Criteria for selecting a discussion to respond ?

@kiran8 (13996)
Mangalore, India
May 8, 2016 11:30am CST
We see some discussions getting a lot of responses and some none at all whereas most discussions fall within these two categories...I wonder how one selects a discussion to post a comment? Is it because it is posted by a friends or because you like the topic or is it simply because it has already got many comments ... I normally look for friends discussions , topic I am familiar with and have something to add and also new comers discussions and ones with no responses ..
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• Lakewood, Colorado
8 May 16
I respond to all friends discussions usually Kiran. And as you do also the newcomers and no responses if I can find something to say about it. I hope you are doing okay friend. I have not been on lately Mom is very gravely ill.
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@sishy7 (23687)
• Australia
8 May 16
I've wondered how you've been... Sorry to hear about your Mom... I hope she gets well soon...
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• Lakewood, Colorado
8 May 16
@sishy7 Thank you so much dear sishy friend.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
9 May 16
@TiarasOceanView I am doing fine Tiara, how is your mum now? better? I guess most of the senior members follow more or less the same pattern while selecting discussions
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@jaboUK (48859)
• United Kingdom
8 May 16
You seem to have everything covered - that's how I do it too. First and foremost, it has to interest me.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
10 May 16
Yes I guess I covered everything there is In my case sometimes my interest depends on my mood lol..
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@ramapo17 (16179)
• Melbourne, Florida
10 May 16
It has to be something that I am interested in too.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
20 May 16
@ramapo17 true, ones you are interested in and have something to add ..
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@boiboing (12533)
• Northampton, England
8 May 16
If the title doesn't make sense or is badly written, then I don't go any further. Or if I know that a member is posting a new item every 5 seconds and not replying to any comments, again I don't look. BUT for ones I do look at, if it's a friend (hello!) I'm more likely to read and of course some topics are more interesting than others. I was bored of American 'happy mother's day' posts before most of the USA was even awake today.
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@boiboing (12533)
• Northampton, England
8 May 16
@bagarad That's a stunning bearded iris.
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@bagarad (7509)
• Paso Robles, California
9 May 16
@boiboing I think any healthy iris in bloom is stunning.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
9 May 16
@boiboing I too normally dont bother when a member posts far too many discussions one after the other an the funny thing is they disappear after a while..
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@Bluedoll (15287)
• Canada
8 May 16
I pick discussions that interest me at the time. i don't play any social games here.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
9 May 16
Yes of course ,it is great when you find a discussion worth responding to...
@Bluedoll (15287)
• Canada
9 May 16
@kiran8 Exactly. Only one that is interesting at the time can fit that and it doesn't always have to be perfect to do it right?
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
10 May 16
@Bluedoll I agree, unless you are interested and have something to add of your own, it may not even register..
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
8 May 16
My first preference is Discussions from friends. - I dont deny that. Next if I have time, I do go through the discussions of all those good souls that I am following. If I find something Interesting, I do respond to it. Next on my line is responses of my friends. There are times when I can go around on discussions where they replied. I rarely go to the "Discussions from New Lotters" to respond. I always get boring discussions on that section... and there are some that need to be reported. All the above said, barring a few select friends - whom I know will not mind me type abc on their discussions, every other discussion I am on, I must find that interesting or I should be able to add something to it... else, no response. And I do not have that time just because - 1. I type more, 2. I do not want to disturb the peace of my mind and avoid getting into mess ups.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
9 May 16
@thesids I too am constantly worried that I have overlooked some discussion or comment which I ought to have responded to, from friends or anyone for that matter ! When you log i everyday you dont miss but when you log in after a couple of days you tend to miss some important posts ..
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 May 16
@kiran8 Yes, that happens a lot with me though I log in here almost daily and spend most of the day refreshing the pages. But surely, it is always a feeling that somewhere, did I miss out one from a close friend.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
10 May 16
@thesids True, in my case I have responded to some discussions that was posted by friends, after 3 or 4 months, having overlooked it...better late than never
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@bagarad (7509)
• Paso Robles, California
8 May 16
I first check my notifications and respond to anything there. If I have more time, I post a discussion or check the discussions without responses or discussions of newbies. I have many friends from closing sites joining and I don't want to miss welcoming them here. Sometimes I will check the "hot' discussions. Sometimes I will check what my friends are posting. Quite often I get sidetracked by the related discussions on the right sidebar and pick one of those to pursue.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
9 May 16
Yes checking and going through old notifications helps especially for people like me who cannot log in every day.Related discussions too help us in selecting discussions that may be of interest to us
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@bagarad (7509)
• Paso Robles, California
9 May 16
@kiran8 I find discussions in the related discussions I never would have seen. Sometimes I'm surprised to see they go back as far as 2011 in the old MyLot.
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@rina110383 (21943)
8 May 16
Depends on my interests. There are topics that I don't respond to (like religion, politics, movies, music, etc). I don't respond based on the number of responses that discussion has earned. There is this myLotter who usually gets less than 5 responses or sometimes none at all. But, I love responding to his discussions because he makes me laugh & smile every day. I consider those enough reasons for me to interact with him, be it on his discussions or PMs.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
10 May 16
I so agree with that, I too find some members' discussion very unique and make it a point to respond to them. Once I remember we kept commenting back and forth because the topic was so interesting ..almost 30 responses !
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@just4him (76233)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
23 May 16
I have a very simple method - I read the first post of the person who commented on my post. When I finish all my notifications if there is still time, I will then go to the Follows and Explore tabs and look for the topics of my friends and newbies. For newbies, I am more selective - It must have more than one sentence.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
24 May 16
I think that is a very good method, I too normally look out for discussions of those who have taken the trouble to respond to one of mine...I dont bother with those who finish off with a like ..
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@just4him (76233)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
25 May 16
@kiran8 I amended my notifications a while back allowing only the comments and mentions.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
27 May 16
@just4him I have said this before and say it now that we need to get paid for our posts as well, like it was before !
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@Gabugs (1794)
• United States
22 May
I like to read discussions offered by my friends first and then move on to other categories you mentioned. Interesting topics with several views can be enlightening @kiran8
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
25 May
Of course ...It is always interesting to see your friends come up with ..
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@Gabugs (1794)
• United States
26 May
@kiran8 Interesting perspectives can provide us with a lot of information.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
26 May
@Gabugs absolutely , there have been times when all the sub topics have been covered in a discussion
@LadyDuck (103909)
• Switzerland
20 May 16
I usually look first for my friend discussions. The reason I followed them is because they write topics that I like.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
22 May 16
Yes that is true, having common interest is what draws you to people ...It becomes that much easier to respond to those discussions rather than keep sifting ..
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@LadyDuck (103909)
• Switzerland
23 May 16
@kiran8 I agree, there are some topics that I dislike and I always skip those posts talking about what I do not like.
10 May 16
I feel the same thing Kiranji. When I post something on classic films no one responds. but when I discuss on grossery or food items I get lot of responses. But I read everyone's shares.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
10 May 16
Souvik, not many members here would know about Hindi films , so the only responses you wold get would be from Indians or Pakistanis..Other matters that interests everybody would attract more responses
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11 May 16
@kiran8 Thanks Kiranji, in fact even when we write about some fruits or vegetables which does not feature in foreign countries no responses are received.
@josie_ (4290)
• Philippines
2 Jul
I usually start with the "most recent discussions" move to the "interesting ones" then the "top rated" and leave the best for last, those that I follow.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
2 Jul
Yes that makes sense. .
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@else34 (13601)
• New Delhi, India
22 Jun
@kiran8 Since I lack time,discussions I would like to respond to must be short,though not just one liners.Short,well written and thought evoking discussions are my choice.And yes,I try my best to visit and respond to my friends' discussions also,especially if they are not too long and complicated.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
22 Jun
Fair enough ..I too have not been very regular since a long time because of personal commitments..so when I logged in for a short time I would look for discussions started by my friends ..
@Lizzyib (470)
• Canada
3 Jun
The topic usualyl has to interest me If not, I'll have nothing valid or even interesting to contribute, so what's the point.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
3 Jun
I agree but at the same time I feel that at times we need y venture out of our comfort zone and take on new ideas ..
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@Gabugs (1794)
• United States
3 Jun
I see that you have fairly good responses @kiran8
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
3 Jun
Thank you, it is good to have a lively discussion where members have something to contribute
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@acelawrites (9294)
• Philippines
31 May
I comment on topics that interest me; but often I comment on friends' topics too!
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
1 Jun
I guess we all pretty much follow the same pattern ...I also respond to at least 2 or 3 discussions from the no response category and discussions started by new members ...
@spaceseed (2726)
• India
25 May
I start my discussions based on 1. what is in my mind 2. any event for respons to be truth ful i simply go to hot discussions and choose those are appealing
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
3 Jun
True true, most of us do that...but at times it would be nice to try something different as well
20 Nov
I respond to recent discussion and to people whom I see in recent activity :)
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
22 Nov
I too do that, normally respond when someone responds to my discussion :)
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@epiffanie (8150)
• Australia
26 Jul 16
It really depends on my mood or when time allows .. But I normally prefer a deeper topic of any subject when I have time in hand .. And I respond first to those who left comments on my discussions before I explore the site .. I read and comment whether I follow them or not ..
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
26 Jul 16
Thats very practical.. I have not been able to be active here since a few months because of personal commitments. I see a lot of changes here in these few months and lots of good discussions that i wold like to respond to.I look at the discussion first but do look out for ones started by friends and followers who regularly post on mine.
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@shaggin (23558)
• United States
30 Jun 16
In my free time I like to spend it here at mylot. I always go to my notifications and read the replies to the things I have commented on and sometimes comment again and keep the discussion going. Then I look at my discussions and read the comments mylotters have left me and reply back. Then I go to their recent posts and read it and leave a comment. That is how I wound up here at this post of yours. I rarely have more time then that but when I do I go to the recent posts from those I follow and read and comment on those.
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@kiran8 (13996)
• Mangalore, India
4 Jul 16
I follow almost the same routine as yours since I too get very little time these days ..