People that are hard to deal with

Philippines
April 11, 2016 1:03am CST
I have this one friend whom everyone find hard to deal with. She's my college classmate and we became very close friend upto now. However, she became too attached to me that she already dumped her friends and forget her family relatives at some point. Her attachment to me made it impossible for me to talk to her the way we used to. We usually argue about how she treats her friends, relatives and work mates. Also I dislike how she converse with other people. She's authoritative and doesn't listen to other comments and suggestions. Most of our common friends keeps on asking me how can I able to manage to deal with her despite of her being so harsh and rude most of the time. My answer most of the time is, because I put my feet on her shoes. Though she's hard to deal with, it will be impossible for her to change if everyone will turn their backs on her. I'm willing to be that person who could stay with her despite of her attitude. Lately, I find it difficult to have a discussion or conversation with her, because it seems like all my words are knife trying to slash her side by side. I felt sorry for that. But I don't regret saying those words just to correct her. I hope not to lose all my patience. Have you experience the same? or do you have that one person whom you think is so hard to deal with? What advise can you give me in order for me not to lose my faith and patience?
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6 responses
@LdeL0318 (6498)
• Philippines
11 Apr 16
Luckily I don't have a friend like that. She's so lucky to have you. You've been really patient with her.
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• Philippines
15 Apr 16
Yes. But lately, I'm feeling like losing my patient. And I needed some tap and push so I would be able to continue encouraging and helping her.
@LdeL0318 (6498)
• Philippines
15 Apr 16
@zaga_cleuth yeah, we're only humans. That's normal.
• Philippines
15 Apr 16
@LdeL0318 Thanks. Maybe I should start acting like one.
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@Teep11 (6445)
• United States
11 Apr 16
It sounds as if you have a lot of patience. A real friend will try their best to be there for their friend through their difficulties and all but I hope whoever your friend is gets better and is more positive.
• Philippines
15 Apr 16
How to make them positive? Sometimes, what I thought as positive encouragement, feels like a stone hit on her face. Its quite hard lately.
@IreneVincent (15181)
• United States
11 Apr 16
I used to have someone like that when I was a manager and she was on my TEAM, but I retired and do not have to deal with her anymore. She was an unhappy person and it seemed that she wanted others to be unhappy too.
• Philippines
15 Apr 16
Maybe that's the reason why. My friend is unhappy. His mom and dad got separated. And so, what's left with her is younger brother and mom. But she never spoke like a daughter to her mom. They always fight. Because when she was a kid, she used to live with her grandma and grandpa. A spoiled brat. However, I can see her unhappiness. If I'll not ask her to go out, like play sports or eat out, she will not get out of her room. Not only to eat and pea. There are times, when I couldn't understand her anymore. But I'm still trying to.
@kspanuga (43)
• Olongapo, Philippines
11 Apr 16
You're so nice. But pls be reminded to check if its getting toxic being with her.. Not good for you in the long run..
• Philippines
15 Apr 16
Honestly, lately,I felt that. I feel like I'm stagnant, helping her. And it feels like, "Did I make the right choice?" But, whenever I feel like leaving her, or dumping her, my conscience will say, if not you, who will? So I'm caught in the middle of confusion.
11 Apr 16
Well, it`s kinda weird. But for me, if you`re a true friend you would not give him/her sweet lies.
• Philippines
15 Apr 16
I'm not giving her sweet lies. That's why, I feel like hurting her most of the time. Because I'm so frank and I tell her what I observed.
@louievill (16230)
• Philippines
11 Apr 16
people who are hard to deal with are sometimes better left alone for the meantime. That would help them discover themselves.
• Philippines
15 Apr 16
She was left alone for long. Her mom and dad were separated and she was left to be taken care of by grandpa and grandma during her gradeschool days. And now that shes with her mom and younger brother, she's hard to deal with by almost everyone.
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