My Dad's birthday

@ida123 (6284)
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
April 4, 2016 5:51am CST
This coming April 7, he will be 85 years old and still strong and active. He just called me a few minutes ago and asked me if I can come to his birthday this coming Thursday, I said yes. He wants me to be there on April 6 so that I can make an errand on what to prepare for his birthday. I asked him if he invites his friends and told me, no. I replied him, why you're asking me to be there before your birthday? If I'll be the one to manage, then I'll prepare a simple one, few menu and will be going to distribute foods to our neighbors to lessen the labor and other expenses. And the other line was silent, he off his phone. I know, he felt bad of my plans because I know my Dad is extravagant in terms of money. I'm only thinking of his money, his spending much not thinking of their expenses on their health. What can you say of my plans friend? Am I right?
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@salonga (27969)
• Philippines
4 Apr 16
I noted you are a very practical and we are very much the same. But your Dad is obviously your opposite. It is so hard to give in to his extravagant way, I know.. I myself would be very hesitant to follow what he wants if I were in your shoes but what can I do but just follow for anyway he is already old and have perhaps invited friends even if he did not admit it.
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@ida123 (6284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
4 Apr 16
i know my dad very much from head to foot, when we have celebration in the house he always say, he didn't invite someone so we prepare less but at the very hour he has plenty of invited guest, so it ends up to shortage of food, so we order foods from nearest restaurants and it is expensive. i tried to help him save money because he used to murmor that he was so stress of the house expenses and that is the reason why i want him to save money, for the kids of our adoptive sibling
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@salonga (27969)
• Philippines
4 Apr 16
@ida123 It is really hard situation. Like as we Filipinos always say in jest "mahirap magpalaki ng matanda".
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@Yar_Joey (3314)
• Philippines
4 Apr 16
he is already at the prime of his life so let him enjoy. My advance greetings to him
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@ida123 (6284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
4 Apr 16
Thanks friend. Yes, I want him to be happy, that's the reason why I want him to have a birthday party but I want it simple, distributing foods to the needy neighbors is a good deeds.
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@Yar_Joey (3314)
• Philippines
4 Apr 16
@ida123 You have humanitarian personality, my friend. But if I were you, I will concentrate my attention to my father first because he is already old.
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@ida123 (6284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
4 Apr 16
@Yar_Joey okey, i'll give him of what he wants, anyway he's already old. i want him to be happy. thanks to the advise friend
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@Lucky15 (33713)
• Philippines
4 Apr 16
Maybe he had invited few of his friends? You have a great plan for him. And happy birthday to your dad ;)
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@ida123 (6284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
4 Apr 16
I'm asking him about his guest and he told me, he never invites anyone. So I plan for his day, a simple one.
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@Lucky15 (33713)
• Philippines
5 Apr 16
@ida123 for family is great.way.to celebrate;)
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@ida123 (6284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Apr 16
@Lucky15 yes, i know..
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@LdeL0318 (6498)
• Philippines
4 Apr 16
A simple one will do. It's not practical to spend a lot of money in just one day celebration. Birthdays are important but you can still make it happy without spending much.
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@ida123 (6284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
4 Apr 16
I agree with you friend, you can be happy if you find others happy, example you give foods to the needy neighbors, right?
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@LdeL0318 (6498)
• Philippines
4 Apr 16
@ida123 True. Actually we don't hold birthday parties in the family. We find it so impractical. We just go and eat outside or bring foods or groceries to the orphanage.
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@rina110383 (21957)
4 Apr 16
Wise one. I for one, do not like lavish spending. My dad is also extravagant like your dad when it comes to money. Everytime he plans to spend more than enough during parties, I don't go home. Since we only see each other like twice a year, he gives in to my preference (Just a simple dinner with the immediate members of the family)
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@ida123 (6284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
6 Apr 16
I've considered spending lavishly is not good and impractical, in fact there's a saying that you can't pleased everybody, so even how big is your preparation, still there are people who will not be happy for it, they still talk against the way you prepared it, right? So what's the use but I'm going to prepare enough for the nearby neighbors, relatives and friends.
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• Philippines
4 Apr 16
Yeah, grandma thinks of that, whines when she has no money and spent more than she can afford. still we had to spent some tissue, milk and her own wilkins water. I'm glad she doesn't know anybody here, otherwise, we would be having visitors everyday like she does in the states. maybe let him do what he wishes. he's old anyway, he won't have any more years left. but I could tell, it's already annoying as it is since your the one who wants to save.
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@ida123 (6284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Apr 16
That is true, it's very annoying when you know that the cash you have is quite little and the income coming in is once a month only and the money send from my siblings is enough for a month expenses... i know his in and out of his cash so as long as i can budget, i have to.
@JMAndres (737)
• Zamboanga City, Philippines
8 Apr 16
They have the same birthday as my grandmother. :) We only have simple celebration and cook only few meals. :) I feel like your plan is great. Celebration must not be only about expense, it must also be about memories. :)
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@ida123 (6284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
8 Apr 16
That is true, celebrating it with a big expense is just wasting of money but what happens yesterday is great, I thought his visitors yesterday was only his playmates of madjong but I was wrong, all his old friends from a work from insurance company was there, the members of the BOD of the bank where he was the manager was also present and his senior citizen friends.
@JMAndres (737)
• Zamboanga City, Philippines
8 Apr 16
@ida123 wow. Your dad has really many connections. The the party was really fun and of great success. :)
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@ida123 (6284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
8 Apr 16
@JMAndres My Dad was an influential person when he was still active in managing the insurance company and managing at the bank.
@SIMPLYD (74896)
• Philippines
6 Apr 16
In my opinion . it should be that you ask him first what type of party would he like to have . Maybe you should just let him have his way , because anyway he has the budget for it , my friend . I think , he really would just like to enjoy his birthday , now that he is getting older . So just let him .
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@ida123 (6284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
6 Apr 16
Yes, I will give him what he wishes for his birthday but I think, he doesn't want to spend more.
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@SIMPLYD (74896)
• Philippines
6 Apr 16
@ida123 Then if he doesn't want to spend more maybe you can give him options of how to be able to do it in a small budget .
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@epiffanie (8342)
• Australia
4 Apr 16
Yes, I think your plan is much better .. be more practical .. celebration doesn't need to be extravagant ..
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@ida123 (6284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
4 Apr 16
That is true and I experience if we prepare many foods, the visitors will only wrapping the foods and bring it to their homes, my God, it is better to give it to our neighbors, neighbors are the ones who are easily to ask help in times of troubles.
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@epiffanie (8342)
• Australia
6 Apr 16
@ida123 Yes, that is what I particularly don't like about the culture over there.. If you invite a person, they invite along a few more .. And as you said, they take home whatever is left .. lol.. So yeah, just celebrate with the neighbours by sharing with them some of the special food prepared ..
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@jstory07 (57174)
• Roseburg, Oregon
5 Apr 16
I think your plan sounds good.
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@ida123 (6284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
6 Apr 16
My plan is just simple and practical way of spending and celebrating birthday, anyway, this is not a town fiesta that we consider, many people will just come and eat in our house.
• Indonesia
4 Apr 16
You dad is already quite old, but so great if he's still healthy, I hope he can continue on being strong and healthy! I think you plan is a good one as he can know you appreciate him so much!
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@ida123 (6284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
4 Apr 16
I want him to know how to save money even his already old because we never know what tomorrow brings.
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@maezee (26905)
• United States
4 Apr 16
I think your plans are good. May as well save him money! Happy early birthday to your dad by the way!
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@ida123 (6284)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
4 Apr 16
Thanks for the greetings, yes, I want it to be simple so that he can save money.