Grandma wants to go home

Philippines
May 24, 2016 12:04am CST
Yesterday was the second time she asked mom how much the ticket flight back to US. I guess she's really really bored here compare to the stuff she do there, usually they would go to the casino and have a nice free buffet there while going for some slot machines. The real reason why she went home was because of a serious family feud that made her come here. Unfortunately, I wasn't happy about it because of how the way she treats people, she has this authoritarian attitude. Mom put up with her the last time, this time she made it clear this is not her House I took my stand too, when she forced our family maid to return home because of the way she treated her. That blew me off the fuse and one time I got so angry I didn't talk to her for days. Though I think she's behaved now but I don't think she changed, only looking for an opportunity to take advantage again. Honestly, If i had the money, I'd just buy her a ticket and sent her home. She ran away when she can't face her problem and now she's here and tries to take over, Big Mistake! She can't control any body anymore. I don't think she's that bad but were not kids anymore. Mom and I can make our own decisions now. The only reason were putting up with her a little more is for my aunties there to experience another months of prolonged freedom.
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• United States
24 May 16
It sounds to me as if maybe she did the same types of things at home as she does there where she is now. It's not right for her to be so bossy. I realize she's your grandmother, but she isn't in her own home and has to respect that.
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• Philippines
24 May 16
Hello @ScribbledAdNauseum I hate to expose it but there's just no place for me to rant. I just can't understand some one who goes to church every week end and does the opposite as to how a christian should act.
• United States
24 May 16
@Letranknight2015 I have known people like that. It's baffling.
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• Philippines
31 May 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum well, i bet when i get old it would be a lot worse.
@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
24 May 16
Grandmothers are liked that especially yours came from the states. I hope she will realized what she did were wrong.
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• Philippines
24 May 16
Nope, my mom said she's been like that even before we were born @Macarrosel therefore unless we take a stand, there's not much we can do.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
24 May 16
It looks like your Lola is not my type of lola either.
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• Philippines
26 May 16
Hello @salonga well, she's not all that bad but this time she needs to be reminded that it's not her home.
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@cacay1 (83270)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
26 May 16
@salonga, me too, I do not like unreasonable lola.
@marlina (154183)
• Canada
24 May 16
She should return back home if she can't behave properly.
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• Philippines
26 May 16
Hello @marlina well, she can't go home right now since we don't have the money for her ticket.
@cacay1 (83270)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
26 May 16
@marlina, hehehe, the problem. she has no money to purchase a ticket.
@jaboUK (64363)
• United Kingdom
24 May 16
It seems like your grandmother thinks she's the queen bee, and doesn't realise that she's a guest in your home.
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• Philippines
26 May 16
Hello @jaboUK well, she does now. But I think she tends to try and go back to that old attitude of hers.
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@cacay1 (83270)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
26 May 16
@jaboUK, she thinks she is the master in the house hehe.
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@trivia79 (7828)
• El Segundo, California
24 May 16
your grandmother seems so authoritarian and strict in nature. a very common attitude of the past or the oldies
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• Philippines
26 May 16
Hello @trivia79 I guess you're right.
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@cacay1 (83270)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
26 May 16
@trivia, I agree with you hehe.
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@trivia79 (7828)
• El Segundo, California
26 May 16
@Letranknight2015 by the way, are you from cavite?
• Philippines
24 May 16
It's tough to deal with authoritarian people. It's good that you have made a stand so that your gramdma will know that you're not happy about her attitude.
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• Philippines
24 May 16
Hello @cheerfulnuts She's been like that since I was a kid and now it's not appropriate anymore.
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• Philippines
24 May 16
@Letranknight2015 I see... Is she also like that to people her age, or only to people younger than her?
• Philippines
24 May 16
@cheerfulnuts both. I guess before she went here, they all got tired of her.
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@Shavkat (136866)
• Philippines
24 May 16
I am not so patient enough to endure control freak people. If the blood line involved, I still stick to my own principles in life.
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@Shavkat (136866)
• Philippines
26 May 16
@Letranknight2015 That's the typical characters in my father side. So I am not close to them. I don't mind.
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• Philippines
24 May 16
Hello @Shavkat and that is what my mom did, there wasn't a day were she gets frustrated as she constantly fights back her every move.
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@cacay1 (83270)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
26 May 16
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
1 Jun 16
I think, your grandmother and my mother's father were both alike, they want everyone to kneel them but we just consider her bad attitude because she's old enough, so we prolong our patience and considers her situation. Being at that age, they are very insecure and they want everyone to know that they can still manage or still very strong in emotions and in their health even they're not.
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• Philippines
1 Jun 16
My mom claims she had learn her lesson now after we had fought back, not in physical way. But I know she's just waiting for an opportunity to dictate again. Now, she really can't go home because she didn't prefer the round trip ticket and now they are saving money so that they can go home, but that would be next year.
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@cacay1 (83270)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 May 16
Tell your relatives in US to purchase her ticket on line so she could go back to US. Maybe she felt bored that is why she is always cranky.Understand the old friend.
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• Philippines
24 May 16
Hello @cacay1 they can't because they bought it on credit. unless she gets cleared, they can't buy a ticket for her. she was so naive last year and bought a one way ticket, looks like she regrets it now.
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• Philippines
24 May 16
@cacay1 In our situation, it's too expensive. besides, she changes her mind later every time she meets the puppies. she'd be more frustrated when she gets home.
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@cacay1 (83270)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 May 16
@Letranknight2015 , You help ur grandma produce $1,200 for one flight.is that enough?
@JESSY3236 (18760)
• United States
24 May 16
Maybe you need to tell her that you will put her out on the street if she won't quit being so bossy. I know that sounds mean, but you should put her in her place.
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• Philippines
26 May 16
I think that would be too extreme for me @JESSY3236 getting mad once was probably enough. well, right now she knows she wouldn't do that.
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@JudyEv (323748)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May 16
It is a shame if your grandmother is so bossy. If it isn't her home, she should have better manners than to make trouble.
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• Philippines
24 May 16
I don't know why she's so different @JudyEv I mean it's like everything is not enough for her and most times negative on other people.
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• Philippines
31 May 16
@JudyEv Recently I've been talking to her again, but only relation to the pets.
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@JudyEv (323748)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May 16
@Letranknight2015 Some people are just like this I think. My grandmother was very hard to get along with too. And after being boss in her own house, she would probably like to be boss in your house too.
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@Lucky15 (37346)
• Philippines
24 May 16
Aww. Quite.bossy she is;(
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• Philippines
24 May 16
yes, very much @Lucky15
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• United States
24 May 16
Some people have a hard time letting other people have control. I hope things get sorted out soon.
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• Philippines
24 May 16
Well, the only way to sort things out is to stand against something that we don't want her to do @missjessicadawn
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• United States
24 May 16
@Letranknight2015 That's true
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@marguicha (214294)
• Chile
24 May 16
She should not boss everyone around if she has not the money to be where she wants to be.
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• Philippines
24 May 16
Hello @marguicha I think she's in denial that she needs to rest more than do anything else.
• Philippines
22 Jun 16
Oh maybe she's really bored that's why she's crabby. Anyway, elder people needs attention maybe that's what she wants, attention.