Have Parents Ruined Their Children?

@slund2041 (3414)
United States
May 9, 2016 12:23pm CST
Do you feel parents are ruining their children today by being too lenient on them, or not discipline them? I have witnessed some terrible behave children and can not stand to be around children who do not mind. I was in Wal-Mart the other day, and there was a little boy not sure how old, but I would say between ten and twelve years old. He wanted a game for his game system, and his mother said "No." He screamed at her and threw the game across the else making his mother tear up. The mother finally spoke to him and told him he could have the game just to calm down. My thoughts were if you were not going to stick to what you said, then why did you put us through that scene. If he had the discipline that he needed up to that point, the mother would not have found herself in that situation. I think it is sad that the mother had to go through that, but if she had done her just raising her son, properly he would have known not to act in such a way.
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@Dawwriter (249)
• Pakistan
9 May 16
That's truly horrible behaviour but the foundations of discipline and good manners can only be laid at early age from 1-2 onwards. A no should mean a no and bad behaviour should never be overlooked.
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9 May 16
I have a true example in front of me, kids are treated like (nauzibillah) Gods. nourish then with love but don't let them decide on their own at the age of 6.
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@slund2041 (3414)
• United States
9 May 16
I never acted in such a way when I was a child. It never entered my mind, because I had very strict parents, and knew I could not get away with that kind of behavior.
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@slund2041 (3414)
• United States
9 May 16
@Adilzargar I think it is important that parents teach their children early, so they will grow up to be good adults.
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@jaboUK (51452)
• United Kingdom
9 May 16
The son obviously knew that his mother would cave in - it's her fault entirely. Any child of mine that behaved like that would have all priveliges withdrawn for at least a month. But then mine wouldn't have behaved like that, nor yours, would they?
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@marlina (64838)
• Canada
15 May 16
It is very clear to me who is the boss in that family. What a shame!
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@slund2041 (3414)
• United States
24 May 16
No, if I had children they would not behave that way. My mother would have beat me down, if I had behaved like that.
@slund2041 (3414)
• United States
24 May 16
@marlina You are right!
@sugartoes (35512)
• Greencastle, Indiana
9 May 16
That's why kids are the way you see them today, they think we OWE them something in life they don't understand we gave them LIFE to appreciate what they can DO with it & make something BETTER than what we had at their age. this is a VERY GOOD topic you wrote When I had my kids & they started to throw a fit I would take them to the car & leave the store or where ever I was at cause I'm not one that would put up with suck out rage like MOST would & give in to get through their day that's just NOT the way to raise a kid in my book
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@slund2041 (3414)
• United States
9 May 16
I cannot stand a kind to throw a tantrum. My parents did not allow it, and I never acted out in public.
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@DianneN (62825)
• United States
22 May 16
Most children today have no manners or respect for others. It is the fault of the parents to teach them this and to follow through on their discipline. Grrrrrr
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@slund2041 (3414)
• United States
24 May 16
You are right! You can not expect the kids to know how to behave, when the parents are probably just as bad in front of them.
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@DianneN (62825)
• United States
24 May 16
@slund2041 It's sad, but true.
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@slund2041 (3414)
• United States
24 May 16
@DianneN yes, it is true
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@jobelbojel (5596)
• Philippines
10 May 16
People won't obey a leader if he/she is not sticking to what he/she said the first time, how much more with kids.
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@slund2041 (3414)
• United States
10 May 16
Very true!
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• Philippines
10 May 16
@slund2041 If that was my mom or grandma, I will be paddled at home because of that behavior. :)
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@slund2041 (3414)
• United States
10 May 16
@jobelbojel I think that you have an awesome mom and grandma. There needs to be much more paddling at home, so kids no how to act in public.
@TheHorse (54584)
• Pleasant Hill, California
23 May 16
She should have patiently waited until they were in the car and then put the little sh-t over her knee.
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@slund2041 (3414)
• United States
24 May 16
Yes, you are absolutely right! I think children have to be taught how to behave.
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@TheHorse (54584)
• Pleasant Hill, California
24 May 16
@slund2041 Actually the best way to get good behavior out of children is to model good behavior.
@just4him (95853)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
9 May 16
Had it been your generation or mine or even my grandparents generation, children would never have acted that way. Discipline would have been done in the home. However, with the generation starting with my kids, there came a law put in motion that parents cannot lay a hand on their children without being called on the carpet for child abuse. Hence we have children so totally out of control, we can only sit back, watch and shake our heads. It would be nice if we could go back to the days of hands on discipline. Everybody would be better off for it.
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@slund2041 (3414)
• United States
10 May 16
Yes, but it would take more than a law for my mother not to beat my butt for acting like that. I mean you can take your children home, and whip their butt. Do not allow them to ruin everyone else's shopping experience, or just leave the monsters at home with someone else while you shop. I read an article the other day and it said do not tell your children "No". Rather make suggestions of what you want them to do, but not say "No". What a bunch of hog-wash that is. The article said children need to hear positive talk from their parents, and the word "No" is not positive. We had let this get out of hand.
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@just4him (95853)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
10 May 16
@slund2041 We really have. As far as butt whipping at home. My kids told all their friends I spanked them and I got into a lot of trouble for it. So it didn't even matter if it was behind the doors of my own home. What really surprised me was when I moved here to Wisconsin. My son and his friend, unbeknownst to me were in his room using a slingshot and hit the window of the neighbor across the driveway from us. A police officer showed up and asked me about disciplining my child. I told him I didn't know about the incident - I didn't, and that I didn't know if it was safe to discipline him here. He took the slingshot and I was told I would be responsible for fixing the window. That was the last time my son ever used a slingshot and the neighbor never gave me a bill for the window.
@JudyEv (103774)
• Bunbury, Australia
14 May 16
This is parenting at its worst really. She is just making a rod for her own back by giving in to him when he throws a tantrum. Unfortunately he is getting too old to correct.
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@slund2041 (3414)
• United States
19 May 16
Something needs to be done about this sort of behavior. If not, he will end up in prison.
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@Corbin5 (84999)
• United States
9 May 16
I think since the beginning of time, there have been parents who have dropped the ball when it comes to proper discipline of children. There will always be parents who do not make the grade when it comes to raising children properly.
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@slund2041 (3414)
• United States
9 May 16
They should require parents to take some form of training before they give birth. LOL
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@euphie (610)
• Ballymena, Northern Ireland
9 May 16
I think a lot of parents don't like to say the word no, then realise that they have raised self-centred spoilt brats when it's too late...
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@slund2041 (3414)
• United States
24 May 16
I know several parents that will not use the word "NO" to their children. It sucks for all of us who are trying to shop, while their hooligans are running amuck.
@NJChicaa (31470)
• United States
9 May 16
Parents today are awful.
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@slund2041 (3414)
• United States
9 May 16
I agree! It is like they are too lazy to train their children correctly.