Do you Need Alone Time

@slund2041 (3315)
United States
May 6, 2016 5:47am CST
I love to be alone sometimes and feel I never get enough alone time. Most people I know hate having free time on their hands, but I for one would love to have some free time. I am not sure why people are afraid to be alone? I think it would be fun to have some time alone just to sit quietly at home alone, without anyone home to talk or make noise. How about a nice walk alone where you can ponder a situation that is happening in your life, without the chatter of another person? Someone recently told me that she does not do well with too much free time on her hands. She said I always go to work early, and leave late so that I do not have to be alone. Why not find a hobby she enjoys working on that in her free time. I do not understand not wanting or needing any alone time. I love to be alone and find I get tired of having to try to think of things to talk about with someone. I get sick of having to watch what I say or think before speaking, so much rather spend time alone. I hate being forced to show interest in a conversation when I truly have none. I hate feeling like I have to monitor everything before I speak it, to keep arguments down. It just frustrates me. Why do you feel the lady has to be at work to avoid having alone time? Is she afraid to be alone? Are you scared to be alone, or do you treasure time for yourself?
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19 responses
@marlina (154166)
• Canada
6 May 16
I have no problem being alone.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
I need a little time alone.
@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
6 May 16
I am not scared to be alone and I appreciate to have some times for me only.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
Yea, that explains it well. I need that "me time".
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
6 May 16
I also love to have some "me time". I want to have a date with myself during my free time and treat myself in a restaurant or prety places. I love to read during my free time and be with the characters in the novel that I am reading. I never really gets bored at all.
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
7 May 16
@slund2041 Your mom sounds like my mom. She always make me very busy always doing household chores.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
7 May 16
@annierose Mom certainly didn't raise any lazy children. She also taught us the word "bored" was an ugly word. If you said "I'm bored", you automatically found yourself sweeping the floor or other chores. To this day me, my brother and sister hates the word.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
I have never been one to get bored. My mother taught me an a young age to never complain about being bored. She would find me some work to do, so I am not bored. She would say if you are bored, then sweep the floor. She made me work every-time I complained of being bored. I do not say the word "bored" to this day.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
6 May 16
I'm never afraid to be alone. i used to be alone a lot and I enjoyed my time mylotting or just reading some books. Sometimes i prefer to be alone so i could have some deep thinking.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
6 May 16
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
It is nice to have alone time to read, or just sit and ponder.
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@rina110383 (24495)
6 May 16
I'm not scared to be alone. Being an introvert, I prefer to alone.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
I find it nice to be alone sometimes. That does not mean that I do not love my husband dearly, but i do treasure some peace and quiet.
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@RashmiRk (31)
• India
6 May 16
There are so many people who can't be on their own. I don't know why. Nowadays people depend on someone else for their happiness. I have heard from many that they get bored being alone. Think about it. If you are getting bored from your own company then how could someone else would enjoy your company? I like beit alone. And its not that I don't like people with me but I choose to be with whom and not to be with whom. Sometimes I wonder when someone askes me that what do I do being alone. But I understand that these are those who can't be alone.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
I guess some people just need outside company to entertain them. I do not look to others for my happiness, and entertainment.
• United States
7 May 16
not scared at all.in fact,i need a certain amount of "me" time.i can't stand people in my face 24/7.
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• United States
12 May 16
@slund2041 yup.that's true.
@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
10 May 16
It runs me crazy if I do not get at least fifteen minutes alone. However, some days it is hard to get that.
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@dodo19 (47053)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
7 May 16
There are times, when I enjoy time alone. There are times, when my husband goes out with the kids, and I am home alone. I'll admit it's nice. I enjoy it. But I also enjoy spending time with them too.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
7 May 16
I bet you do enjoy the alone time with no husband or children.
@irenen1 (228)
• New Bedford, Massachusetts
6 May 16
Everyone needs alone time to reevaluate self worth. Only those that don't like themselves are afraid of being alone.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
I wonder what makes a person afraid to be alone?
• Bucharest, Romania
6 May 16
Most people that commented here said that they have no problem being alone once in a while.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
I do not have the problem either, and wished I had more time alone.
@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
6 May 16
I'm like you - I treasure my alone time.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
I need my alone time, or I am just crabby. LOL
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@DianneN (246778)
• United States
25 May 16
I love alone time. I've always been comfortable with my own company. However, I do enjoy being around people if I have to! Lol!
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
25 May 16
Yea, well I can be around people if I have too. LOL I just more comfortable with my own company.
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@DianneN (246778)
• United States
25 May 16
@slund2041 I guess that I am, too. We're the best! Lol!!!!
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@just4him (306157)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
6 May 16
There are many reasons why a person would not want to be alone. Imagine a home with a large family and that family has left and you are an empty nester. The sudden emptiness would be daunting. Or the person who just lost the love of their life, and the house is too empty without the vivaciousness of that person to bring it to life. There are times when I don't want to be alone, I want noise, not so I can participate in it, but because it feels right. And then there are the times when I love the solitude of an empty house or I seek out a place I can be completely alone - usually a place overlooking a bay and just feel close to God and worship him for who he is.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
I can understand if a mother is suddenly an empty Nester, or lost her spouse. This is a young single girl without children or a husband. She wants her boyfriend there right after work, to entertain her.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
7 May 16
@just4him I guess you are right.
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@just4him (306157)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
7 May 16
@slund2041 She has some insecurities.
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@OKennedy (1130)
• United States
6 May 16
I think I enjoy a bit of both sometimes you just want to be alone rest relax and not entertain and other times you want to talk and socialize maybe out of boredom.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
I also rather have my social life on the internet rather than face to face with people. I have found most real life friends are disappointments, because they are users.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
9 May 16
@OKennedy Yes, it can be crushing as I have been hurt so many times.
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@OKennedy (1130)
• United States
7 May 16
@slund2041 I totally agree finding good friends in real life is hard and it can be crushing.
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@Juliaacv (48420)
• Canada
6 May 16
Although I am a chatty person, I thrive on my private time alone also.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
I guess I find enough entertainment and socializing with my family, and need more quiet alone time.
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
6 May 16
Most of the time, I want to be alone especially noon time. I don't want many people around because I can't concentrate mylotting.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
I find I like to ponder or read when I have a few minutes alone.
@Lucky15 (37346)
• Philippines
6 May 16
I prefer to be alone
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
I need my alone time in the mornings, while my husband is still sleeping.
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@Bennkz03 (243)
• Zimbabwe
6 May 16
mostly i want to be alone just having a quiet time.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
Quiet time is so important.
@dbherald (491)
• India
6 May 16
I do not prefer to be alone, because at that particular moment a lot of thinking goes around in my mind, Its boring for me.
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@slund2041 (3315)
• United States
6 May 16
I guess I need more time to think and ponder life. I need to sort issues out when the house is quiet.