How hard it is to fulfill a responsibility?
By Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
June 19, 2016 10:52pm CST
Me and the boyfriend was invited for a dinner Party last night. We went there even if its raining. We anticipated that since it is a party or rather a kids party for sure a lot of guest were there. But only 15 guests are present.
While we are eating our food in the corner. We heard our friend talking to her friends about his husband. She said that she is tired of doing things for him and she's tired of understanding him and that she is done. She will just focused on her baby and live the way she wanted for both of them. We also heard that her husband flew to work in a cruise ship as a cook without telling her. She just found out about it through one of thier mutual friends.
She was crying while she's telling her friends about her despair. That no matter how hard she understand him (the husband), its still nothing for him. So she decided to be a single mother.
In my thoughts I questioned her. Why she need to stick herself to him in the first place. Why she need to sacrifice her life for that thoughtless coward of a man. She knew that her husband dont have a decent job and has issue of being alcoholic. I hate the fact that I cant do anything about it. So mad that I decided to just leave it inside my head.
We went home still thinking about it.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
20 Jun 16
When we hear this kind of story from our friends, it makes us think fast that the best way is for our friend to leave. But it's really easy to say but far too difficult to do. All we can do is just keep it in our minds and then wait for them to do just do the right thing, with our fingers crossed.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
20 Jun 16
@JustBhem surely coz it's not that easy.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Jun 16
@toniganzon They still want the hard way I guess. But let us hope she will overcome these.
@rachz_kisses (3798)
• Philippines
20 Jun 16
Everyone tried to hold on in a relationship with the hope of fixing it for the better. It is not easy to let go especially if you had gone through a lot, but patience, no matter how long it can hold always had a limit. Maybe your friend still wants to work things out with the husband. Apparently, it wasn't a team effort. When one feels being left, a decision of moving on always comes follow. At least, she tried her best to work out their relationship before giving up.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
20 Jun 16
But shouldn't she be happy that finally her husband has now a job ?
Though maybe it's bad that he didn't tell her . There could be some reason why he did that . Maybe , he would tell her if he is finally on the ship and would be sending her money . She should still give him the chance to explain first .
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@Chungshop (2355)
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20 Jun 16
These almost happen everywhere, beginning always very happy but can't last long. These result many single mothers and also single fathers too.
The reason was hard to explain because we are not in that situation.
Hope she will overcome everything. Close one eye and open one eye to see the beauty of life.
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@ilocosboy (45157)
• Philippines
20 Jun 16
maybe she's trying to hold on so her family will be together. She is hoping her husband will change.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
20 Jun 16
This is a very hard situation to face. Most people leave a marriage only, when it still doesn't work inspite of many attempts. Especially when kids are involved.
I too have friends going through such situations.
Hopefully things will work for her. She needs a great supportive team of friends and family right now.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Jun 16
@responsiveme I agree. And she need maybe a counseling for both of them
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
20 Jun 16
@JustBhem by family I meant siblings, cousins, parents , aunts and uncles . Every kind word and support is needed.
@eliza_godinez12 (5567)
• Philippines
20 Jun 16
Hope everything will be going fine between the two of them. Knowing that they had already a child.
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best thing we can do to our friend.
@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
20 Jun 16
Well, she should not have talked about her problems in someone's party .. But obviously people at the party knows her life story so she was comfortable unloading her troubles in the middle of the party..
Good that you question her in your mind.. You know what is good or bad for someone like her.. That means you won't let yourself fall in that situation ..
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
20 Jun 16
They should separate if everything doesn't work anymore for them. They're just extended their agony if they stays together.
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
20 Jun 16
why not talk to her? you don't need to give some pieces of advice that she should follow, but at least you should have given her a piece of your mind
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
21 Jun 16
@JustBhem being a single parent is having plenty of responsibilities. i hope she can be as determined as e, to let the man go and face the challenges of growing her child alone
@VivaLaDani13 (60293)
• Perth, Australia
12 Jan 19
@JustBhem Good discussion. Reasons will vary from person to person but the reason why people stick around with someone who doesn't treat them well are either because they are scared to be alone, feel they can not do better, are in love, feel it's the best child / children, or are brainwashed into staying or scared to leave. So many other reasons I'm sure. It's always sad though no matter what the reason is.
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