Unable to drive..am I a failure?

@millie02 (6908)
United Kingdom
May 18, 2016 4:27am CST
Here in the UK we seem to be living in some sort of `car culture' , it seems like these days you are looked down on if you do not have a car. I did take driving lessons when I was about 19 but I knew even then that I was not really interested in ( or any good at ) driving. I did not even get as far as taking my driving test and I have not wanted to drive since. Now it seems like I am the only person who does not own a driving licence and when I tell people this, I feel they are looking down on me because they think I am stupid or something.
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@JudyEv (121545)
• Bunbury, Australia
18 May 16
It is a shame if this is the case. My son lives in Melbourne. He used to drive but doesn't any more. He gets everywhere he needs to be by public transport.
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@millie02 (6908)
• United Kingdom
18 May 16
Do they have good public transport where he lives?
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• Philippines
18 May 16
but what if he wants to go out of town, like on a weekend nature trip?
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@JudyEv (121545)
• Bunbury, Australia
18 May 16
@millie02 Yes, they do. He is quite close to the inner city and is perfectly happy without a car.
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@topffer (33799)
• France
18 May 16
Maybe are you ahead of your time ? Many cities are making the life of car owners difficult nowadays, and are encouraging people to leave it. I am moving in a half pedestrian street where it is not allowed to park a car, and I will sell mine soon...
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@millie02 (6908)
• United Kingdom
18 May 16
Many of the towns near us have become pedestrianised recently.
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@topffer (33799)
• France
18 May 16
@millie02 You see, you would have to leave your car soon, and you would be frustrated like I am. You are definitely not a failure.
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@millie02 (6908)
• United Kingdom
22 May 16
@topffer Thank you for saying so.
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@Macarrosel (7573)
• Philippines
18 May 16
Maybe you have to try getting driving lessons again so that you know how to drive. Nowadays, it's really important for us to know how to drive. I know how to drive when I was young and until now I drive our car if my husband is not available.
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@millie02 (6908)
• United Kingdom
18 May 16
Maybe I should have another try at it.
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• Philippines
18 May 16
@millie02 Go for it. How I wish I can help you and teach you how to drive for free.
18 May 16
Like you,I haven't own a driving lience.I have a littel fear of driving,and I'm not intersted in driving.
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@millie02 (6908)
• United Kingdom
20 May 16
I think I would be scared if I had to start driving now. The roads are so busy nowadays.
21 May 16
@millie02 Yes,I think ride a bike or electric vehicle is easy.
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@millie02 (6908)
• United Kingdom
21 May 16
@BirdSongs I rode a bike when I was young. I would go for miles on it.
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@Shavkat (60453)
• Philippines
18 May 16
I am also don't have the interest of driving. But it doesn't make me less individual. It would be more convenient to be a passenger than stuck in a traffic with my car.
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@millie02 (6908)
• United Kingdom
18 May 16
Being stuck in traffic can be really awful.
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@Shavkat (60453)
• Philippines
19 May 16
@millie02 I can nothing to say but to agree more. It is easy to walk away if being stuck in traffic.
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@millie02 (6908)
• United Kingdom
19 May 16
@Shavkat Being stuck in traffic can add hours to a journey.
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@Marcyaz (35693)
• United States
18 May 16
Driving is not for everyone and just because you don't drive does not mean you are stupid. People need to keep their opinions to themselves and not look down on others.
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@millie02 (6908)
• United Kingdom
19 May 16
I think so too because people can be very nasty at times.
@Marcyaz (35693)
• United States
19 May 16
@millie02 Yes some people like to make themselves feel superior.
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@millie02 (6908)
• United Kingdom
20 May 16
@Marcyaz I suppose they could have a personality disorder.
@puddleglum (1418)
• United States
18 May 16
You shouldn't have to apologize for your preference not to drive. I'm not a great driver. I spent several years in New York City, where a car feels like a liability because of traffic and exorbitant parking fees, so I got accustomed to taking public transport. Now, I live in a place where driving is important, but I probably wouldn't drive if I had the choice.
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@millie02 (6908)
• United Kingdom
20 May 16
It is a pity that you have to drive, is this because there are no public transport services where you live now.
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• United States
20 May 16
@millie02 There's not really transport from where I live to where I work. I'm getting used to it, though. Maybe one day I'll move back to a large city where walking is acceptable and transit is available.
@bondot (43)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
18 May 16
Dilemma like this is a lot to feel a few people in different cities. A good idea to ignore it. You could just look for the reason that it does not really matter if you can drive a car.
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@millie02 (6908)
• United Kingdom
18 May 16
I feel like it does not matter, but some people are horrified when they find out I cannot drive.