Green Bay, Wisconsin
April 11, 2016 9:05am CST
I've never been part of this process. When Mom died, I was in the nursing home with a broken leg so it fell completely on my sister's shoulders. Now, we're meeting together this morning at the funeral home to make the final arrangements for my father. I want to be part of this process, though I know it will be a hard step, but a vital one as we lay our father to rest. I will be leaving here shortly. I have the directions printed out so I shouldn't get lost since I need to go to another city, one I'm not at all familiar with, to meet with my sister and brother. When we're young and carefree we never think about the final arrangements we need to make in life. We never think about death or dying. We have this unrealistic view that our parents and grandparents will live and not die. And then reality sets in and we are faced with the task of final arrangements. It will be done one day for me and for you. Are you prepared for those final arrangements? Thanks for reading.
22 people like this
12 Apr 16
may your father rest in peace. yes it is hard to make final arrangements most especially if you live with your parents. it was hard for us when my mother left, and i accompanied her to the hospital, and decided to stop the pumping of the AMBU bag when i thought her eyes were fixed and pupils were dilated. it is hard too sleeping in my mother's bed and I can still smell her perfume, but life must go on. I am happy they are now together in heaven and watching over us
• United States
11 Apr 16
We went last fall with Mike's mom to make their arrangements. She didn't want it to fall on our shoulders. I went when a family friend passed and helped with his. I wanted to be there for my Dad's but until we arrived my step mom took care of everything. We asked her to wait until we got there, we lived about 8 hours away my brother about 10 hours away. My brother and I had no say so about anything. That still hurts to this day, it will be 10 years this Oct. since he passed. Prayers for you and your family in the days ahead. Have a blessed afternoon
• Pensacola, Florida
11 Apr 16
I don't hardly anyone is prepared for this especially when doing for for a family member. My sister took car of Mom and Dad[s when they passed. I also know of some who have their furneral already planned and paid for when the time comes
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 16
I never realized all that went into it. When my son asked me how long I would be gone because he had to work today, I figured no more than an hour tops. I think it took us three hours to get through everything involved.