 16
I don't think that this issue is so serious at all. The credibility is questionable. If she had her proof, then there will be no question. I think she is just being delicate over something. It could be a result of paranoia.
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@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
1 Apr 16
@Shavkat _Discrimination in any form should be condemn. But she should not have made it appear on her video that it's the norm rather than an isolated case. And like you mention, the credibility is questionable.
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@amadeo (73022)
• United States
1 Apr 16
thank you for the video and information.Never heard of this person
@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
1 Apr 16
@amadeo _She's from the UK. You might find her youtube channel interesting. It's all about lingerie...extra size of course.
@amadeo (73022)
• United States
1 Apr 16
@josie_ Okay,guess it is not my style.
@Lucky15 (33698)
• Philippines
1 Apr 16
Heard about it. Felt bad for her and sorrynfor.our fellow Filipinos
@josie_ (7665)
• Philippines
1 Apr 16
@Lucky15 _ We should deal in facts and not let our emotions cloud our judgment.
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@SIMPLYD (82965)
• Philippines
6 Apr 16
I think when you are in a business where we have to entertain guests , we will never say something derogatory and put the company in a bad light . I guess , it's some "tambays" who have called her that , though how can she say that it means that way , when it was spoken in Tagalog ?