How Do You Cope with the Death of a Loved One?

Waltham, Massachusetts
June 4, 2016 8:06pm CST
I do not have a lot of experience with death. I recently lost a close friend who suffered from severe epilepsy. She had been having seizures since she was a child after losing her mom. The last time I saw her was not long before she died and her seizures were very bad and seemed different somehow. She was not herself afterward and her personal care attendant sent her to the ER but she did not spend the night. I saw her Friday and Saturday and she had passed by Monday when her PCA found her thinking she was asleep at first. I received a call on Thursday and dropped the phone in shock. She was only 47. Her mom died in May when she was 47 too. We had been friends for 20 years and had been recently discussing how long our friendship was. I went to the wake but not the funeral. It was surreal seeing her body in the open casket. I miss her and feel sad and grieve but have not cried. I do not cry easily and think I may still be in shock and/or denial. I am saddened every time something or someone reminds me of her. Her PCA did say that she looked peaceful when she found her so I hope that she passed in her sleep. Thank God she does not have to suffer anymore. I would like to think that she is a guardian angel watching me from heaven. I know that she is with her parents and nephew gone before her. Someday I will join her and be with her for eternity in heaven Godwilling. I am so grateful for my faith. It helps me cope better with life and death.
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@bacon147 (431)
• South Africa
5 Jun 16
Sorry to hear about your loss. I know how you feel since I also lost close family members not to long ago. Time definitely heals, but it depends from person to person how long it will take. Other than that you can try to be around other loved ones to take your mind of it for a bit and it will get better. Good luck to you! :)
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@sishy7 (25500)
• Australia
5 Jun 16
Sorry for your loss... she's so young...
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@jaboUK (48782)
• United Kingdom
9 Jun 16
I'm glad that your faith is helping you to cope with the loss of your friend.
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@Katlynn (378)
• United States
9 Jun 16
I am so very sorry for your loss. Losing a long-time friend is never easy. Your faith and knowing you will see your friend again one day will be of comfort.
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@LoriAMoore (8625)
• United States
6 Jun 16
My condolences on your loss. It takes time, lots and lots of time.
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@Yar_Joey (3314)
• Philippines
10 Jun 16
So young to die. May I make a request? Could you half your discussion with paragraphs? I am lost reading your post. i hope you wont mind