The Shock of Our Lives

@Corbin5 (79000)
United States
July 21, 2016 2:09pm CST
My sister called me two days ago and said our cousin's 12-year-old daughter was in the hospital. She had overdosed on the antihistamine Benadryl. My sister informed me that our cousin's daughter had ingested the antihistamine Benadryl at a "pharm party," a term with which I was not familiar. Sis said a "pharm party" involves kids and teens raiding the medicine cabinets in their homes and bringing the over-the-counter (OTC) medications and prescription medications to the "pharm party" to share with others. Yesterday, this sweet 12-year-old child died due to Benadryl overdose. Our cousin lives a great distance from my siblings and me, but we will all gather together as one to support the family and pay for the funeral for this young relative of ours. Parents need to do a clean sweep of all over-the-counter (OTC) medications and prescription medications in their medicine cabinets and keep those medications under lock and key at all times. My brother, sister and I are still in shock. Nothing this horrific has happened in our family, and we are just numb.
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@amadeo (46319)
• United States
21 Jul 16
I hate to hear story like this.I am so sorry there.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
22 Jul 16
Thank you. It was such a shock to us all.
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@Mike197602 (13501)
• Worcester, England
21 Jul 16
When I used to work at a homeless kids project they'd all pool their various medications and get wrecked. This one girl had a habit of snorting paracetamol for some reason Just because some medicine doesn't need a prescription doesn't mean it's not dangerous.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
22 Jul 16
Yes, those over-the-counter medications can be deadly too.
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@sugartoes (33847)
• Greencastle, Indiana
21 Jul 16
O MG I'm so sorry to hear this as well as for the families loss we can never think how something like this could happen to our loved ones & it just puts our minds in a numb state of mind to think how to deal with this. my prayers are going to you & the family
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@cacay1 (32078)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Jul 16
Who is to blame sand why did she take too plentiful syrup?
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
22 Jul 16
Any child could become involved in a situation like this. So sad.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
22 Jul 16
@cacay1 At this time, we have not questioned my cousin as to how this happened due to her inability to communicate due to her grief. I suppose she was following what her peers were doing at the time. None of the young ones knew the danger of what they were doing.
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@DianneN (57344)
• United States
21 Jul 16
I am sooooo sorry to hear this devastating news. My deepest condolences.
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@cacay1 (32078)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Jul 16
@SianneN, so shocking indeed, hard to accept.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
22 Jul 16
Thank you for your kind words of comfort. Went to choose the flowers yesterday and that was so upsetting for me.
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@DianneN (57344)
• United States
25 Jul 16
@Corbin5 I'm certain it was. You are welcome. I wish I could do something to help you.
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@TRBRocks420 (60935)
• Banks, Oregon
21 Jul 16
I'm sorry for your loss, that is heartbreaking, prayers going out to you all.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
22 Jul 16
So hard to lose a child no matter the cause. Thank you for your kind words of comfort.
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@just4him (89326)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
22 Jul 16
Oh my! I'm so sorry for your loss. I just can't imagine the pain this caused all of you. My prayers are with you and your family on this tragic loss. I agree with you that parents need to keep all medications under lock and key.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
22 Jul 16
Thank you for your kind words of comfort. I do hope parents protect their children by keeping all medications locked up.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
24 Jul 16
@just4him No parent can catch all the signs. Kortney was a shining star, talented and straight A's. However, she put so much pressure on herself to perform. She wanted to be a doctor. Since depression runs in our family, we believe she was self-medicating to reduce the anxiety and possibly depression.
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@just4him (89326)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
25 Jul 16
@Corbin5 It's such a shame. I agree, it is hard to catch all the signs.
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@responsiveme (14385)
• India
22 Jul 16
This is shocking news. Why do kids do this ?? I feel totally upset. My heartfelt sympathies .
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
22 Jul 16
I think peers of children encourage others to engage in this activity. Thank you for your kind words of comfort and sympathy.
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@sallypup (20844)
• Moses Lake, Washington
21 Jul 16
I am sorry. Deeply sad for you and your family.
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@LadyDuck (118731)
• Switzerland
22 Jul 16
I am so sorry for the young girl, it seems that young people cannot understand what is dangerous and can put an end to their young lives.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
22 Jul 16
Yes, their brains are not fully developed to make the right choices. Thank you for the comforting words.
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@LadyDuck (118731)
• Switzerland
22 Jul 16
@Corbin5 I suppose that we were the same when we were young, we could not perceive the danger.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
22 Jul 16
@LadyDuck I have listened to many experts that state that the young brain is just not developed enough to realize the that harm will result.
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@rebelann (31161)
• El Paso, Texas
21 Jul 16
what an awful thing to happen to all of you, I remember my brothers middle child doing something similar but that was in the early 2000s and he was not harmed but his girlfriend ended up in the hospital suffering seizures but she too survived. There has been so much in the news about kids doing stupid things when parents are not vigilant about watching them and in todays world it's so hard for working parents to watch them that closely.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
22 Jul 16
The brains of children are just not mature enough to make the right decisions. I am so glad a child you knew survived.
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@rebelann (31161)
• El Paso, Texas
22 Jul 16
You are so right about that @Corbin5 I'm glad he survived too because at that time he wasn't much older than your poor little cousin but he turned out to be a real con, crook and doper. I wish his parents had let him stay in prison but they thought when he was 17 that he would change if given a chance, it didn't work.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
23 Jul 16
@rebelann I am saddened by the struggle with brother's child too. I just wish that parents had a sure-fire way to prevent this, but to date, nothing seems to be working for so many.
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@allen0187 (26398)
• Philippines
23 Jul 16
Hard to like a post like this. My condolences to your family. Kids these days are a crazy misguided bunch! Short of living their lives for them, there really isn't much that we can do. Common sense gets thrown out the window when peer pressure steps in. Again, so sorry for your loss.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
26 Jul 16
Thank you for your kind words of comfort. Peer pressure is so powerful these days. And, with both parents working and not being home when the school day ends allows kids to be free to do things that are harmful.
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• United States
22 Jul 16
That is so tragic. My sympathies and prayers to you and her loved ones.
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• United States
22 Jul 16
@Corbin5 pretty frightening to think about.
@norcal (3272)
• Nevada City, California
23 Jul 16
@Corbin5 Tylenol (acetaminophen) overdoses are quite common. They often happen by accident. If you take just a little more than the correct dose, and do it repeatedly, it builds up in your system over time. Also, many cold medicines have it as an ingredient, so people double dose themselves without realizing it.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
23 Jul 16
@norcal Such a sad state of affairs.
@JudyEv (97271)
• Bunbury, Australia
22 Jul 16
That is such a sad story. I'm so sorry. So many will be heart-broken by this news.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
22 Jul 16
Yes, there are many of us, and we are all in shock over this loss.
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@JudyEv (97271)
• Bunbury, Australia
23 Jul 16
@Corbin5 It is so difficult. How can families stop these things happening?
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
23 Jul 16
@JudyEv I do not know. I know my cousin and her husband are wonderful parents. I think peer pressure is the problem.
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• United States
21 Jul 16
This is so sad but happens all too often. The family medicine chest can be much more lethal than the family liquor cabinet.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
22 Jul 16
I do believe that peer pressure fulls incidents like this.
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• United States
22 Jul 16
@Corbin5 I agree, peer pressure can be the biggest factor, which is often just about impossible for even the best parents to protect against.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
22 Jul 16
@LindaCPearson I keep thinking that kids may bring the medications to school and pass them out.
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@Butchcass4 (5784)
• United States
23 Jul 16
My sincerest and deepest condolences. This is so tragic. I'm so sorry this happened to you and your family. God bless you all during this most tragic time.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
24 Jul 16
Thank you for your kind words of comfort.
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• United States
24 Jul 16
@Corbin5 I lost my father more than 5yrs ago, so I do understand loss. But I know I will see him in heaven again. I KNOW because the Bible says in John 3:16 for God so loved the world that He gave His only Son that whoever BELIEVES in Him will have eternal life. Of course we must repent of our sins, thats a given. But every person has sinned and fall short of the glory of God thats why God sent His Son to pay for our sins when we ask forgiveness.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
25 Jul 16
@Butchcass4 I did reply to my cousin's message that "Kortney is now in the arms of those who loved us on earth." We have to remember that we are not our parent's children, we are God's children and He decides when he wants us to come home to Him.
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@ridingbet (36501)
• Philippines
23 Jul 16
that is sad. hre in my place, even the generic antibiotics should have prescriptions and cannot be bought OTC
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
26 Jul 16
Yes, so many medicines can be bought in stores and used by children who do not know the danger.
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@ridingbet (36501)
• Philippines
1 Aug 16
@Corbin5 nasal decongestants should be sold with prescriptions. it can make one high.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
1 Aug 16
@ridingbet I agree. Parents should also put them out of reach of children too.
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@lilnana1111 (2462)
• United States
22 Jul 16
OMG, that is heartbreaking, I have never heard of a pharm party.
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• United States
22 Jul 16
@Corbin5 shared your post on my fb page, I feel more parents need to know about this.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
23 Jul 16
@lilnana1111 Thank you so much Audrey. The more parents that know about this, the more kids will be saved.
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• United States
24 Jul 16
@Corbin5 That's what I'm hoping.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
22 Jul 16
@Corbin5 that is awful. You and your family are in my prayers. I believe you are right, we all need to keep our medicine under lock and key. I am appalled that children are putting these things into their body without a thought to the danger of it.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
22 Jul 16
I think peer pressure or want to belong to a group might fuel this behavior. Thank you for your kind words of comfort.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
22 Jul 16
@Corbin5 peer pressure is an awful thing. I have seen many children do things that they know they should not because they want to belong. Her parents must be devastated.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
23 Jul 16
@HazySue They are devastated. Out of their minds with grief. My brother, sister and I are providing all the support we can.
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• Australia
22 Jul 16
This is very saddening news of the tragic loss of a beautiful young life. One precious life need not perish for the others to learn a valuable and lasting lesson from. But a life just did. I share your and your family's grief deeply @Corbin5
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
26 Jul 16
Thank your for your kind words. Kortney was a shining star to her family. So talented and academically gifted, but she made a mistake. So sad.
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• Australia
26 Jul 16
@Corbin5 I'm a mother of several children. Everyday we think and pray for their safety and making wise choices and decisions. And love them. That's all my husband and I can do. My deep prayer for peace and comfort to Kortney's family and relatives.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
27 Jul 16
@everwonderwhy Yes, we have only one child, our son, and I say prayers every morning to have the Lord bless him, keep him and give him peace.
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@gofsey (1302)
• Madurai, India
26 Jul 16
I join with you in your prayers for the poor little soul that left for its heavenly abode so early. Really there is no blame only sorrow and makes everything worse for us who are left behind. My condolences to you all.
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@Corbin5 (79000)
• United States
26 Jul 16
Thank you for your kind words of comfort. She is now in the arms of those who loved us here on earth. My mother is holding her now in heaven.
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@gofsey (1302)
• Madurai, India
31 Jul 16
@Corbin5 Lucky Granny! I can imagine them smiling happily.
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