Is it good to move your kids numerous times?
@ricki_911 (21625)
Toronto, Ontario
May 8, 2016 4:02pm CST
My friend has two younger kids not schooled aged. She met her boyfriend while moving around the province with her ex. She found out she was pregnent within 3 months of dating, they moved back here (almost 5 hours from where he lived), they lived here about a 6 months after the baby was born then moved to Ottawa for a month then back to Sudbury for a year or two, then moved back here then there for a while then back here.
Now I am not sure because she isn't working, but he is. I think most of it comes back to they can't afford it so they depend on family. His family supports them for awhile then her family.
I really think its bad for the kids, and staying in one spot or within reason.
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@slayer08 (2377)
• Philippines
8 May 16
For a time, when my mother was abroad my father moved us around a lot and as a kid I hated it. Although parents can carry their kids anywhere they please or if the need arises; it is anything but fun. Sooner or later the kids will grow up and they will not like the situation they're in. It can cause rebelliousness in some kids. And it never is good in the long run. To be honest, the mom is not being a good example to her kids being with different guys and not being independent by herself. I don't know, it's a situation I know I'd hate to be in. I guess your friend needs to do a lot of thinking
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@Missmwngi (12927)
• Nairobi, Kenya
8 May 16
Well I need they need to do something about the situation because when the kid start school,I do not think that will work
@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
8 May 16
That is what I thought once they get to school and start moving around. As far as I know they fight about money a lot, and he has a hard time holding jobs.
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@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
8 May 16
@Missmwngi It is very sad when it can be prevented all because they parents clearly can't handle the responsibility.
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@Blondie2222 (28611)
• United States
9 May 16
Yes i think it's bad for the kids to keep moving around like that. Then their life style won't be as good since they can't adjust to being in one place. Hopefully they can find the right place soon especially for once they do start school.
@Blondie2222 (28611)
• United States
10 May 16
@ricki_911 if she can't handle it then she shouldn't have any just my thought. I hope they can be stable soon and help raise the kids how they should be raised.
@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
9 May 16
I know the one boy they tend to have behavioural issues, and she moved back to be close to family. I think she's just immature and can't handle having the kids. Whereas where she was living they basically didn't help like she thought they would.
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@marguicha (215325)
• Chile
8 May 16
It seems, from what you tell, that they cannot do it otherwise. But besides that, for young children, home is where their parents and loved ones are. It is not that important the place.
@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
8 May 16
I read an article before about this and that was my concern. Not so much now as they are not in school but as they age. If they can't stay in one spot and go job to job usually doesn't teach the kids very good morals. Her parents are here and his parents are 5 hours north. As far as I know his parents don't do much in help wise, but her parents hand her everything. When I hung out with her a few times while here, she said she was tired of her parents in the middle of things. Yet, living up there she knows noone but his family.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
8 May 16
I think it might be bad for them once they get into school age, but since the child isn't in school yet I don't see the harm.
However, I think the woman needs to try to find work somehow, or selling things to help them get by.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
8 May 16
@ricki_911 It really can't be easy on either of them. I think they both need to try to find work around the area they are in now. It would be good if they could find work, and find someone to babysit. It wont' be easy, obviously, but better for their child's future.
@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
8 May 16
This is what she had told me that they argue all the time over money. I think factors in them moving because she is so unhappy. Think of him within a few months having to move 5 hours away from where he grew up then finding all new work, and becoming a Dad.
@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
9 May 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum I know her family would babysit and also his when she lived up north. She worked part time at a grocery store, and he worked full time in a auto shop. But I do believe they are both fairly immature, and she has never really held a job regularly.
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@IvySaysHi (4467)
• United States
8 May 16
If they cant help it then it sucks, but yes moving kids over and over is not good for them because they dont have stability in their lives
@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
9 May 16
I think its more or less she is bored.
When she lived here her parents, and her brother really helped them out. But they were always around, I believe why she moved them 5 hours north. But here he had steady factory work, but I have met him a few times and he doesn't seem the responsible hard working type.
When they moved north he found a job with family members and had a place to live. Now the last few months they lived with his parents so I know they are not good with money at all.
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@patgalca (18174)
• Orangeville, Ontario
8 May 16
Once my kids were in school I refused to move out of our neighbourhood. I didn't want to uproot my children, didn't want to take them away from their school and school friends. It's a small town with only one Catholic church so they would still see their friends through church and sports, but I want the consistency I grew up with. My parents moved into our family home when I was 3 and lived there for 42 years. I would love to move to a nicer house but moving is a bugger. We have so much crap in this house. But I know my kids don't want to move either (and they're adults now). They have benefited from being rooted in one spot.
