For single people out there, how do you deal with it?
May 26, 2016 8:48pm CST
I am 39 and still single. However, I am on an LDR for a few months now and it is really difficult for 2 people who live miles apart who like each other because of the distance. I wonder if we both can hold on until we are together. For single people out there, how do you deal with being alone?
9 people like this
• Austin, Texas
30 May 16
LDR? Had to think about that. Oh! Long distance relationship. I get it!! I'm not scolding you. Just want you to think. - Question. Why do people think a “tie” with a cord made from an “thread” as strong LOVE can be so easily “untied” because there are miles in between the two people? I really don't get this. I'll tell you why. Because many husbands and wives have been separated from each other by space and time, and when they are finally reunited, their love for each other is still strong. I know people like this. If you don't really love the person, it doesn't matter if they're right next door and you see them every day. Sooner or later whatever “link” you have between you will break. So when I hear people say (and I've heard plenty say this) that their relationship is difficult to maintain because the two are miles apart and don't often see each other, I'm like: That's crap! If you can let distance ruin your relationship, your “togetherness and forever-ness” is way too fragile. If you're with somebody you love, even if they are physically at a distance, you're not single! You may be lonely and miss their presence, but you're a couple! If you don't get that and your mate doesn't get that, then why are y'all even in the relationship? That's how I see it.
• Austin, Texas
31 May 16
@unisa000 - I have read some of your discussions. You seem to be going through a rough time, a down period. Hope you are encouraged not only by what I say, but what others say as well, who are trying to cheer you up. Glad you sign in to myLot. When I was going through a difficult period in my life, I didn't have access to any online communities that were like support groups. Fortunately though, my husband and church friends helped picked up my broken pieces and mend me back together. Since I've been in the “black hole”, when I see others in that “dark place”, I try to pull them out. Take care of yourself.
• Rochester, New York
8 Jul 16
I have been alone for so long that I don't miss a relationship as much as I used to. Also I'm not truly alone, I have people around me who love me so I really don't think I'm missing anything. I've been in LDR's and have had horrible times with them. I'm looking for a good man, but not actively searching. When he's ready for me, he'll find me.
• United States
27 May 16
I won't lie, It's tough for me. But I have a bunch of close friends that I can talk to, and I write a lot about how it feels to be single in a world of couples. I spend time with my friends as much as I can, So that I'm not actually alone. Being in an LIFE would be tough for me too, but as long as I knew i had someone, regardless of the distance, I know I would be ok.
27 May 16
I think being in a long distance relationship is the most difficult thing to be. Out of sight, out of mind. I never believed in that. I think it depends on the couple but most people I know who were in that relationship ended up separated.
12 Jul 16
Dealing to be single may be hard at first but when you are into it would not bother you so much. I started being with my friends tell them everything that happened and brought out all my anger and other emotions that is left with my past relationship. After for a while, rather thinking about the relationship we had, I made myself busy by focusing on things that are my top priority in life and maybe after a long months I am single and happy. But still believing and have faith that I will be able to meet my partner in crime in life.