Argue or Discuss?

India
July 11, 2016 6:04am CST
An argument should not degrade to the level of a quarrel. We argue not to attack the one with whom we are arguing. We just try to give some good reasons in support of our conclusion. We try to give reasons that others can accept. The focus is not on who is right. The focus is on what is right. Or vice versa. On the other hand, when we discuss something, there are 3-4 possibilities: 1. Those who are discussing, they are doing so to come to some conclusion or decision. 2. They are just exchanging ideas, without any obligation to come to any conclusion or decision. 3. With a specific topic there may be a talk or debate. 4. There may be a detailed discourse on a particular subject. That's why the word 'discussion' is more appealing to me than 'argument'. In an argument, we proceed with a preconceived notion or idea or conclusion, and start giving our reasons to justify that. Sometimes one who argues holds on to his idea even when he gets good reasons to reconsider his/her own idea. He gets too egoist to change his view point. In a discussion it is not likely to happen. People in a good discussion are open minded and are ready to review their reasons and ideas and make progress in the discussion. I am fortunate that on this discussion forum, I have come across sensible and open minded people, friendly and helpful people, knowledgeable and intelligent people. I really mean it. Kudos to MyLot and the MyLotters...
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@rogan99 (22)
11 Jul 16
you should "argue" with sensible contradiction....you should not simply argue about matters for no reason(when you feel bored or you find no other job)..an argument should always point out the cons/disadvantages of a conclusion rather than totally attacking or trying to reject it...and i agree with you,discussion is more better than argument.however,to avoid a senseless argument,people should never directly discuss against the ideologies of a person/group/community i.e they should fully understand an idea or conclusion before going against it...as Confucius said:the inferior person is aware of advantage,while the superior person is fully and thoroughly aware of righteousness.
• India
12 Jul 16
Sensible contradiction... I like the phrase @rogan99 , I too have observed, some people just get involved in an argument without any genuine interest or reason.. It may then be very unbearable..yes.. ideology is another catchy area..
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• India
13 Jul 16
@rogan99 Are you there?
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13 Jul 16
@ritwik17c yes? Want to argue?????
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@Tierkreisze (1358)
• Philippines
11 Jul 16
We discuss in order to learn from each other. Arguing and not actually trying to understand what the other side has to say just wastes time.
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• India
11 Jul 16
@tierkreisze, Certainly. But if someone can evolve a formula so as not to get into any unpleasant argument... it would be fun !!
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• India
11 Jul 16
By the way, how to highlight a post... I don't know how to do that...@tierkreisze
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• Philippines
11 Jul 16
@ritwik17c I can't think of a formula to keep people from getting into arguments, but I know of a way that measures our chances of getting into an argument with certain people.
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• New Delhi, India
11 Jul 16
From whole mylot team, thank you! Very nice discussion
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• India
11 Jul 16
@ModernDayWriter, Thank you very much for your encouraging words. Are you a writer? I guess, yes. Are you in the administrative team of mylot?
• New Delhi, India
12 Jul 16
@ritwik17c I am a part time writer. Not in administrative team of mylot but I love to appreciate good work
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• India
12 Jul 16
@ModernDayWriter Thanks and good to know.. I am new to writing.. any tips for me? What sort of things do you write? Do you write for profit?
@mammots (3271)
• Philippines
12 Jul 16
Sometimes during discussions heated arguments happen. I think thats healthy and normal. It makes the exchange of ideas and information interesting and lively.
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• India
12 Jul 16
I earnestly hope, if the heat melts some softer particles somewhere in the heart, it may lead to some warmth in the discussion... but some people may prefer to discontinue the argument before it gets hot..
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@mammots (3271)
• Philippines
12 Jul 16
@ritwik17c Yes for some that would be a very wise decision to stop to prevent a fist fight
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• India
12 Jul 16
@mammots , fortunately, fist fight is not possible... don't give your address..
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@responsiveme (16816)
• India
11 Jul 16
Discussion over argument every time. Nothing is solved by arguements.
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• India
11 Jul 16
@responsiveme Yes... people are tempted, sometimes provoked, to argue...without good results.. !!
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• India
11 Jul 16
@ ritwik17c Yes that is a problem ,to keep one's head cool under provocation. Are you able to?
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• India
11 Jul 16
@responsiveme I can't boast that I can always...but mostly yes
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@advokatku (4037)
• Indonesia
15 Aug 16
in discussions, sometimes our emotions are also carried on. Although initially we think opens up a discourse become in the discussion, because of the circumstances that support, in the last, ours emotion that comes out
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• India
17 Aug 16
@advokatku Can you clarify a little?
14 Jul 16
You are absolutely right, an argument proceeds with a preconceived conclusion. The intention here is to convince the other person with his/her own idea. In most of the cases, it happens due to lack of proper knowledge.
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• India
14 Jul 16
@Manishankarroy What is needed is sound logic combined with necessary knowledge of the facts related to the subject concerned to proceed in a discussion. If both are not present, one should be at least ready to listen and learn from others...