father and pregnancy

United States
June 3, 2016 7:56pm CST
How can I get my boyfriend involved with the pregnancy? I stopped being pushy about it and started buying stuff I know I need for the baby as I have a 5 year old I know what I need and want to be prepared. He don't like when I come home with stuff even if someone else paid for it he thinks we can get it from his family. He don't talk to the baby and never touches my stomach. I finally put his hand on my stomach the other day in the morning when she is most active and he was able to feel her kick but he hasn't done it on his own. Is there anything I can do to get him more involved.
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@zarlamain (24525)
• United States
4 Jun 16
He's your baby's child. It doesn't make sense not to be emotionally involved and being there for the baby. He might become worse after you give birth to the baby, so you two need to talk.
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• United States
4 Jun 16
I hope it don't get worse. We have been trying for two years. Thank you for the advice.
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@zarlamain (24525)
• United States
4 Jun 16
@crystalrae Your welcome. Hope your situation gets better.
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• India
4 Jun 16
Firstly , You must figure out where the probelm actually occuring at the emotional level? you must know why he has lost interest? and how you can convince him to be more intrested in you. what i feel is, emotional problems can always be solved if strategically convinced. Every Situation in our life helps us to grow. So don't loose hope. Better Days are on the way! Wishing the best!
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• United States
4 Jun 16
Thank you, we do talk about most of our problems but when it comes to the baby even around his family he tries to avoid it. Not really sure why. We were trying for two years and now she'll be here in 3 months.
• India
4 Jun 16
@crystalrae This happens when the person feels, if he's not ready for it. I hope everything goes well in your life and i am pleased to know a new member is entering in your family. God bless her and you also. Wishing the best!
@MGjhaud (20737)
• Philippines
4 Jun 16
was he like that before with your five years old? i would feel very upset if my partner is like that. you can probably keep talking about the baby and your plans for the baby with him. maybe talk about names, toys and stuff..
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• United States
4 Jun 16
We have a name picked out but that is all... He is amazing with my 5 year old he's been there for us for 4 years so he's like a father figure to her as she only sees her dad every other weekend and if he asks for extra. I don't know what to do maybe its because right after his first baby is born he will be 29 I am not sure if he just feels too old to be having a kid. I remember him saying about turning 50 when she turns 21 but that is normal I think. Idk just wish he would help out or at least talk to her.
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@MGjhaud (20737)
• Philippines
4 Jun 16
i am 30+ and i dont ever feel old and still no baby, but thats me. did you ask him why he's like that?
• United States
4 Jun 16
@MGjhaud I have tried he said that he'll be more involved when the baby is born but he don't think there is anything for him to do right now... I told him I wanted the her to get to know his voice and he has to have some say on the things I get for her but even when I got some clothes that say daddy's princess and stuff like that he didn't seem interested either. I know we both wanted a boy he say's hes still happy with a girl he just don't seem interested at all.
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@Shavkat (62757)
• Philippines
4 Jun 16
I think your boyfriend is in denial for this situation.