**Marriage ...?? she's just 20 **

India
May 26, 2016 12:59am CST
My friend is getting married and im not at all enthusiastic about it at !!Its an arrange marriage...a common thing in indian society..i dont really have anything against it but she's just 20...she has her entire career and all infront of her...They could always wait for while...she has not even graduated yet I have nothing against people marrying young but i feel love alone cannot float your boat...and the worst is there is no enthusiasm in this case..from my friend ..shes like resigned to her fate I talked to her mom about it...but they are all like..it has to be done... feeling helpless..
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8 responses
@ilocosboy (37305)
• Philippines
26 May 16
tradition sometimes is not the good option in our lives, just like the fixed marriage, there is no love
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• India
26 May 16
@ilocosboy agreed! at times you have to make your own way
@Pankhini (492)
26 May 16
Like love mrg realy hs love...
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@Daljinder (22173)
• India
26 May 16
You need to understand whether her lack of enthusiasm is about not wanting to marry or not liking the groom. Both are two different things. Then there is the option of continuing studies after marriage too. It's not an end of the world. I can't believe I just said all of this. I had lost it at 17 when my family suggested marrying me in next couple of years. LOL Here I am 28 and still sticking to it.
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• India
26 May 16
@Daljider agreed!! and i do understand...she doesn't want to marry..she wants to completely focus on her career right now ...and she doesn't like the guy that much too ..sooo i dont know the future..but it does worry you when your friend is soo upset
@thebestmom (1105)
• Philippines
26 May 16
if she cannot convice her parents, can't she just run away??
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• India
26 May 16
@thebestmom ....thats the thing ..she will do what her family says but she does not want to get married . i can only say things once or twice as genuine concern because lets face it..im just a friend..but i cant see my friend suffering..she has to take stand! otherwise no point complaining
@Pankhini (492)
26 May 16
Runnin away s nt solution...
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@marlina (77911)
• Canada
27 May 16
I find this tradition of "arranged marriage" totally unacceptable.
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• India
27 May 16
lot of do! but well it happens
@vandana7 (67647)
• India
27 May 16
I know how it is...they frustrate that they did not enjoy their lives...and become sadistic removing it all on their daughters in laws.
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• India
27 May 16
yeah!! taking out your frustration on someone else is terrible
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@shaggin (37745)
• United States
26 May 16
It seems so strange to me that things like this still go on in other countries. I feel bad for the bride. There is probably a lot of things here in America that seem very strange to you as well so I mean no offense with what I have wrote.
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• India
26 May 16
@shaggin no problem at all...its just cultural and traditional difference...we are used to things in our place ...when we see some other country... we face a few surprises..it natural This issue is quite selective here...a lot of people dont follow but a lot do too All i want is my friend to be happy thats all
@scheng1 (24742)
• Singapore
26 May 16
That is sad. Hope the husband treats her well. After so many years of democracy in India,. sad to see that a young lady does not have the freedom to choose her own husband. Democracy is just a word, and not practice in the society.
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• India
26 May 16
@scheng1 there are lot of people choosing things on their own these days...i feel its nothing about democracy its about the narrowmindedness in society in 'selective pockets' i do hope he treats her well!!!
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@Pankhini (492)
26 May 16
Yr feeling n yr helpness s realy genuin... bt tat young gal herself tk sm bold stand for herself... givin up is nt an option... its jus a suiside...
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• India
26 May 16
@Pankkhini totally agreed!! she has to take stand...theres a limit to which i can intervene.. its like watching a car wreck in slow motion
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