Going Through the Motions

@just4him (120560)
Green Bay, Wisconsin
April 13, 2016 12:33pm CST
I just read a post that reminded me that life really does go on. While she was having fun on Sunday, I was going through loss. Since Sunday I've been just going through the motions of living. I get up, get dressed, do what I'm supposed to, and hope that this lethargic feeling will go away. I didn't want to get out of bed this morning. I just lay there for a long time. I know I have AWANA tonight, another proof that life goes on, and I hope those kids interject some life in me. In the mean time I'm doing what I can and hope that I come out of this fog soon. Thanks for reading. I hope you're having a great day.
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@Jessicalynnt (47895)
• Centralia, Missouri
13 Apr 16
dont rush yourself, grief has a right to be felt too.
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@just4him (120560)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Apr 16
I know. I went through a grief class when my brother passed two years ago. I just didn't expect what I'm feeling now.
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• Centralia, Missouri
14 Apr 16
@just4him some hit us different for different reasons. I might suggest adopting an Eldar, at church or a local nursing/retirement home, if and when you are ever ready.
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@Dena91 (4389)
• United States
13 Apr 16
It will be 10 years in Oct. since my Dad passed and there are still days that I have to motivate myself to get up and go on about life. It is difficult to know what will trigger those foggy days, whether it be a holiday, birthday, memory, dream. This is a tough month for me. Dad's birthday is the 27th and the 30th my Pop Pop passed 6 years ago. A lot of memories and thoughts of them fill my waking time. We never stop mourning we just try and adjust to living without our loved ones. Praying for you in the days ahead.
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@just4him (120560)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Apr 16
Thank you very much.
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@Inlemay (16679)
• South Africa
14 Apr 16
the fog will be there for a while - however we know that you have fog-glasses and will see your way through - be strong Valarie and lots of hugs
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@Inlemay (16679)
• South Africa
15 Apr 16
@just4him I am pleased to hear all went well
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@just4him (120560)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
15 Apr 16
@Inlemay Thank you. I leave shortly for the last segment in this drama - Dad's entombment. Then a new chapter in my life will start.
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@Inlemay (16679)
• South Africa
15 Apr 16
@just4him yes and I wish you a brave journey forward - you as I am too, are now an orphan - a child without any living parents.
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@CRK109 (14459)
• United States
14 Apr 16
Everyone grieves in their own time. I've been told the worst thing we can do is try to rush ourselves through it. Most times, I consider it my secret pain because no one sees me cry or sees the anguish on my face on my really bad days. I let it all out in private. But dear friends will want to help. And of course, God is there to help with all of our problems. Please let me know if there's anything I can do for you.
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@just4him (120560)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Apr 16
I'm actually doing okay. Tomorrow will be the worst of the week.
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@CRK109 (14459)
• United States
14 Apr 16
@just4him I know You're in my prayers through all of this, Valerie. xoxo
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@just4him (120560)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
15 Apr 16
@CRK109 Today went well. I am glad it's over. Thanks for your prayers.
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@Marcyaz (35650)
• United States
13 Apr 16
Valerie it will take a while for the fog to life and then will somehow go back to being normal. Hope you are having a better day.
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@just4him (120560)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Apr 16
It was good to be with the kids tonight. That really helped.
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@Marcyaz (35650)
• United States
14 Apr 16
@just4him Yes being with family especially kids helps a lot. Thinking and praying for you and your family today.
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@just4him (120560)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
15 Apr 16
@Marcyaz Thank you. It was a good day. Not a large crowd, but a good one, mostly relatives and a few close friends of the family.
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@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
13 Apr 16
I've been in the same 'funk' for more than a month now. I've been trying to do a few things to jump start my mood like getting back to myLot, trying to joh/run everyday, burying my head with work, etc. But in reality, I'm also just going thru the motions. I too hope to get out of this fog soon.
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@just4him (120560)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Apr 16
I hope you do too. I'm not usually here. Did you also lose a loved one recently?
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
14 Apr 16
@just4him Not really, but I'm about to face a losing battle.
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@just4him (120560)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Apr 16
@bounce58 I'm sorry. That sounds ominous.
@Drosophila (16705)
• Ireland
13 Apr 16
I hope AWANA is just thing for you :)
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@just4him (120560)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Apr 16
It was good. Those kids are a ball of energy.
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@Drosophila (16705)
• Ireland
14 Apr 16
@just4him always good to have that :D
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@sugartoes (41248)
• Greencastle, Indiana
15 Apr 16
I get that way at time not very often but at times I just want to lay in bed for the day & let the day pass me by BUT I know I can't cause I have things to get done, now that it's trying to warm up FINALLY I can get outside & get some things done
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@just4him (120560)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
15 Apr 16
This is one of those posts I was reacting to the news about my father.
@Susan2015 (21059)
• United States
13 Apr 16
It will just take some time. You will get rid of the fog you are in.
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@just4him (120560)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Apr 16
I know it will go away, I just want it gone now.
@Elizaby (3695)
• Pensacola, Florida
13 Apr 16
It will take time as you are going through the griefing process and there is light at the end of this tunnel
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@just4him (120560)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Apr 16
I know, but right now that light is dim.