June 10, 2016 8:15am CST
I am having a really hard time with this and I am asking for someone to try to explain it to me. My husband, a lifetime smoker, decided to quit smoking and trade to vaping. He has been off cigarettes for 2-1/2 years Yesterday he informed me he wanted to try cigarettes again. I am angry and disappointed because he was weaning down on vaping. I don't understand the obsession he has for this deadly habit. We were working on a healthier lifestyle. Please explain to me why the sudden change back? Why can some quit cold-turkey and others are never successful. I am not judging anyone, I am just trying to understand. Please help...
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• New Delhi, India
10 Jun 16
This happens.See your husband is addicted to smoking and when a person is addicted to this substance it becomes a dependence that means that when he stops smoking and everything is going fine,then when he encounters somebody smoking and feels like smoking and is like that I'll not smoke much and stuff then once he start smoking he will get into the trap of smoking again.It is like the body chemistry of a smoker gets completely altered once he has become a smoker.Nicotine has much adverse effects than we think they have. It's very important to control it.I will suggest you to seriously look for a psychiatrist and a psychologist.Trust me they will help him a lot but remember one important thing"Once he will be treated and alright don't let him lit or try even a single cigratte else the dependence will come and he will again start smoking".
• United States
10 Jun 16
I have often heard that nicotine addiction is as strong as heroin addiction. The habit is extremely hard to break. Last week I watched as my husband reached for that pack of smokes and lit up every 10 to 15 minutes. I asked him if it bothered him to have something have such control over him that he can't stop. He told me to stop nagging. I told him the nagging would stop when he stops smoking.
10 Jun 16
Thanks,for your comment. Is the first time I smiled since yesterday :-) He has cut down on nicotine to almost zero. My selfish fear is losing him to stroke or heart attack. I know no amount of my temper tantrums will change his mind. I guess I will learn to be a widow earlier than I wanted :-(
• Bunbury, Australia
17 Jun 16
I've never been a smoker - just never started but I love standing next to someone who is smoking. I think if I had become a smoker I would have found it hard to quit. I don't have any suggestions. My husband quit cold turkeywithout any problems so I guess he was one of the lucky ones. We have a friend who recovered from lung cancer, had given up smoking but then went back to it. It seems very difficult for some to quit.
13 Jun 16
He needs something else which creates excitement for brain. For now he is depending on ciggy for that" high". Playing sport or following hobby he is passionate about might create excitement he is missing now. Another reason could be stress.Try working on unresolved issues like money or marriage problems. My two cents. Speaking from experience.I was addicted once to something uneatable thing in past.
• Bucklin, Kansas
11 Jun 16
I sure wish I had an answer for you.I have been smoking for the most part of 40 years . I have kind of quit here and there from time to time , I know that sounds funny but that is kind of how it worked out. Quit for awhile and stress out over something and reach for the closest pack.Now I am trying once again to quit,I have been using the patches and have really cut down , but recently started Chantix.Because of my health if I can get stopped I wont ever go back again.