If I was an adopted child ...

Some adopted children are in no hurry to look for their biological parents. There are a few families here who adopt children from developing countries. The children are now teenagers, and they are not that keen to look for their parents. I think the lifestyle is so different that the children who are here do not want to go back to developing country.

Yes, I have the same opinion with you, if I was an adopted child, I will looking for my biological parents. If I adopted a child, when he/she was adult, I will tell the truth. Because, I believe children have deep emotional relationship with those who raising them. Although they know who is their biological parents, they will feel comfort live with parents who taking care for tens years. What do you think about my opinion?

I'm not adopted, but I can understand why some people, who are adopted, want to look for their biological parents. However, I can understand not wanting to know. I knew a girl in university who was adopted. Growing up, she did want to look for her biological parents, but when she turned 18, she just changed her mind. She was happy with the parents she had, and that was good enough for her. So, I can understand both sides. Some people want to know, others are happy with the parents who adopted them, and prefer to leave things as they are.

Maybe, if my adopted parents were horrible. Or unless I ended up with some horrible genetic condition and needed a family history for some reason. Otherwise I would feel no need to seek them out if I had a loving family. People have their own reasons for giving up their children, but there are also ways to find adoptive parents and still be a part of your childs life if you want to. (eg..if you cant 'afford' to raise your child a family member can adopt them and you can still know them as was the case with my husbands sister who is actually his cousin) Some people might be happy to be reunited with a child they gave up for adoption when they were so much younger, but at the same time if you go looking for people who gave you up as a child you are setting yourself up for heartbreak if they still do not want you as a part of their lives. Plus...it has to be painful for loving adoptive parents. These people who have loved and raised someone as their own, tell them that they are adopted and then all of a sudden they go on a quest to find their "real" parents. No matter how supportive they are it would have to make them feel as "less than" in their adoptive childrens eyes. They might have raised this person from a baby to adulthood and now they are suddently being referred to as "my adopted mother" as opposed to just being "my mother" and this stranger in everyones lives is suddenly being called "my real mother."

Yes , i would too , i have known that i am an adopted one . I have to know who my real parents are . But if i didn't know about it , then it's okay .

Assuming a biological parent doesn't have to be hunted down because the adopted child has a medical condition and needs to find a compatible donor to treat their illness (not an uncommon scenario) … I think when an adopted child become an adult, they should be told. Some people tell their children right from the start. It's their decision. Just as it is the decision for a person to look for their biological parents. Some people can go on with their lives, never seeking, never knowing, and be content. For others, they need closure. They need to know if giving them up was an act of unselfish love or simply a matter of selfish convenience. I'm not adopted. (That's what I was told.) But as for me, watching that TV program with Henry Louis Gates Jr., where he traces the person's ancestry … makes me very curious about not just my parentage, but my bloodline and heritage, and the people who are the reason that I exist.

My daughter in law was adopted. Her parents helped her find her bio mom. Later that parent became controlling and a trouble maker. The same issues that made her not fit as a parent of an infant made her unfit as a parent of an adult. However, my daughter in law had the satisfaction of learning that for herself.

If I am well fostered I probably won't.

if i were an adopted child,ofcourse i will look for my biological parents and ask them why i became adopted thats all

No. To be fair to the people who adopted and brought me up, I won't look for my biological parents. I don't want to hurt my adopters in any way. It's enough that I know that I'm an adopted child. Yes, I would inform my child. As to helping him search for the missing link, I have to ask him if he still wants to search his biologicial parents. If says yes, then I'll help me. If he says no, I won't insist.