What to do with this kind of people?
July 6, 2016 2:27am CST
I had this friend, well I thought she was a friend. I felt like she didn't appreciate our friendship because there was this time when she got offended about our remark with regards to her work. The thing is we noticed she ignored us and then since we treated her as a friend we approached her and said sorry about the remark and since it was her birthday we even bought her cake. And then, she said something bad about one of our friends out of insecurity perhaps and started avoiding all of us. We tried to approach her a couple of times but it seems that her pride will not let her admit that she was wrong. I felt like she doesn't really appreciate the friendship that we gave her because instead of saying sorry about saying those stuff she is even saying that she did nothing wrong and that she will not be the one who should approach first. I just don't know what to do with her. I'm about to give up. I feel like she's the kind of person who isn't really worth to be a friend.
6 Jul 16
I offer my advice based on the assumption that this friend has not wronged you in any way in the past. In this case, it'd be prudent to let go of this recent wrong and maintain your friendship with this friend. You know, its not easy to find reliable friends nowadays.
6 Jul 16
I'd say she must care much over her esteem and pride. I dont't know the exact thing, but I'd say mistake or faults should not blame on one person. When you are in piece, think whether she has goodness you apraise or you still want to be her friend.
• United States
6 Jul 16
It doesn't sound like she's very good at taking criticism from others, even when it's warranted. I don't think I'd push... she has made her decision, and it sounds like the remarks she made about the other friend were completely out of line. Be professional if you have to deal with her, but beyond that I wouldn't worry about it. It seems like she wants you to chase her down and grovel when the apology has already been made.
7 Jul 16
Yeah. That's what I think too. I'm just about done with her attitude. I'm not the kind to chase people around especially if I've already reached out a couple of times and still. If she doesn't want to accept that she also has done wrong in this case then I don't think I want a friend like that.
• Kingston, New Hampshire
6 Jul 16
It may depend on how the 'remark about her work' was made. Was it spoken to her in earnest or was it a 'snarky' remark made in her presence(what we commonly refer to as a 'dig')? I'll appreciate constructive criticism any day, but, I won't stand for a 'hit and run' snark.