Is it a NO No to talk about EX with boyfriend?

@cheneper (133)
Thailand
May 7, 2016 2:02am CST
I am curious about my boyfriend's ex-girlfriends, the reasons of their break up and some other stuff but every time I open the topic he'll have the look like "Hey I am not interested to talk about my EX or PAST!" I can't understand why is he not open about it... I see nothing wrong. His reasons are he doesn't want me to get hurt and doesn't want to talk about the pasts.. Well I don't get hurt and he doesn't believe it's all about curiosity, who knows it might help us improve our relationship by knowing everything and not doing the same mistake as they did that led to break up. Any insight that will lead me to full understanding? Thank you:)
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 May 16
If he doesn't want to talk about it, don't push it.
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@cheneper (133)
• Thailand
7 May 16
It means I have to respect that he's not comfortable taking about it? I understand. I just don't understand the reason why is he not comfortable...
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 May 16
@cheneper I don't know either but if he's not telling you then it means he doesn't want you to know. Men don't want to complicate things.
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
7 May 16
If he doesn't want that topic to talk to, so respect his decision. It is his right not to talk then let him keep it as secret, there will be a time that he just want to talk that topic, just wait for that time or if not, then leave it.
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@MGjhaud (23078)
• Philippines
7 May 16
its not like a no-no thing but i would prefer not talking about the past relationships. thats not going to help you.. and if he told you already that he doesnt want to talk about it, dont push.
• United States
7 May 16
some people don't like hearing about the person who was there before..as if you could change that.some worry you still love them if you bring them up. i usually only tell my old man about acts of stupid my ex did.luckily he finds it hilarious..
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
8 May 16
My husband also don't want to talk about the topics like that. Sometimes I'm just really curious but If he look like his already annoyed I just stop asking.
@Dishari (687)
8 May 16
First of all assure him that you are ready to accept his past, and it won't affect your love for him. Make him understand that it's just to satisfy your curiosity. And if are successful in making him trust about his secrets, I hope he will not have a problem in talking about this topic.