Serving Tea Means Respect: Would You Agree?

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@Shavkat (137214)
Philippines
May 7, 2016 1:08am CST
That body language is just the way of politely expressing one’s gratitude to the person who had served tea. It’s tea-drinking customs in China that dates back to about 400 years. The way of pouring tea means to say sorry about the wrongdoing. When children serve tea to their parents , it shows they’re swallowing their pride and that they’ve seen the error of their ways. Thus serving and pouring tea is done to express a heartfelt apology. It is vital that the apology is heartfelt to show the gesture of a person as a sign of respect by taking the situation seriously. Do you have any special customs to show respect to people? Photo Credit: https://pixabay.com/en/tea-teapot-tea-ceremony-teabags-1150046/
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@LadyDuck (458006)
• Switzerland
7 May 16
We have nothing like this in our culture, but children must show respect to their parents by obeying what they say and never being rude or show bad manners... at least this was the way to go when I was young.
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@Shavkat (137214)
• Philippines
8 May 16
In my country, we have also ways of respecting the elders.
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@Serena_1 (186)
• Shenzhen, China
7 May 16
Actually, it's our traditional custom to serve tea to our parents. but now we seldom do that unless wedding ceremonies. the bride and the groom will do so to show respect to their parents.
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@Shavkat (137214)
• Philippines
8 May 16
@Serena I heard about this and experience it when I had worked in China before.
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@Serena_1 (186)
• Shenzhen, China
9 May 16
@Shavkat I just attended a wedding ceremony of my friends. they do served tea to the elders and got a very nice gift back which seems very nice. So how about your traditions?
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@peavey (16936)
• United States
8 May 16
I did not know that. That's a beautiful way of expressing respect! I don't think we have much respect here.
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@peavey (16936)
• United States
9 May 16
@Shavkat It seems as if they do!
@Shavkat (137214)
• Philippines
8 May 16
@peavey I think Asian people have unique way to express their respect to others.
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• Nanjing, China
14 May 16
In my culture it may not mean apology but it shows our respect and sometimes it shows obedience to senior people .For example in ancient times Chinese brides would serve tea to their parents in law ,a process which is actually a test of their character and etiquette .In some places in Guangdong province , guests will tap the table softly to show their gratitude when hosts are pouring them tea .
@Shavkat (137214)
• Philippines
14 May 16
I had observed this culture when I had worked in Guangdong province before.
• Nanjing, China
17 May 16
@Shavkat Yep, people in Guangdong have some interesting customs
@else34 (13517)
• New Delhi, India
7 May 16
@Shavkat,Yes,if you serve tea to someone,you show respect to them.Here in India we offer 'paan' [betel leaf] as a customary way to show respect for guests and elders.
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@Shavkat (137214)
• Philippines
8 May 16
@else34 What do you do with the betel leaf? I got curious.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
7 May 16
And I think, during a Chines marriage engagement ceremony, the bride-to-be serves tea to the future groom's parents to show respect then serves the tea to the rest afterwards. Don't know the exact order and details though but I'm sure the parents of the future groom is served first.
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@Shavkat (137214)
• Philippines
8 May 16
@sunrisefan It is really nice to have such cultures and we can learn from it.
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@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
8 May 16
A custom in my country is to offer someone a drink of whatever you have in you home : Coffee, tea, water, soda pop, etc. Also to offer the guests something to eat.
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@Shavkat (137214)
• Philippines
8 May 16
I do think it is a good habit to offer something to our guests.
@kaka135 (14916)
• Malaysia
8 May 16
If I am not mistaken, the art of tea from China started much longer than 400 years, perhaps even more than 1000 years. I agree with the respect part, but I think saying sorry might be just one of the them. There are much more about the art of tea, but I didn't study much about it, so I can't tell much. When we are having wedding ceremony, we need to serve tea to our elders as well, not only parents, perhaps that's to show our respect too. Some even do that on the first day of Chinese New Year every year. By the way, I am Chinese.
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@Shavkat (137214)
• Philippines
9 May 16
The period has been approximated my dear friend. I guess you are entitled to describe this culture.
@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
7 May 16
Yes by saying mrs. or sir. Respecing people by saying this. I would ask a guest if they would like tea or coffee then serve them whichever one they want.
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@Shavkat (137214)
• Philippines
8 May 16
I do agree on this. We also do the same thing.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
8 May 16
@Shavkat It is always good to show respect.
@youless (112108)
• Guangzhou, China
7 May 16
Here usually we will offer tea to the guests and it is a kind of respect here. As time goes by, this drink may change as water, coffee, soda and so on. But most of the time we still offer tea for the elders.
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@Shavkat (137214)
• Philippines
8 May 16
@youless I think it is essential to continue the practices. It is a part of being identified as a true local people in your country.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
9 May 16
we usually just hug them or shake there hand and say sorry. please forgive me
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@Shavkat (137214)
• Philippines
10 May 16
@bunnybon7 I also do same gesture if done something wrong to others. I had noticed you are from Florida. Are you near in Palm Beach?
@quantum2020 (12040)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
9 May 16
The only way children show politeness to the elder in my region is by doing errands; for example, if my uncle wants something from the store, then, he can tell me what he wants and I would go and get it for him. A tip is included in the petition.
@mavlana (1019)
• India
9 May 16
In our culture too,when someone visits home,he is served with tea to show love and happiness.
@thelme55 (76476)
• Germany
9 May 16
Thanks for the information. I didn't know that. Hubby and I are tea drinkers.
@Missmwngi (12927)
• Nairobi, Kenya
9 May 16
When you serve someone tea is a way of welcoming someone at your place