The End of Romantic and Starts of Platonic Relationship: Is That Possible?

@Shavkat (49625)
Philippines
April 8, 2016 5:01pm CST
This is still the sentiment of my dear friend who had been cheated by his partner. The relationship had ended for more than 2 years. The ex-partner had offered him a platonic relationship and will end the romantic part. Thus, it is a sign of falling out of love within the relationship. My friend was so devastated and caught off guard with the situation. The reason, the ex-partner found a new special person during the relationship period of my friend. At this point of time, my friend refused the offer of having a platonic relationship with her. He is confused of ending the romantic part of the relationship and continue the platonic relationship. Is there really difference between romantic and platonic?
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@toniganzon (42794)
• Philippines
9 Apr 16
Of course there's a real big difference between a romantic and platonic relationship. Judging from what happened to their relationship, it's impossible to have a platonic one. I would stay away as far as possible from the one who cheated on me.
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@Shavkat (49625)
• Philippines
9 Apr 16
@toniganzon Even if the relationship is in years? I also don't know how to explain this to my friend. He keeps on telling how is he going to start all over again. He is totally lost.
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@toniganzon (42794)
• Philippines
10 Apr 16
@Shavkat Your friend is still in love with her that's why he still wants to be associated with her even though not romantically. I think he's desperate.
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@Shavkat (49625)
• Philippines
10 Apr 16
@toniganzon Do you think it is normal?
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@TRBRocks420 (64566)
• Banks, Oregon
8 Apr 16
It's not possible no, at least I couldn't. I mean I would be civil, but not a friend really.
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@Shavkat (49625)
• Philippines
9 Apr 16
@TRBRocks420 Why not friend anymore? I was thinking more than 2 years relationship is quite a strong foundation to build platonic relationship. Despite the betrayal had happened. What do you think, my friend?
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@TRBRocks420 (64566)
• Banks, Oregon
9 Apr 16
@Shavkat No why would you want to be friends with someone who cheated on you, doesn't sound like a very good friend to me.
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@Shavkat (49625)
• Philippines
9 Apr 16
@TRBRocks420 I guess you are right. Seeing a person who had cheated on you will always flashback the sad memories.
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• United States
10 Apr 16
Well yes there is a huge difference as the romance has gone. It is rare that this type of platonic can survive after being romantically involved I think. Though what do I know as romance is not my specialty. It is sad for the person who still wants the romantic part. Also who wants to settle for second best? Move on and get another romance.
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@Shavkat (49625)
• Philippines
10 Apr 16
I hope it would be fine to be in platonic relationship. Hopefully, it would work out for some people.
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• United States
10 Apr 16
@Shavkat It does for some people..maybe for your friend eventually.
@OreoBrownie (3404)
• Elberton, Georgia
15 Apr 16
It can be hard to switch over due to hurt feelings and anger at the leaving partner. Yes it can be done but I think both have to grow into that form of relationship.
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@Shavkat (49625)
• Philippines
16 Apr 16
I think it is really hard. I felt the pain until now. The betrayal was so traumatic. But I am still on the process of moving on.
@MGjhaud (20823)
• Philippines
9 Apr 16
there is of course. its best for your friend to stay away. be civil but rather stay away.
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@Shavkat (49625)
• Philippines
9 Apr 16
@MGjhaud I think my friend started to realize he is also falling out of love to his ex-partner. It is about time for him to accept the fact.
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@Lucky15 (33759)
• Philippines
8 Apr 16
i will not get myself into that relationship, even just platonic. the cheating part is not acceptable for me
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@Shavkat (49625)
• Philippines
8 Apr 16
It was really unacceptable. That's why my friend is really in critical thinking right now.
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@Bunny28 (191)
• Lillington, North Carolina
8 Apr 16
yes platonic means strictly friends no physical intimacy. Romantic is a friendship that allows for physical intimacy.
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@Shavkat (49625)
• Philippines
8 Apr 16
I agree there is really a difference. I hope my friend will not be confused of what his position is right now.
@gofsey (1286)
• Madurai, India
10 Apr 16
Nice question. One is like a banquet you see being served to heads of states and dignitaries. The other is like the food you eat at home. Looking at banquets helps you develop your appetite, which I guess is a good thing. But moving out from center court to sit and watch with the audience may not be palatable. Better would be to move to some other game altogether.