How hard it is to fulfill a responsibility?

By Bhem
@JustBhem (5485)
Philippines
June 19, 2016 10:52pm CST
Me and the boyfriend was invited for a dinner Party last night. We went there even if its raining. We anticipated that since it is a party or rather a kids party for sure a lot of guest were there. But only 15 guests are present. While we are eating our food in the corner. We heard our friend talking to her friends about his husband. She said that she is tired of doing things for him and she's tired of understanding him and that she is done. She will just focused on her baby and live the way she wanted for both of them. We also heard that her husband flew to work in a cruise ship as a cook without telling her. She just found out about it through one of thier mutual friends. She was crying while she's telling her friends about her despair. That no matter how hard she understand him (the husband), its still nothing for him. So she decided to be a single mother. In my thoughts I questioned her. Why she need to stick herself to him in the first place. Why she need to sacrifice her life for that thoughtless coward of a man. She knew that her husband dont have a decent job and has issue of being alcoholic. I hate the fact that I cant do anything about it. So mad that I decided to just leave it inside my head. We went home still thinking about it.
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@toniganzon (31958)
• Philippines
20 Jun
When we hear this kind of story from our friends, it makes us think fast that the best way is for our friend to leave. But it's really easy to say but far too difficult to do. All we can do is just keep it in our minds and then wait for them to do just do the right thing, with our fingers crossed.
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@JustBhem (5485)
• Philippines
20 Jun
That is the good thing to do. But sometimes it is not what we expect for them.
@toniganzon (31958)
• Philippines
20 Jun
@JustBhem surely coz it's not that easy.
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@JustBhem (5485)
• Philippines
20 Jun
@toniganzon They still want the hard way I guess. But let us hope she will overcome these.
• Philippines
20 Jun
Everyone tried to hold on in a relationship with the hope of fixing it for the better. It is not easy to let go especially if you had gone through a lot, but patience, no matter how long it can hold always had a limit. Maybe your friend still wants to work things out with the husband. Apparently, it wasn't a team effort. When one feels being left, a decision of moving on always comes follow. At least, she tried her best to work out their relationship before giving up.
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@JustBhem (5485)
• Philippines
20 Jun
Yes. She tried her best to understand. Maybe she's tired already.
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• India
20 Jun
This is a very hard situation to face. Most people leave a marriage only, when it still doesn't work inspite of many attempts. Especially when kids are involved. I too have friends going through such situations. Hopefully things will work for her. She needs a great supportive team of friends and family right now.
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@JustBhem (5485)
• Philippines
20 Jun
She dont have a family anymore. And the idea of having a happy and perfect family of her own is gone. I hope she will find peace and just focus on her baby.
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• India
20 Jun
@JustBhem by family I meant siblings, cousins, parents , aunts and uncles . Every kind word and support is needed.
@JustBhem (5485)
• Philippines
20 Jun
@responsiveme I agree. And she need maybe a counseling for both of them
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@ilocosboy (11086)
• Philippines
20 Jun
maybe she's trying to hold on so her family will be together. She is hoping her husband will change.
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@JustBhem (5485)
• Philippines
20 Jun
As I looked at her. She is very determine to move on and focus on her baby.
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@ilocosboy (11086)
• Philippines
20 Jun
@JustBhem that should be
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@Chungshop (2266)
20 Jun
These almost happen everywhere, beginning always very happy but can't last long. These result many single mothers and also single fathers too. The reason was hard to explain because we are not in that situation. Hope she will overcome everything. Close one eye and open one eye to see the beauty of life.
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@JustBhem (5485)
• Philippines
20 Jun
Yes. I prayed that she will do the right thing.
@SIMPLYD (63996)
• Philippines
20 Jun
But shouldn't she be happy that finally her husband has now a job ? Though maybe it's bad that he didn't tell her . There could be some reason why he did that . Maybe , he would tell her if he is finally on the ship and would be sending her money . She should still give him the chance to explain first .
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@JustBhem (5485)
• Philippines
20 Jun
I talked to my boyfriend about that. He said that they already talked and went to attorney to fix the childs monthly alotment or something. She's tired of him already.
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@SIMPLYD (63996)
• Philippines
21 Jun
@JustBhem That is sad that they ended up like that . But then , indeed what's the use of staying in a relationship just for the sake of the child , when you are already miserable .
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@JustBhem (5485)
• Philippines
21 Jun
@SIMPLYD It is sad. We never thought they end up just like that. But its her choice. Maybe she's really tired of him already.
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@ridingbet (15446)
• Philippines
20 Jun
why not talk to her? you don't need to give some pieces of advice that she should follow, but at least you should have given her a piece of your mind
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@JustBhem (5485)
• Philippines
21 Jun
I'm afraid Miss Ingrid. We are not that close. The boyfriend is and he said we will try to talk to her one of these days at least to help her with her problem.
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@ridingbet (15446)
• Philippines
21 Jun
@JustBhem being a single parent is having plenty of responsibilities. i hope she can be as determined as e, to let the man go and face the challenges of growing her child alone
• Philippines
20 Jun
Hope everything will be going fine between the two of them. Knowing that they had already a child.
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@JustBhem (5485)
• Philippines
20 Jun
Me and the boyfriend prayed for that
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• Philippines
20 Jun
@JustBhem That's the only best thing we can do to our friend.
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@Umesh_K (676)
20 Jun
She must be hoping that her husband will improve, and its not that easy to raise a child all alone
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@JustBhem (5485)
• Philippines
20 Jun
I agree. I hope the husband will be responsible enough.
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@Umesh_K (676)
20 Jun
@JustBhem I wish the same
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@solitary (264)
20 Jun
I think both of the wife and husband should take and share the responsibility, they can not be selfish. then the family could be harmonious.
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@JustBhem (5485)
• Philippines
20 Jun
it should be because they are partners. They should both understand that they are now parents and that they should be responsible.
@epiffanie (6746)
• Australia
20 Jun
Well, she should not have talked about her problems in someone's party .. But obviously people at the party knows her life story so she was comfortable unloading her troubles in the middle of the party.. Good that you question her in your mind.. You know what is good or bad for someone like her.. That means you won't let yourself fall in that situation .. ..
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@JustBhem (5485)
• Philippines
20 Jun
Yes and I'm not in the position to question her. Maybe she's tired and she wants to know her problem to her friends.
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@MGjhaud (18245)
• Philippines
20 Jun
I would want the same thing for your friend but it's not like a walk in a park especially if kids are involved.
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@JustBhem (5485)
• Philippines
20 Jun
I agree. She's been very workaholic before and now she have a baby to feed she need to work harder now.
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@Macarrosel (7470)
• Philippines
20 Jun
They should separate if everything doesn't work anymore for them. They're just extended their agony if they stays together.