What are the main reasons why couples argue?

Vitoria, Spain
May 13, 2016 4:37am CST
What are the main reasons why couples argue? The discussions are needed before a couple disagreements, logical between two people, in order to negotiate solutions to problems or express opinions even with different views. The downside is that there are couples who can not argue, do not listen, do not focus on solutions, but blame and defend their respective positions, sometimes aggressively (angry, shouting, ironically ...) and any subject in the there is disagreement, for trivial it is, it is likely to cause destructive discussions where the important thing is to win the other. In general, the political family and education of children are recurrent themes of discussion in couples who come to therapy to improve their relationship. Who usually subsides before the couple, the man or woman? Why? Why do we take the first step costs wing when asking for forgiveness? Who knows
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@MALUSE (34612)
• Germany
13 May 16
In retrospect, most arguments are about trivial issues. I think you know that there is no answer as to 'how usually subsides'. This depends on the people's characters. Btw, you seem to be the first Spaniard on this site. Welcome!
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• Vitoria, Spain
13 May 16
Thank you a lot
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@marlina (66736)
• Canada
13 May 16
@MALUSE is right here. No standard answer to that question.
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@jaboUK (51766)
• United Kingdom
13 May 16
I don't think you can generalise as to what arguments are about - they are likely to be specific to the couple concerned. Welcome to the site.
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• Vitoria, Spain
13 May 16
Thank you
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@Yh1001 (566)
• Singapore
13 May 16
I Guess most arguments are about misunderstandings and not knowing the other party's expectations
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• Austin, Texas
13 May 16
The reason “couples” - that's two people - argue is because neither one wants to shut up! If a person is heated and can't hear a word you're saying, why fire back at them? That could escalate into an event much worse than just yelling and screaming. Somebody needs to stay cool, calm, and collected. It only takes one to do that. If it's a real problem, do you want to solve the problem or do you just want to fight to prove that you're right? If it's a real problem, fighting with each other won't make it go away.
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@youless (87697)
• Guangzhou, China
13 May 16
I think most arguments are about money and children. Usually the one who loves deeper will give in. Actually being reasonable is not always suitable in a family.
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@JustBhem (26519)
• Davao, Philippines
13 May 16
we argue sometimes because our ideas are not the same.
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@mavlana (1031)
• India
13 May 16
Because they simply love to argue.Sign of love,Lol Welcome to myLot.
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@Bennkz03 (194)
• Zimbabwe
13 May 16
from my observation i think most couples don't communicate on things they what to do especially when it involves money. one will do whatever gets in his or her mind without consult your partner.
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@Shavkat (50249)
• Philippines
13 May 16
The main source of argument between married couple is money.
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@ricki_911 (18268)
• Toronto, Ontario
15 May 16
Most times it is due over money, over miscommunication and understanding. I think it depends on personality and the type of people.
@jstory07 (61196)
• Roseburg, Oregon
14 May 16
I do not like to fight with others I just walk away.
@Shiva49 (10806)
• Singapore
14 May 16
There should be room to agree to disagree. And we should give space to each other Then we should not change from what we were before marriage and children - siva
@sunrisefan (16714)
• Philippines
14 May 16
Money is the common topic for couple arguments and disagreement.
13 May 16
Man subsides woman..I think