Our longstanding online contacts

@allknowing (130066)
India
April 21, 2016 11:33pm CST
There is an element of informality when we interact with our online contacts that we get to know at sites such as myLot and others. We come quite close and some even open a wee bit of their personal life. Sadly however the moment we decide to leave the site or the site closes, the contact snaps instantly. Despite exchanging emails and even being friends on FB the closeness disappears. A sad situation but face we must. This takes me to a scene at my office that I had visited after I resigned from there. The watchman who used to stand and salute pushed a visitor's register for me to sign before I walked in. I was there for 22 years and overnight I became a stranger there.
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@TheHorse (205716)
• Walnut Creek, California
22 Apr 16
Why was he suddenly required to do that?
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
22 Apr 16
All big companies have a rule for non employees to sign a register.before getting in. They also have to inform who they wish to see.
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
22 Apr 16
@allknowing We can only say,''Life is like that''.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
23 Apr 16
Online interactions mostly have a reward attached to them.
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@kaka135 (14916)
• Malaysia
22 Apr 16
But did he greet you as a "friend" while passing your the visitor registration form? It can be quite sad when being treated as a stranger. Sometimes I feel that as well.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
22 Apr 16
I did not notice that
@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
22 Apr 16
It is strange how quick you can be forgotten but that is how things are. I have belonged to sites that have closed and even though some of us would email it seemed to come to an end after a time, I guess out of sight out of mind.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
22 Apr 16
It is the everyday interaction that keeps us connected and that's it. And more because it pays us.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Apr 16
Since you worked there for 22 years you knew well about the formalities there. He just did his duty. However, in online sites we don't want to keep any formalities
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
22 Apr 16
It is not the question of not knowing the formalities but here emotions were involved.
@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Apr 16
So sad to think but that's life, I think that guard recognized you but he's only doing his job.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
22 Apr 16
How could he not recognise me? It was just the next day (lol)
@Shavkat (137215)
• Philippines
22 Apr 16
I also experienced this in my former company. It was disappointing. They treated if I was not belonged there before.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
22 Apr 16
And that happens overnight
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
22 Apr 16
It is true but friendships can be. Maintained I have proven that over 30 years.It just take s more effort.
@allknowing (130066)
• India
23 Apr 16
Friendships in the real world are there to stay. I too have many in my life. I am talking of those we encounter in our online interactions such as here which do not last long once a site closes or we move on.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
25 Apr 16
@BelleStarr I did that with only one. She visited me all the way from the UK
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
25 Apr 16
@allknowing I have converted some friendships from the Internet to real life!!
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@sol_cee (38223)
• Philippines
22 Apr 16
I think the watchman was just doing his job. But deep inside he was glad to see you drop by.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
22 Apr 16
I am aware of that. But deep inside me I was not happy with the situation
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@KnehKnah (3584)
• Philippines
22 Apr 16
The scenario cited are really sad. If only separation does not severe ties. Hay...
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@JudyEv (325759)
• Rockingham, Australia
22 Apr 16
It's a bit sad but also understandable. The regulations are there for a good reason. I have to check in when I volunteer at a school but it is so that if there is an emergency they know how many people are in the area.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
23 Apr 16
I have been a part of making those regulations but that scenario I am referring to was not expected though as you say was normal.
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@AnneEJ (4917)
• Dollard-Des-Ormeaux, Quebec
22 Apr 16
I remember going back to my place of work after I had retired, and I just did not feel comfortable. People soon forget you. It is nice that a lot of the people we knew on other sites, are on this one now, so we can still keep in touch.
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