Is it more important to be liked or respected?

By Jen
@polyxena (2576)
Sturgis, Michigan
April 12, 2016 12:44pm CST
I figured as a newbie to this site. I'd work a bit on deep philosophical thoughts (at least for the next week or so). I as a writer need a new drive and a new push so I figured, why not have people behind me. Today's question Is it more important to be liked or respected? As much as I'd welcome to be liked, people can still like you and disrespect you. It's the way things work. I would want to be respected. Things get done quicker and more efficiently if people respected you. Sure sure, I go back to being liked, but even though I'm not liked (or whatever) I am not being spit upon and being called a milky-eyed cur.
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11 responses
@besweet (7230)
• Greece
12 Apr 16
I also think it's more important to be respected. Respect is earned, and it has to do with the person's character. I don't support respect coming by fear though, I am thinking about the respect earned with the person's qualities and life achievements.
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• United States
13 Apr 16
That was very well put. The best form of respect is when you don't try to command it but it is a reflection of what people see about you.
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@besweet (7230)
• Greece
14 Apr 16
@desertdawg The kind of respect that comes from fear is forced in my opinion and doesn't last long. I think that the positive respect is correlated with admiration and it's a great feeling to respect someone because you admire them.
• Jacksonville, Florida
12 Apr 16
I would rather have respect but the problem with me is I am liked because I am kind and soft spoken. I am not respected by some because it's pretty easy to walk all over me. I am okay with who I am though, not really worried about my social status.
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@miniam (9241)
• Bern, Switzerland
12 Apr 16
To me it`s like me or hate me,just don't step on my feet .Still don't like me? then find a way to tolerate me because im not going anywhere because of you. But if i had to choose, I prefer to be respected than liked
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• Westland, Michigan
12 Apr 16
100% feel that it is more important to be respected than liked.
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@Hate2Iron (7859)
• Canada
12 Apr 16
As a teen, I would have said liked... now respected!!
@polyxena (2576)
• Sturgis, Michigan
12 Apr 16
I think it's pretty common as a teenager to be liked rather than respected. I was just thinking about that when I thought things through, "Did I really I want to be respected as a teen?" It would be interesting to ask a group of teenagers this exact question.
@maezee (32260)
• United States
12 Apr 16
Great question! I also feel like there is a monumental difference. Like when I used to be a supervisor I know that people did not always like me (such is common in being the boss) but i hope they respected me. Welcome to MyLot by the way!
@cherriefic (4692)
• Baguio, Philippines
12 Apr 16
Respect is one thing I would always want to have anywhere. That's more important than being liked.
@cupkitties (7174)
• United States
12 Apr 16
How can you like somebody without respecting them? I don't see how that's even possible. Those two things should go hand in hand.
@quantum2020 (9227)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
12 Apr 16
Being respected is one step from being liked as someone who is admired for his/her lifestyle and decision taking!
@JohnRoberts (56843)
• Los Angeles, California
12 Apr 16
It is easier to be liked than respected.
• India
12 Apr 16
i respect my dad, a few more family members and friends. I can actually count them on my finger tips, on the other hand i actually cant count how many people i like int his world. i like few hollywood actors few singers... so definitely for me respect is bigger or rather more important that being liked. thank you for bringing up such a nice topic Jennifer.