Feeling down and upset
By UpbeatRae
@carebear29 (31961)
Wausau, Wisconsin
April 30, 2016 3:48pm CST
So I got out of the house and went to the mall for a little bit even though it is a bit chilly outside. But the reason I am feeling down is because my husband decided last night to go with my ex friend to Milwaukee to look at a truck but supposedly the guy never showed up so he ended up staying there all night and is still gone. It has been almost 15 hours and no phone call from him but he has been texting very little. I honestly feel like there is something going on between them but he swears there isn't.
How am I supposed to believe that? No pictures, no calls, and very little texting?! Like really? He has trust issues with me being around guys but its okay for him to be around any girls especially that their single to top it off. He thinks I was okay with it but in reality I am not happy. He talks to her and jumps for her more than he does for me. I don't know what to do. I am close to packing up me and my son and just leaving somewhere but I keep giving him the benefit of the doubt. Him doing things like this is not working out our marriage that is failing. I love him to death but he needs to get his crap together. I am fed up with it.
Sorry I needed to vent because I don't trust anyone in person most of the time. Our marriage is back on the rocks again after we just started working things back out and now it is very frustrating. 
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
30 Apr 16
We have but he keeps saying business is business.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
1 May 16
@carebear29 what the hell does business have to do with him being palsy walsy with another woman yet afraid you will stray monkey business? havinga mistress? shame
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Apr 16
@carebear29 shame on him he has to care does not he nderstand how that makes you feel I s ure do
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
30 Apr 16
I have and it seems like he don't care. Keeps saying its for business.
@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
@Hatley I just hope things are better when we move
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
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1 May 16
I'm going to say the say as Jabo below, it' time to get out from what I've read on your posts. You shouldn't have to be going through that.
Look after yourself.
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
I know. I have a 4 year old son to worry about too. I will figure things out.
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
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1 May 16
@carebear29 I know you do and I hope you can figure something out.
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@rona07 (1641)
• Philippines
1 May 16
@carebear29 hope you really will figure things out. Godbless..
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Apr 16
I am so sorry that your going through this. =( I really hope things get better soon. Him not texting or calling is really unfair and not showing you love at all.
I left my husband a few years ago because he wasn't treating me right at the time. It opened his eyes real quick and he's never treated me like that ever again. Just a thought-doesn't have to be forever-just a little while until he respects you again.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 May 16
@carebear29 Did he give you any kind of explanation at all?
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
I really hope so too. I even told him today he was lucky I just didn't up and leave. I now am going to be giving him the cold shoulder like I did if he does it again.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
1 May 16
This is sad really l don't want to imagine my husband going away with another woman to look at a car or whatever, if he had to take a woman why not you?
You need to do some serious talking, don't shout,don't make threats,be cool and really talk try to find out what he thinks.No you are not ok with him going away and no calls,who does he think you are a little girl to be pleased with some cheap excuses?
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
I am. He has one month left to straighten out. He always has an excuse.
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
@miniam Yes. He already hates I stand up for myself.
@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
1 May 16
@carebear29
You have to know if you want to put up with it or if you deserve to be respected by him.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
30 Apr 16
Neither of you trusts the other, why? What kind of business is he in that requires him to go away with another woman to look at a truck? I am glad this is a safe place for you, but there needs to be trust for a relationship to survive and no game playing.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
1 May 16
@carebear29 odd;y en sho trust few do so because they lknow they like to play ganmes with other women while married. I actually think Jabo has a point there
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
Thats what I told him. If he can hang around girls, why can't I hang around guys. He only trusts very few
@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
@Hatley I know but the major talk is coming as soon as he moves his demo cars today
@kaka135 (14916)
• Malaysia
1 May 16
I am sorry to hear that. Is your husband back by now? I just can't imagine how upset you were when he was away and without calling you much.
I still think it's good to have a serious talk to him, tell him how unhappy you are when he's with another girl, etc. Though he keeps mentioning that's for business, if the business would ruin your marriage, does he still want to keep that business?
I really hope this will be settled very soon. Yes, we all are always here, and you won't be alone. 
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@kaka135 (14916)
• Malaysia
1 May 16
@carebear29 Hope two of you can sit down and talk about all the issues you have calmly and nicely, and try to find a solution to them. Praying for you. 
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
@kaka135 He thinks things will be a lot better when we move which I sure hope so.
@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
Yeah. He has been back for 3 hours now. He has one more month yet to straighten out
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@shaggin (71664)
• United States
30 Apr 16
It does sound to me like something is going on with them. I hope though for your sake though that it isn't the case. I can only imagine based on my experiences how terrible you must be feeling. Him not coming home and texting very little shows very little concern for your feelings. I went through a very similar situation a few weeks ago. It helps a lot to be able to come here and talk about it since in person we can't talk to many people about how we are feeling. I am so sorry you are having to go through this.
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@shaggin (71664)
• United States
1 May 16
@carebear29 I'm glad you told him how you felt. I hope it truly won't happen again. I can't even stick up for myself enough anymore to tell my man how upset he makes me. I just made a post about going to see his new place today. I should just tell him how I feel and end it but I just never can do what I should do.
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
I really got into it with him when he got home. He didn't like it but said it would never happen again.
@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
2 May 16
@shaggin I do try to tell him but I think he hears what he wants.
@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
30 Apr 16
Love cannot live without trust. It is better to talk him seriously about things bothering you. Cut off all the negative thinking you have in your mind. Women do a lot of thinking sometimes that lead to depression. Try to go outside with your son or mingle with your friends. How about going on a vacation? I hope this helps.
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
1 May 16
@carebear29 I hope you will feel better soon.
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
Thanks for the support. Talking to people on here helps too.
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@rona07 (1641)
• Philippines
1 May 16
I think you both need to talk. You need to make him understand that what he is doing is not okay. That you are uncomfortable to him being close to that woman and that it is destroying your trust in him. I hope you both will work it out. Just hang in there.
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@rona07 (1641)
• Philippines
1 May 16
@carebear29 ohhh good luck really, ill pray that it will be settled. And if he still won't change his way, sorry to say hun its time to teach him his lesson. Like what my mom did to dad.
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
2 May 16
@rona07 I am really starting to agree with you there.
@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
I wish he would listen. He even came home broke last night and asking to borrow money from his sons ssi but I wouldn't do it.
@quantum2020 (12040)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
30 Apr 16
Hope everything comes to normal in your life!
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@quantum2020 (12040)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
30 Apr 16
@carebear29 I don recommend it. sometimes doubts stem from imagination and not from real source data. It’s better to take issues with calmness.
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
@quantum2020 I am being calm though but he just changes the subject a lot
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
30 Apr 16
I am thinking of playing the cold shoulder for a while on him.
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@jacksta1 (111)
• Indonesia
1 May 16
Build a harmonious family was not so difficult, but maintaining and keeping the harmonious relationship this very difficult. If the trust is not there already.
Every problem there is in building the household, but if we be honest and open with each other, the problem can be resolved by sitting together.
This if we have mutual trust, honest and open with each other.
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@teamfreak16 (43421)
• Denver, Colorado
30 Apr 16
Whichever way, I hope you get it worked out.
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
Me, too. I think moving will help
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