That’s It, Find Something Negative

Otis Orchards, Washington
April 16, 2016 1:30pm CST
Last night I was talking to one of my friends on the phone. I told him I was thinking about signing up on a site where freelancers can get jobs. I let my friend listen to a TED talk about the site. As soon as the talk was over the first thing my friend said was, “Don’t you see a problem? That person is naive. This isn’t going to create jobs. It’s going to drive million of people out of work.” My first thought was, “That’s it, find something negative about it.” I’ve known this friend since the fourth grade. He wasn’t always full of negativeness. I really don’t know when it started but I think it started somewhat slowly a few years out of high school. One day he talked about one or two negative things. Then it just kept building. Now it’s to the point where I can’t say anything without him saying something negative about it. If I won a million dollars my friend would probably say, “You know almost half of that money is going to taxes, so you didn’t win a million dollars.” Yes, I know a good sum is going to taxes, but instead of the negative, what can’t he say, “Congratulations! I’m happy for you.” I learned there is no reasoning with him. He’ll just counter with more negativeness. So I just let him talk with it going in one ear and out the other. No jobs, robots, worthless money, sunspots, no electricity, everything going awry. Those are some of the things I heard him say. I gathered robots are going to take over the world then there will be no jobs and money will be worthless. What sunspots, no electricity and everything going awry has to do with it, I don’t know. I soon made an excuse that I had to go and hung up. It was time for some positive thinking.
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@Rohvannyn (3117)
• United States
16 Apr 16
Is he really being negative, or is he trying to solve problems ahead of time? It could be that he had a nasty wake up call at some point. However, if he's that bad to be around, why do you still consider him a friend? If you told him that his negativity makes you not want to be around him, and that a positive, solution oriented mindset helps him be prepared just as well, it might make a difference.
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• Otis Orchards, Washington
16 Apr 16
I think he thinks it's more solving problems ahead of time and he doesn't see it as something negative but positive. Do you have any friends you've been friends with since the 4th grade? It pretty hard to tell him to just bug off. It's not like I talk to him everyday. He has actually been a good friend and has helped me out of some bad scrapes in the past. And if he ever found himself in a bad situation and I could help, I would most defiantly help.
• Jacksonville, Florida
16 Apr 16
Some people are just like that and it does get old really fast! Maybe he has struggled a lot and he is now bitter. I have been there before-until positive things started to make me change my thinking for the better. I hope he can get out of that negative slump eventually.
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• Otis Orchards, Washington
16 Apr 16
I once asked him why he was so negative. He said, "I don't look at it as being negative because it keeps my mind working on problem solving. If such and such happens, what am I going to do to solve it or stay safe?" But you're right. It does get old fast.
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@jahunt (1389)
• United States
17 Apr 16
I don't blame you. Negative people just seem to bring you down. I know a few people like that too!
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• Otis Orchards, Washington
17 Apr 16
I've know this friend since the 4th grade (about 50 years–there I go telling you my age) so it's hard to tell him to just bug off.
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@jahunt (1389)
• United States
17 Apr 16
@RichardMeister Yes, I can understand that. Maybe you can subtly hint to him he shouldn't always be so negative?
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• Otis Orchards, Washington
17 Apr 16
@jahunt I tried that once and he said something like, "If you saw a man standing on the tracks and a train was coming wouldn't you warn him to get off the tracks?" He looks at his negativity as warnings. If I won a million dollars then he would just be warning me to not expect a million dollars because a good sum would be going to taxes. You get the picture. It just gets old after while.
@jennyjoy (1966)
• Bangalore, India
14 Sep 16
I have faced similar situations. We should start a movement were all we do is encourage each other
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• Otis Orchards, Washington
14 Sep 16
That would be a good idea.
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@jennyjoy (1966)
• Bangalore, India
16 Sep 16
@RichardMeister I think some people are born with that negative streak in them.(I'm sounding negative now).A person close to me has this aura of negativity around them.He immediately looks for reasons not to do things.I have been trying to change this attitude. On a lighter note, I suggested he write a book on reasons why we shouldn't do stuff and I 'm sure he'll come with at least a thousand.
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@cindiowens (4476)
• North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina
16 Apr 16
Negativity breeds more negativity. Good thing you hung up and didn't get caught up in his web.
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• Otis Orchards, Washington
16 Apr 16
Yes, I try not to get wrapped up in his negativity.
@JudyEv (136723)
• Bunbury, Australia
21 Apr 16
Some people are like this, aren't they? They seem unable to find anything good in anything. They are not the best people to be around as they drag you down too if you're not careful. But it sounds like you're a wake-up to his negativity.
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@much2say (40457)
• United States
18 Apr 16
Oh, is this Chicken Little or a different Chicken Little? Currently our grown up niece is the biggest Negative Nelly that we know. But she is negative in a different way - she's more like Debbie Downer. It seems she sees everything from a "sad" perspective. Things that are normally "nice" to most people stir up "sad" memories for her - and then she brings everyone down with her stories. It's like you said, you're better off letting it go one ear and out the other - they will keep rattling on with their negative stories no matter what you say.
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@Mike197602 (13927)
• United Kingdom
16 Apr 16
Sounds like one of those emotional vampires that suck the positivity out of anything.
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@sallypup (29256)
• Moses Lake, Washington
16 Apr 16
He sounds like quite a guy.
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@jaboUK (55201)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 16
Being in the company of someone like that would soon bring you down.