How do you handle people you don't like?

By Bhem
@JustBhem (12968)
Philippines
June 8, 2016 1:29am CST
Ever since I'm sick. I become very choosy in picking up a new friend. I'm afraid they will not like me because of my current situation. And when it comes to not liking someone, I am very observant about it. If I don't like the person. He/she will not gonna hear anything from me, I will just smile and walked away. Sometimes I don't mind them and walked away. I don't like to mingle and wear plastic smile and pretend. I'm always being honest. But I have this attitude that if I don't like someone and that person talks real sense. I will give it a try to listen and talk a little. Any thoughts about this?
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@magallon (16471)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
The same method too. Just a simple smile. I do not talk too much with him or her.
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
in that way we are secure, right. Not to make them feel bad. same thing with us.
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@magallon (16471)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
@JustBhem Not telling them that we hate them or don't like them but at least they can feel or tell it from our actions.
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
@magallon actions speak lounder than voice. :)
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@ilocosboy (24708)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
even me,if don't like the people i don't care if he/she talking to me.if i don't like them i just tell them the truth, i don't even care if they hurt what i've said
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
Being honest or frank is also a good thing. At least they will know you don't like them. :)
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@ilocosboy (24708)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
@JustBhem i'd better tell them the truth than to tell them a lie i don't want to be a plastic
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
@ilocosboy Yes. It is a lot better.
@chris2050 (1126)
• Manila, Philippines
8 Jun 16
I think not liking someone is normal. It might be because of their personality, or their behavior. It don't necessary mean that they are bad, it only means we can't stand them. It don't also mean that we hate them, it only means, they are not our type. Nevertheless, we might be wrong about someone from the first encounter, or given certain circumstances, and later, we come to realize that the person is not 100% what we always thought of him or her, then we should adjust our attitude, and give it a try. The same as we might not like someone for certain details, then later, the person change. It think, whether we like someone or not, we shouldn't completely shut them down, we should leave a tiny space between them and the possibility of friendship, just a tiny one
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
I agree with you. You really have a good point of view. Thanks.
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@chris2050 (1126)
• Manila, Philippines
8 Jun 16
@JustBhem You are welcome
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@carebear29 (23650)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
8 Jun 16
I just tolerate them
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@LoriAMoore (12502)
• United States
8 Jun 16
I do more tolerating than liking. Hahaha
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
@LoriAMoore You are blessed with that kind of attitude. Thanks for sharing.
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@Marchy (142)
8 Jun 16
I don't talk to someone I don't like. I only have few friends but those people are very close to me.
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
same here. That is why I have real friends of whom I can rely on.
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• Guangzhou, China
8 Jun 16
Be ourselves. No matter what the others are saying.
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
Yes. Being yourself is the best way to get rid of people. In a very nice way possible.
@meowch (1008)
• United States
8 Jun 16
I just avoid and literally find ways to not talk to them. Sometimes it's unavoidable if they are in your closer circle of family or friends. There are some people I strongly dislike I don't make eye contact with them I don't even smile. I don't like pretending that everything is okay. The only time I would listen to what they say is when they make sense that's the time I make an exception.
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
Same here. There is always exception. I do this most of the time.
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@MGjhaud (20833)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
i don't.
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
You don't? what?
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@MGjhaud (20833)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
you asked how do we handle people we dont like -- i dont.
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
@MGjhaud Okay. I thought you might add something.
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• United Kingdom
8 Jun 16
You will always find out who your true friends are in your darkest times
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
I agree to this. That is why I have few in my list.
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• United Kingdom
8 Jun 16
@JustBhem Me too!!
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
@annaroselock Those friends are for keeps.
8 Jun 16
I too had this thing with people,i used to think they might judge me. I think you should try to know a person a little and then form an opinion about him/her.Try talking about the things you like and you might end having a real conversation.And always remember,Be Honest (:
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
I do that sometimes. Other people only talks to you if they find it boring to talk to other people and at the moment. But if they are busy with some other people. They will not gonna talk to you.
8 Jun 16
@JustBhem i know,just let people be,the right ones will find you (:
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
@blackpen Thanks. Yes. The better ones will find you.
@skysnap (17586)
8 Jun 16
I usually go with "small talk" it seets the direction for both. and this way i avoid the people. :D
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
Hmm. This will make us feel better. No pretentious.
@skysnap (17586)
8 Jun 16
@JustBhem indeed. being professional often weeds out people.
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
@skysnap I agree. :)
@Lucky15 (33284)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
I have fee friends. Like.5.that ikeep.
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
It is better to have few friends who are real. I like that.
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@Lucky15 (33284)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
@JustBhem agree. Those that worth keeping
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@Bluedoll (15533)
• Canada
8 Jun 16
It does depend on our situation? I talked to a lot of people in my job so didn't have much choice but still there are people that you want to open up to and others to close down.
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
it happens most of the time. Yes I agree.
@Bluedoll (15533)
• Canada
8 Jun 16
@JustBhem we can't agree with everyone or maybe not at all but still can communicate?
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
By not talking to them. I don't like them to expect anything from me.
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
Oh. Well it is a lot better, right?
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• Philippines
8 Jun 16
@JustBhem yes!
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@toniganzon (37285)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
The only reason I don't like a person is when that person doesn't like me too. I always give people a chance to prove themselves worthy of my time. If they're not, I just move on and don't waste my time on them.
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
same here. And here in myLot I like most of the myLotters here. :)
@toniganzon (37285)
• Philippines
10 Jun 16
@JustBhem lol you have not met all of them then!
@brokenbee (7710)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
I just ignore them, like they don't exist at all. Hihi bad me! But if they will approach me, I will be nice to them. It's not being plastic but sometimes it is also good to be nice even to people we don't like. But don't expect me to be the first to make a move.
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
9 Jun 16
well that's good to know. Thanks for sharing.
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@LoriAMoore (12502)
• United States
8 Jun 16
When we get sick, we find out who our real friends are.
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
I agree. It happened to me.
@deafdiva (248)
• United States
8 Jun 16
I think we should surround ourselves with people who are good for us because toxic relationships are not good for us!
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
Negative people for instance. It will slow us down that is why we need to be careful in choosing people but that doesn't mean we need to shut them down. A second chance maybe.
@allknowing (54663)
• India
8 Jun 16
There are various degrees to keep away people depending on their proximity. If for example you encounter them every day of your life then you have to tolerate them.
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@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
yes, like you don' have other choice.
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@Shreyashi (182)
8 Jun 16
We cannot pick new friends until and unless we approach to the people we like. Friendship starts when we start talking to a new face, if we do not approach to them, definitely the other person will either think that we are not interested or we are introvert. I always prefer to keep myself to a limit when approaching to a new person cause it is really important to know the other person's behavior. And of course we can also sense on the very first meeting whether the person is of our kind or not.
@JustBhem (12968)
• Philippines
8 Jun 16
Yes I agree. :) Thanks for sharing your opinion on this.