By Umesh Kauche
May 31, 2016 9:16am CST
Marriage is a very important social institution. Every individual wants to have a perfect match, but the criteria for choosing the partner is different. In love marriages, individuals prefer to choose their partners on their own, while in case of arrange marriages individuals prefers partners chosen by their family or parents. There is a continuous debate regarding the best way to choose the partner for marriage. Let’s analyze which one of the two is better.
• Westland, Michigan
31 May 16
I do not know if there is a right or wrong way. Yes, coming out of the USA, it seems odd for arranged marriages, but that has been done thousands of years now and it has lasted. For me, I took the approach of dating my wife for 3 years and then we moved into together for 2 years and than we got married. For me the best part was the 2 years living together. You can truly see how it will work out. After 2 years of living together, I realized, that we are still both very happy and 21 years later I know we made the right choice.
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31 May 16
Marriage is a long time commitment. You have to choose for the right person whom you can be with you forever in good and bad times. Much better if you really choose the person to whom you suit of or else it's just nothing.
31 May 16
@Umesh_K yes! But it falls to another story...there's a big deal if you marry that certain woman/man because your parents choose him/her. There's a big deffernce if you yourself will choose for the right person for you to marry. Less possibility will happen on changes of behavior if the two of you getting to know more often each other before getting married.
• Manila, Philippines
1 Jun 16
as long as culture is concerned, I don't think there is a right or wrong way. Because saying this way is right, based on this culture, is putting that culture on top of the other cultures. But in my opinion, marriage is a union between two people, who will leave together for the rest of their life, if divorce don't meet their paths. So I guess, ONLY those two have the right to decide for themselves. Why will I go for a woman chosen by my mother, and I will be the one to suffer with her for the rest of my life? My parents want to choose my partner? Fine, O hope they will marry her also