Is it wrong to argue with your elders?

April 23, 2016 4:34am CST
I can see people here from different countries. I would just like to know, in your country and culture, is it wrong to argue with elders, even if they are wrong? Thanks in advance for your response.
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@kiran8 (15354)
• Mangalore, India
23 Apr 16
It depends on the culture. In India youngsters hesitate to even speak loudly in front of elders in some regions. However, personally I feel that we have to respect age and wisdom but try to reason with them when they are wrong, nothing wrong with that. If the person is really wise I am sure he or she would see reason and try to adapt and learn, correct their mistakes. I argue with my mother and my children argue with me when they feel I am not right.I think you need to accept criticism from your family for your own good..
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23 Apr 16
Thanks for sharing your experience, and your culure :)
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@kiran8 (15354)
• Mangalore, India
24 Apr 16
@aeadams24 How about you ? please do let us know how it is with your culture
@toniganzon (53187)
• Philippines
23 Apr 16
IN this country, yes. It's wrong to argue with elders even though they are wrong.
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23 Apr 16
Agree. :)
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@jaboUK (54867)
• United Kingdom
23 Apr 16
Being older doesn't necessarily mean wiser. If your opinion is different from their's you have the right to express it, respectfully of course. You should have given your own opinion on this in your post
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23 Apr 16
I agree with you. In our culture, arguing with the elders is not that it's wrong, it's more like disrespecting when arguing with them. My mother used to say, stop arguing with the elders or you will be punished. When I was a kid, I used to think that people who are a lot older than me, are always right. But then, when I got older, I realized that older people are not always right. Still we should respect them even if they are not right.
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@MALUSE (42606)
• Germany
23 Apr 16
I'm with Jabo here. I wonder why you don't tell us in which country you live. 'in our culture' doesn't tell us much, does it?
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23 Apr 16
@MALUSE I'm sorry to not mention. I am from the Philippines.
@Shavkat (65004)
• Philippines
23 Apr 16
I think there is nothing wrong to argue with the elders. But then, it should be done in good manners. It is good venue to discuss family matters.
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23 Apr 16
Yes, I agree. A respectful argument is one instrument that strengthens the bond between individuals.
@kiran8 (15354)
• Mangalore, India
23 Apr 16
No doubt relationships are important and this fact should be respected by all concerned. If one person has to bend all the time, it becomes a sham. When a older person is judgmental and unbending , there is bound to be friction..
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23 Apr 16
@kiran8 i agree. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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• United States
23 Apr 16
I think it depends on the people. It isn't respectful to argue with your elders, but in some circumstances, it is acceptable. Let me clarify by giving an example. My grandmother loves to argue, it makes her happy. It isn't the most respectful thing to do, but as long as you aren't disrespectful of her opinions etc, it isn't really considered bad. Now this is in my family, and not a cultural thing. I think different cultures treat their elders in different ways but I also think different generations treat their elders in different ways.
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23 Apr 16
Thanks for a very nice and response. It's interesting to know that about your grandmother. Yes, I agree with the respecting of opinions and arguing in a healthy way. In any way, I can see that our grandparents love us so much that is why they love arguing with us. They want us to learn and have a healthy mind..
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@toniganzon (53187)
• Philippines
23 Apr 16
I know in South Korea it's never acceptable. And in my country, it's not acceptable too. It's always considered a sign of disrespect when we argue with our elders no matter how wrong we are, we just have to keep mum about it.
• United States
23 Apr 16
@aeadams24 I think it also has to do with the relationship that the elder has to the person. Some grandparents raise their own grandchildren, and so the grandchildren see their grandparents as their parents. I don't think that parents are "elders" so to speak.
@gullver (544)
• Egypt
23 Apr 16
In my culture there is no problem to argue or talk to elders , it's normal , or you mean by "argue" using sharp words in speech ?!
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23 Apr 16
Not that kind of argue. It's the sharing of different opinions. a debate more likely.
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@gullver (544)
• Egypt
23 Apr 16
@aeadams24 It's allowed but there is a condition which is mentality , elders can share opinion with youth but youth or elders can not argue with children or non adults
24 Apr 16
@gullver thanks for sharing your thoughts. May I know what country are you from?
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@AkamaruKei (5218)
• Malaysia
23 Apr 16
At my country it is very rude if argue with elders even if they wrong. If they wrong we should talk nicely to explain to them. If they still cant accept better just silent.
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24 Apr 16
Thanks for sharing. May I know what country are you from? :)
• Malaysia
24 Apr 16
@aeadams24 I from Malaysia.
@akalinus (19953)
• United States
23 Apr 16
Don't argue with your elders. They will not be here forever and you don't want to create a lot of bad feelings that you will regret the rest of your life. it is just better to thank them for advice and go ahead and do what you need to do. A little humor goes a long way, too.
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23 Apr 16
Thanks for the advice :)
@akalinus (19953)
• United States
23 Apr 16
@aeadams24 That is just what I do. I am not an expert on anything. A little kindness goes a long way.
@miniam (9235)
• Bern, Switzerland
23 Apr 16
i could never urgue with my parents, it was what mum said was final, no compromise and no excuse.
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23 Apr 16
Thanks for sharing. :)
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@grvdubey11 (1882)
• India
23 Apr 16
Its nothing wrong in arguing ,discussing or correcting anyone, elder or junior, its just that it should be done respectfully in a civilized manner.
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23 Apr 16
I agree. An argument with elders should be healthy and not a stressful one.
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@Daljinder (22072)
• India
23 Apr 16
Arguing is wrong but reasoning is not. Remain respectful and maintain your stand.
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@MGjhaud (20682)
• Philippines
23 Apr 16
if an elder is a hypocrite, would you dislike that person and argue if challenged?
23 Apr 16
I think, elder or young, I won't argue with them. Even if challenged, They're not worthy of my time. :)
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@MGjhaud (20682)
• Philippines
24 Apr 16
thanks Hanna.
@shivamani10 (11200)
• Hyderabad, India
23 Jun 16
No. there is nothing wrong in it. But, argue with respect. That is what we need.
21 May 16
Yes, it is wrong. There can be differences. But the different point of view should be placed before elders politely. There should not be rough manner of interaction.
• Austin, Texas
24 Apr 16
It's never wrong to tell somebody that they are wrong. It's wrong if you don't tell them. Can you tell them without arguing? Probably. Can you speak to them respectfully and with honor and still stand your ground? Yes. Do you think old people got old because they thought they knew everything and that nobody could tell them anything?
@maezee (32963)
• United States
23 Apr 16
Our culture (US) I feel generally you do not talk back to elders. But i know a LOT of people that do even myself sometimes -as just because people are older doesnt mean they are right or should disrespect other people. Ha.
• Bucharest, Romania
23 Apr 16
From a "Politically Correct" perspective it is wrong in our culture to argue with elders. From a rational perspective it is not wrong to do it if what the elders did is incorrect,