What Do You Think?

@slund2041 (3374)
United States
May 22, 2016 7:19am CST
I am curious what others will have to say about this topic. Please note that you are not going to offend me in any way, as I have it out here for the sake of discussion. I do know both parties involved in this story, but not sure how I feel about it. Two sweet girls are sisters, both grown and married with children of their own. One of the sisters could not have more children, yet she wanted more badly. She was able to have two of her own, but something happen, and she could not get pregnant anymore. Her sister offered to carry the baby for her using her sister's husband's sperm, and her sisters eggs. Now having this procedure done cost a lot of money. I guess money is no problem to them. It was finally agreed on, and this is what they did, and it worked out perfect for them. Instead of one baby, they were pleasantly surprised with twins (one boy and one girl). The baby's arrived a few weeks early and had to stay in the hospital until they got big enough to come home. The sister was able to give the babies to her sister once she gave birth to them and they have an excellent relationship. It worked out perfect for them, and I am happy for everyone involved. I guess, I think too deeply on a matter like this, though. My question is what happens when one day they babies find out and ask questions? How will they ever explain this to the children? Will this cause problems, because the one who gave birth to them, is their aunt? Perhaps, the twins will be happy their aunt thought enough of them to give them life. One of the many things that is cluttering up my head.
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@BelleStarr (40243)
• United States
23 May 16
I think this is the greatest gift a sister could give to her sister. One was just a vessel so what is there to worry about? The children just need to know that their aunt loved her sister enough to carry them for her, I think this is a beautiful story. As far as who the mother is, it is the woman whose eggs were used not the one who carried the children, she is their aunt. I have three children and always wished I could have had more so I think it is perfectly all right to have as many children as you can afford.
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@slund2041 (3374)
• United States
23 May 16
Thanks! It does seem like a wonderful gift to give your sister. I think what she did for her sister is amazing. I do not know that I could carry the babies for nine months and them give them up though. WOW! Now, that would be called tough love.
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@cacay1 (33192)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 May 16
@BelleStar, You have a very brilliant mind to support the matter.The sisters are loving and understanding each other.there is nothing wrong as long as both agreed.
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@marlina (80748)
• Canada
22 May 16
Sorry but I do not let my mind being cluttered with this kind of thoughts. Kind of a waste of time.
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@slund2041 (3374)
• United States
22 May 16
Sorry I offended you with my topic. I read on here where someone was bored with the same type of discussions, so I thought I would throw this topic out there. I do not think it had been discussed here before. Maybe I should delete topic before more people are offended.
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@DianneN (92230)
• United States
22 May 16
@slund2041 Don't delete it. You have valid reasons for posting it.
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@slund2041 (3374)
• United States
22 May 16
@DianneN You do not think I should delete it? I am worry that it will start controversy here. I didn't mean to offend anyone.
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• United States
22 May 16
Hmm that is a hard one my friend. For the child growing up to find out that the other sister is their Mother, it may cause some kind of problem in the mind for them, as I see it.
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@slund2041 (3374)
• United States
24 May 16
The other sister carried the twins, but the eggs and sperm belong to the one who are raising the children.
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@cacay1 (33192)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 May 16
@TiarasOceanView, They'll understand when they are mature enough.
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• United States
24 May 16
@slund2041 I see slund.
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@LadyDuck (188846)
• Switzerland
22 May 16
In my opinion she had to be happy with two children of her own and forget about this procedure. This is not something that I appreciate.
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@slund2041 (3374)
• United States
24 May 16
Sorry if my post offended you. The children have already been born.
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@LadyDuck (188846)
• Switzerland
24 May 16
@slund2041 Sorry if I made you think that your post offended you, this is not the case. I think that this kind of practice is something that I do not like.
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@slund2041 (3374)
• United States
25 May 16
@LadyDuck Oh okay! I am glad to know that I did not offend you. This post is about my cousin's, so I was just curious what others thought about it. Thanks for not being offended by my topic.
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@Corbin5 (123111)
• United States
22 May 16
The situation can be explained to the children, when they are old enough to understand, in a loving manner. The love and support between the two sisters should be the focus of the explanation and can be told in a positive way so the children learn the importance of family.
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@slund2041 (3374)
• United States
24 May 16
Yea, I am sure they will be able to explain it to them. They are really a close family. The ones that I posted about are my cousins.
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@cacay1 (33192)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 May 16
@Corbin5, very well said.Love matters most between two sisters.
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@DianneN (92230)
• United States
22 May 16
To each, her own. I think that having two children already was enough, but things like this happen, I guess. I wouldn't do it.
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@slund2041 (3374)
• United States
22 May 16
I think two children is enough too. I guess she was raised in a large family, so wants a large family herself. She has eight siblings.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
22 May 16
I was hoping that you weren't going to say that the sisters were arguing about the children, and was relieved at the happy ending. I don't think the children will have any cause to be upset when they find out - after all they are their parents biological children.
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@slund2041 (3374)
• United States
24 May 16
I hope the children will be happy about the situation. Those babies are loved very much. They belong to my cousin. She is one of nine of my cousins. LOL My uncle (on my mother's side) had nine children. They are really a close family.
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@jaboUK (55159)
• United Kingdom
24 May 16
@slund2041 That's good to hear.
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@cacay1 (33192)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 May 16
@slund2041 wow, I am so happy for both of you. There are also many in our family. We are 12 hehehe, my parents are so courageous to create more babies.
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@cacay1 (33192)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 May 16
This is now the usual trend those who want a baby through sperm insemination .I am not so sure if this is the right term hehehe. There is no problem when they grow for their biological parents are real though carried by their aunt for 9 months. As years go by they'll be educated and they can pass a circumstance like this that help them to understand more.There is no problem along the way.
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@slund2041 (3374)
• United States
25 May 16
You are right this is not a normal trend here. I do not think I have ever heard of sisters doing this for one another. It is such a precious gift though.
@quantum2020 (10173)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
22 May 16
If the children at some later day find out who their real mother is, they will have many questions in their mind; however, if they are told the truth about the birth event, they would probably be prepared to accept their parents´decision for their birth. It´s a rare event the one you witnessed. It´s not very common to know someone going through these types of events.
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@slund2041 (3374)
• United States
24 May 16
You are right! I have never heard of a situation quiet like this before. We are talking about my cousin's, and they are very sweet girls. I would say they have a very close relationship with all their siblings.
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