Oxford Student reduces waitress to tears!

@garymarsh6 (13204)
United Kingdom
May 2, 2016 7:58am CST
There is currently a young man who is studying law at Oxford university on a scholarship which is funding his education. He was lucky enough to win this prized place at one of the worlds most prestigious universities. He won one of Cecil Rhodes scholarships but has caused mayhem at Oxford calling Rhodes a racist and imperialist plus all kinds of things and demanding that they remove a statue of Rhodes at Oxford who funds these scholarships from a legacy he set up to support disadvantaged people. He had humiliated a young waitress by writing on his bill he would not tip her until you return the lands. The poor girl was reduced to tears as they were quite clearly mocking her. This so called bright student is inherently a bully towards others less fortunate than himself. He has brought Oxford into disrepute by his shameless behaviour. If those in charge of Oxford do not expel him now then they are condoning his bullying behaviour. So despite having one of the best educations in the world it seems that it does not make you a decent or respectful person to those less fortunate to yourself. Education does not necessarily bring you good manners or make you classy quite clearly.
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@marlina (71208)
• Canada
2 May 16
What a disgusting "educated" young man. Education doesn't you good manners.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
2 May 16
My grandmother always used to tell us " Manners Maketh the Man".
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@LadyDuck (146740)
• Switzerland
2 May 16
You are right Gary, people can have a good education but they can be rude and with very poor manners. This is clearly a demonstration.
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• United States
5 May 16
This example demonstrates even indoctrination into a religious paradigm with a profound academic curriculum still can be void of manners BECAUSE those my friends are taught, instilled, followed and accepted on the homefront of stable and happy parents teaching the old ways that their great-grandparents instilled into them, it is the one thing that really separates us from the animals . . . thanks anna and gary for further continuing a great discussion on ethics and respect
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
5 May 16
@enlightenedpsych2 Thank you for your wonderful response. I agree with what you say and I think most of us on this site will probably agree too.
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• United States
5 May 16
@garymarsh6 well thank you kindly
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@Lucky15 (33439)
• Philippines
2 May 16
He can be educated but he is also a heartless no manner man ;(
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
2 May 16
Very true. It just proves that he is ignorant and not a nice person.
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@Lucky15 (33439)
• Philippines
2 May 16
@garymarsh6 whatever he learn in schoo is just...sigh
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
2 May 16
@Lucky15 Manners are taught by your parents. He has turned into a nasty bully!
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@Asylum (48283)
• Manchester, England
2 May 16
If I was the owner of the establishment where the waitress worked he would not have any opportunity to tip her because he would never eat there again.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
2 May 16
I would gladly ban him but I much prefer the other answer which is expel him from Oxford and deport him!
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@Asylum (48283)
• Manchester, England
2 May 16
@garymarsh6 I would agree completely, but our government does not have a spine.
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3 May 16
@garymarsh6 Thats a bit much
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• United States
2 May 16
Neither does money or station in life. Good manners have to be taught. Character will out.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
2 May 16
Very true. I may be viewed as old fashioned but I still stand when a lady walks in the room or I am being introduced to someone! Some people do not these days!
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• United States
3 May 16
@garymarsh6 Which means that more people will respect and like you. Funny how that works.
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3 May 16
True
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@JohnRoberts (51910)
• Los Angeles, California
2 May 16
What a hypocrite! I understand his objections to Rhodes but if he truly believed in his convictions, then he would have refused the scholarship. What he did to the waitress is reprehensible. This student is symbolic of these liberals around the world screaming and making demands yet are nothing but angry bullies.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
2 May 16
Absolutely. You hit the nail right on the head!
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@topffer (33147)
• France
2 May 16
He did not received a good education at home, and it is not the fault of Oxford. I am in favor of merit-based scholarships, permitting a social mix in a college like Oxford, so I am not sure that he should be expelled for his behavior. But I would not offer him a job at the end of his studies.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
2 May 16
OK He can come to France! I am sure they would bend over backwards at the Sorbonne!
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@topffer (33147)
• France
2 May 16
@garymarsh6 In France, he would have troubles with the justice, and several associations would have already lodged a complaint against him. But he would not have any trouble with college authorities, a college being a place where anybody has the right to hold any opinion without interference : it is called "libertas academica", it exists since the 13th C here, and has been confirmed several times by laws and courts.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
2 May 16
@topffer Hopefully not if he is being racist I would hope the French were a little more enlightened!
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@shshiju (10273)
• Cochin, India
2 May 16
That's very bad . Bullying and racism should strictly stopped.
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3 May 16
I agree
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@shshiju (10273)
• Cochin, India
3 May 16
@MediciMoor What you think about that well educated man cause to change his mind .
@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
4 May 16
Probably trying to make a name for himself. He has certainly done that and will be despised by many. It will come back and bite him for sure in the future!
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@JudyEv (118536)
• Bunbury, Australia
2 May 16
I hadn't heard of this but I am aghast that he is treating the university and his scholarship in this way. Surely they will have to do something about him. What a bully and all-round horrible person.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
2 May 16
If I were home secretary I would have him removed as a 'persona non grata' that should be the outcome for this ghastly little twerp!
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@JudyEv (118536)
• Bunbury, Australia
3 May 16
@garymarsh6 Is this an ongoing saga? Or just something reported in the newspapers? Surely he won't be allowed to continue with at the very least a reprimand.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
4 May 16
@JudyEv NO this ungrateful guy has been causing trouble now for quite some time!
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• United States
2 May 16
Agreed to some extent as higher learning in an academic university setting introduced me into peer respect which enabled me to be more understanding of all around me who were as fortunate as I was for even attending a university at all
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
4 May 16
I used to get very annoyed at the Student Nurses and Doctors who used to treat the cleaners like they were something on the end of their shoes and I would pull them up asking them who did they think was the most important person on the ward. After they guessed I told them you are wrong it is the cleaner because if she does not do her job properly neither can you and we all fail the patients! I think a little humility does not harm anyone and hopefully opens their eyes!
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• United States
5 May 16
@garymarsh6 wonderful answer with a professional aura of compassion involved is a great way to appreciate all people involved in a team effort. I think society needs to hold higher the ones viewed as lower right now cause honestly they hold up those that cannot hold for themselves, a great honorable deed I enjoy observing in my field of work. Thanks for sharing your annoyance
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@celticeagle (117156)
• Boise, Idaho
2 May 16
No, that is supposed to come to you by family interaction and role modeling.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
2 May 16
Yes we knew our place when we were young. Just a look was sufficient.
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@celticeagle (117156)
• Boise, Idaho
2 May 16
@garymarsh6 ....That's right! My grandmother was a strict Baptist.
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@irishidid (8521)
• United States
2 May 16
Doesn't sound all that bright to me.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
2 May 16
Quite clearly. LOL..
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3 May 16
Smart poeple are usually socially akward.
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@Shavkat (56373)
• Philippines
2 May 16
Some people forget where they really come from. In some point, bright people lost their sanity because of too much self-esteem.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
2 May 16
Sounds like he deserves reminding about his roots!
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@marguicha (90195)
• Chile
2 May 16
I think that he should have a punishment. And not only because he has a scholarship but because he is mean and a bully.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
2 May 16
He certainly is a bully and bullies are cowards picking on those less fortunate.
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@artemeis (4018)
• China
3 May 16
I wonder what's the reputed institution's counter reaction to this ungrateful SOB? Well, so much about the ones that bite the hands that feed them and a great lesson about gratitude.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
4 May 16
Absolutely you are not wrong there!
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@artemeis (4018)
• China
7 May 16
@garymarsh6 Whatever happened to this bloke? What was the reaction of the university? Was he disciplined or he got away with murder here?
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
7 May 16
@artemeis The wheels of justice roll very slowly.
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@vandana7 (62278)
• India
2 May 16
In general, I have noticed a strange tendency. Suppose A has 1000 pounds, and B has 1100 ..B will try to harm A and reduce his 1000 to 800 or lower to keep feeling that superior. It happens at all wealth levels here. I am not sure if you have observed it at your end. I have seen such unfair practices among maids, among colleagues, among senior personnel at the office and of course bosses too. Don't know why...the same thing if the difference is 1000 to 2000 ...there is a sense of complacency...may be ridicule but still no effort to reduce that wealth, and when it is 1000 to 5000 a sense of benevolence comes in.
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3 May 16
What Currency. Lol
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@vandana7 (62278)
• India
3 May 16
@MediciMoor ...Just gave an example that when a person feels closer to another person financially then the behavior to hurt and put them to loss surfaces. So this student was not well off, so he mentally equated his position financially to that of waitress and became boorish.
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3 May 16
@vandana7 I know, it was a joke.
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@Daljinder (21017)
• India
2 May 16
Funny enough I just now wrote a post almost along those lines.... lol That dude's scholarship needs to be revoked. If Oxford doesn't take any action then they are indirectly promoting bad behavior.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
2 May 16
Absolutely it should and give it to someone who would really appreciate it and use this new found education to better others and not just himself.
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@Daljinder (21017)
• India
2 May 16
@garymarsh6 Exactly, a more deserving candidate should be given the opportunity.
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3 May 16
No it doesnt
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@Platespinner (16532)
• Winston Salem, North Carolina
3 May 16
It seems just a tad hypocritical that he was willing to accept a scholarship from a legacy that he doesn't believe should exist. As to his treatment of the waitress--it sounds like he has serious social hang-ups of his own.
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@vandana7 (62278)
• India
3 May 16
Yeah...everything is weird..
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
4 May 16
It is a sad thing to humiliate anyone let alone a waitress.
• United States
2 May 16
I read about that Gary..he should be sent back and expelled for his appalling behavior. He obviously does not only not appreciate his great opportunity, but also is extremely disrespectful to say the least. I am disgusted with his shenanigans. They get away with murder over there..here it would be a different story for sure.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
2 May 16
I know it is disgusting isn't it! I would deport him!
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• United States
3 May 16
@garymarsh6 Wouldn´t that be the ticket? It should be done and finalized immediately..he has caused enough of a ruckus there no..absolutely no respect for anyone or anything.
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3 May 16
We took down Rhodes here in SA
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
4 May 16
Yes so I understand! You and I are not responsible for what our ancestors did.