When "we" means "you"

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Canada
May 29, 2016 8:36pm CST
Don't you just love it when your partner says, "we" should do this or that? In certain cases, you know he is referring to something that you know you will be the one doing it. Like today my husband said "we should make a path here" referring to a spot in the garden. Now "we" both know that a gardener he is not and while he admires my handiwork in the garden he will not get his hands dirty. So if a path is to be made, guess who is doing it? But it was nice of him to suggest that "we" should do it. Does "we" sometimes mean "you" in your relationship?
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• Minneapolis, Minnesota
30 May 16
I think it is just out of habit to say "we" if you are just referring to you doing something. I am not quite sure why though. I really like your picture, are those your flowers at home?
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• Canada
30 May 16
Yes it is from my garden
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• Minneapolis, Minnesota
30 May 16
@Freelanzer They are gorgeous! What kind of flowers are they?
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• Canada
1 Jun 16
@Castlerock34 They are lilies and blue mirror delphinium
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• United States
30 May 16
lol, more times'n i care to disclose :) the hubs's prone to makin' paths 'round here, jest doesn't do 'em proper'n tis a mess to maintain.
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• Canada
31 May 16
They have all these great ideas but we have to clean up, maintain, and carry out these lofty plans
• Canada
31 May 16
Yes they have these great ideas and they are left to us to do or maintain.
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@JudyEv (130709)
• Bunbury, Australia
30 May 16
Oh definitely although if it isn't my idea and I'm not perfectly happy with it, there is no way I'd do it on my own. Mostly I'm happy to help out with his plans. I guess by using 'we' he's more or less insuring I'll help.
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• Canada
30 May 16
Could be also that the we means he wants to bor he is willing to be included in the work
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@JudyEv (130709)
• Bunbury, Australia
31 May 16
@Freelanzer And thinking on it further, I would use it myself if I was sort of testing the waters - trying to work out if Vince thought something was a good idea or not - and certainly if the idea was a bit off left-field.
• Otis Orchards, Washington
30 May 16
That's funny. In my case there is no "we" so it's always "I" who has to do whatever. But on the other hand, there is no one to tell me that "we" should do this or that.
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• Canada
31 May 16
It's less complicated that way. Have you ever just happened to say "we" instead of I just for fun?
@cpefley (1699)
• Hemet, California
30 May 16
I know exactly what you mean!
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• Canada
30 May 16
I guess we all experience it
@Teep11 (7121)
• United States
30 May 16
We is a strong meaning. It can mean togetherness or something else depending on who it's coming from.
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• Canada
30 May 16
Yes it can be used to say "we are in this together"
@NJChicaa (45007)
• United States
30 May 16
My husband doesn't speak that way nor do I so I guess we don't have this issue. It would definitely irk me though if someone said "we" and really meant "me".
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• Canada
30 May 16
It really is not a deal breaker just one of those little "irks"
@marlina (76791)
• Canada
16 Jun 16
I know perfectly well what you mean here!
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@zarlamain (24889)
• United States
10 Jun 16
That's funny! Totally understandable.
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@celticeagle (119330)
• Boise, Idaho
30 May 16
No relationship here. But you two are a unit.
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