~Should I Ban Her For That?~

@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

5 Jul 16

@Mike197602 Yeah that was my thoughts on it too. If she did something bad to a child I would ban her fast but she didn't...

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Yuki

@yukimori (10144)

• United States

5 Jul 16

@Mike197602 Thinking about it more, maybe the person who tattled on her is pissed because she resold an item she gave her?

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Yuki

@yukimori (10144)

• United States

5 Jul 16

Banning her based on the input of a third party who sounds like she's holding a grudge would be a bad move.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

5 Jul 16

@yukimori That is what I was thinking as well. The two things are not related at all in any way to childcare. She did have proof of her selling free items but that has nothing to do with babysitting.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

6 Jul 16

@yukimori I absolutely agree with you on the selling free items. It is a hard thing because if the person is giving it away it should be with no strings attached-but then again people shouldn't be sneaky about it. But as you and I both said-that has nothing to do with childcare so I don't see why the person even brought it up to me at all.

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Yuki

@yukimori (10144)

• United States

5 Jul 16

@LovingMyBabies Honestly, I'm on the fence on the issue of selling free items. On one hand, the person giving the item away doesn't want to go to the effort of selling it themselves. On the other, it's definitely more polite to leave the item for another person who intends to use it than to take it knowing that you're going to resell it. But then again, I've found some really awesome items sitting on the curb... and I personally have no qualms about picking up something like that and upcycling it, then selling it. I still have to do something with the wooden shoji screen I found several months ago, but I haven't decided what to do when it comes to replacing the torn fabric on it. And that's a personal project, anyway... I don't plan to resell it at this time.

I guess the difference really lies in whether or not the person is up front about what they plan to do. It's one thing to say "Hey, I'd really like this, but I'm going to resell it" and let the giver make the decision knowing that information. And if she's actually turning around and reselling this stuff locally... well, that's kinda tacky, isn't it? Buuuut it still doesn't have anything to do with babysitting.

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marcyaz

@Marcyaz (35316)

• United States

5 Jul 16

If she hasn't done anything wrong to a child it is no ones business what she does in her private life.

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marcyaz

@Marcyaz (35316)

• United States

6 Jul 16

@cacay1 Jealousy can be so destructive, that would be terrible to tell lies on another person.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

5 Jul 16

@Marcyaz Yeah, I don't think she needs to be banned from a babysitting group when it had nothing to do with childcare at all.

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Erly Maglangit

@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

6 Jul 16

@Marcyaz, I think jealousy is the reason why that person hates the other lady.

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Michelle

@infatuatedbby (95001)

• United States

5 Jul 16

I don't think she did anything wrong. It is not relevant to baby sitting.

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Michelle

@infatuatedbby (95001)

• United States

5 Jul 16

@LovingMyBabies I would just be alert about her but who knows - the girl who reported it can have a problem with that girl. Right now you only know one side of the story.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

5 Jul 16

@infatuatedbby Yeah it has nothing to do with babysitting so really it was none of my business.

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Mike

@Mike197602 (15487)

• United Kingdom

5 Jul 16

@infatuatedbby yes be alert and keep your ears open...i agree.

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Jo Ann

@akalinus (40440)

• United States

5 Jul 16

Is there any way you can check up on her to make sure she won't harm a child?

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

6 Jul 16

@akalinus She has good reviews for childcare. And that is up to each parent to do their research on the providers in the group.

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Jo Ann

@akalinus (40440)

• United States

6 Jul 16

@LovingMyBabies Still it seems that she is dishonest so I hope they will be cautious.

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Genipher

@Genipher (5405)

• United States

6 Jul 16

What did you tell the tattle-tale? Because I'm guessing she's chomping at the bit to get the other woman booted off the group. Was she angry when you told her the re-selling evidence wasn't valid to this particular group? (Oh, and animal flipping is when you get a dog or cat for free (or really cheap) and then re-sell them for profit.)

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

6 Jul 16

@Genipher I told her that she hasn't done anything wrong in my group or with childcare. She didn't respond back to me after I said that.

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Genipher

@Genipher (5405)

• United States

7 Jul 16

@LovingMyBabies She's probably off sulking...

thinkingoutloud

@thinkingoutloud (6127)

• Canada

6 Jul 16

Being an admin in any community means being fair and impartial. It also means supporting and reinforcing the rules for the group, forum, etc. You aren't responsible to "police" the members of the group for things unrelated to guidelines and Terms of Use. Certainly, if someone were to be doing something illegal, for example, you'd take action on that. But the person who messaged you just has her nose out of joint and doesn't like that other member. You'd be getting into really murky water if you started banning people subjectively. You'd end up with more and more people trying to "push" you into doing what they want... and you don't want to go there, I'm sure. Keep things "by the book"... and make your decisions based on how something relates to babysitting.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

6 Jul 16

@thinkingoutloud Yeah I don't want to get into the drama aspect of people on FB, that's for sure. She hasn't done anything wrong in my group and nothing against children at all. Whatever else she does outside of my group has nothing to do with me at all.

Dominique

@dodo19 (47053)

• Beaconsfield, Quebec

5 Jul 16

Unless this person brings up something relating to the other person's babysitting skills, it doesn't seem entirely fair to ban her.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

5 Jul 16

@dodo19 Yeah I felt the same-it had nothing to do with childcare so I don't see the need to ban her.

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Jose Juan

@quantum2020 (12040)

• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico

5 Jul 16

She should not be banned from the group, unless, she proves to be dishonest by her own actions and not by the sayings of someone else.

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Jose Juan

@quantum2020 (12040)

• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico

5 Jul 16

@LovingMyBabies I think the same. She should not be banned.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

5 Jul 16

@quantum2020 The woman did give me proof of what she stated but it has nothing to do with babysitting-which is what my group is about. So I don't think she needs to be banned.

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koopharper

@koopharper (7477)

• Canada

5 Jul 16

As long as she is playing by Facebook rules and not violating any rules for the group, I don't see that there is anything you should do. Is this person discussing this within the group. If she isn't then it's irrelevant. Don't let a third party convince you to be a moral policewoman.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

5 Jul 16

@koopharper Well that's why I haven't banned her because I am not a "judge" by any means. It has nothing to do with childcare so I don't see a reason to ban her from the group.

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koopharper

@koopharper (7477)

• Canada

5 Jul 16

@LovingMyBabies A wise decision.

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Judy Story

@jstory07 (134456)

• Roseburg, Oregon

5 Jul 16

I would not ban her that has nothing to do with child care.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

5 Jul 16

@jstory07 Yeah that's how I felt about it too.

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MARILYN

@Marilynda1225 (79708)

• United States

5 Jul 16

If what she's doing has nothing to do with providing childcare then I don't see a reason to ban her from the group.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

5 Jul 16

@Marilynda1225 I feel the same way. It's not my business what she does elsewhere.

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Erly Maglangit

@cacay1 (83223)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

6 Jul 16

Just consider her poorness.Maybe she needs extra money for a very important purpose.Since it does not involve with child care, so why should she be ban?

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

6 Jul 16

@Cacay1 Yeah, lot's of people do that-even when others don't know about it and it has nothing to do with childcare at all so it's none of my business.

Bhem

@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

5 Jul 16

Maybe she is in a hard situation that's why she sells those stuff.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

6 Jul 16

@JustBhem That's what I think too. She sounds like she's trying to pay bills.

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Bhem

@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

6 Jul 16

@LovingMyBabies Good to hear that. Or you can talk to her about that.

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ElusiveButterfly

@ElusiveButterfly (45940)

• United States

6 Jul 16

If she has done no harm to a child she shouldn't be banned. Just because one person has issues with her selling her free stuff or any other thing shouldn't be cause for you to do so. If she mentions that she practices this behavior in your FB would be another thing. Delete the post and message her if she were to do so.

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ElusiveButterfly

@ElusiveButterfly (45940)

• United States

6 Jul 16

@LovingMyBabies some people just want to start problems where others are concerned. If the other woman starts trouble for her tell her she will be banned if she continues to press the matter.

@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

6 Jul 16

@ElusiveButterfly That is how I feel about it also. She has good reviews when it comes to childcare so I don't see the issue for my group.

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fishtiger58

@fishtiger58 (29823)

• Momence, Illinois

6 Jul 16

Her selling things has nothing to do with babysitting. I wouldn't ban her.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

6 Jul 16

@fishtiger58 I feel the same way, she has good babysitting reviews.

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fishtiger58

@fishtiger58 (29823)

• Momence, Illinois

7 Jul 16

@LovingMyBabies That's all that matters. We all do things other's don't like or understand. Doesn't make it bad.

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@anya12adwi (6037)

• India

6 Jul 16

May be you should confront her and you shouldn't ban her as it not related to babies.. but you should make her understand that what she is doing is not right but you got to be professional..

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

6 Jul 16

@anya12adwi I don't think I need to because she has good reviews with childcare. That's all I need to know really.

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@anya12adwi (6037)

• India

7 Jul 16

@LovingMyBabies so whats your decision ?

Tina Liu

@Keepsaying (37)

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6 Jul 16

I wonder where did she got those free stuff and to whom she sold it to? I think you need to figure out why she did this and why the other one told you this message. If you find out her misbehavior. It's totally ok to take some measures.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

6 Jul 16

@Keepsaying She got the stuff in the FB groups that give stuff away to people that need it. While it might not be right it has nothing to do with childcare or my group.

Tina Liu

@Keepsaying (37)

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7 Jul 16

@LovingMyBabies yes, you are right. If she misbehave in babysitting, it's more reasonable for you to ban her.

CaseyL

@CaseyRoss9966 (4056)

• United States

6 Jul 16

Selling free stuff isn't nice but it doesn't have anything to do with her being a good or bad babysitter. You should only ban her if she becomes a bad babysitter or treats kids or pets wrong.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

6 Jul 16

@CaseyRoss9966 Yeah it has nothing to do with babysitting-matter of fact she has good reviews for childcare so I don't feel the need to ban her from my group at all.

msabliss

@msabliss (34)

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6 Jul 16

If I were you, I'd try to verify these claims from persons who have used the babysitting services of the lady in question. I think, by virtue of being an admin, it'd be easy for you to contact these clients are seek clarifications.

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