Will You Report Your Daughter/Son Selling Drugs

@miniam (9154)
Bern, Switzerland
July 27, 2016 5:33pm CST
I read a discussion here,in the answers section,Someone said her son was going to court because he`d been arrested manufacturing and supplying meth ,she hoped he will be set free. I felt furious, why the double standards? just because it`s my son/daughter manufacturing and supplying meth,will support them when they get arrested? Alot of violent crime is because of drugs,many lives have been lost, families,communities destroyed,neighbourhoods that flourished turned into ghettos because of drugs. Should l support because is my daughter/son/sister/brother? NO, I WILL NOT. Im sorry the lady who wrote that reply,if you`re reading this,it`s not against you,l feel very strongly about this. MyLotters,Will you support your son/daughter and wish they do not get jail term?
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
27 Jul 16
I know what I should say here, but to be honest I'm not sure. A mother's instinct is to protect her child at any cost, and I might try to deal with it myself and try to straighten him out. If I failed, then I might report him. Thankfully I'm not likely to ever be in that situation.
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@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
30 Jul 16
@miniam That is true.It destroys life ,family and future.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
27 Jul 16
Lol This is not a laughing matter but your answer just made me laugh.Straighten it yourself?.Be very thankful you do not have to deal with this problem because no matter how hard you try,you can not straighten it out. I know from experience and looking at some of my neighbours. A great percentage of sellers are addicts, they steal,cheat and destroy all the trust there ever was.
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@Shavkat (137201)
• Philippines
28 Jul 16
For me, if the son can still be saved, then I will not report it. I will let him be in a facility for rehabilitation. If it cannot be controlled, then it is about time to report this son of mine to the authorities.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
28 Jul 16
@Shavkat Let`s hope you never have to make thse choices or decisions as it`s hard and nomatter what you do, it will not be right by everyone.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
27 Jul 16
Everyone will report a son or a daughter but someone else's. If every parent reported their own kids this world would have been a safer place to live.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
28 Jul 16
@allknowing Now stop making me laugh,but how so true,people will report but someone else`s son/daughter, not their own.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
27 Jul 16
I would expect them to get the appropriate sentence and I woud support them when they get out.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
27 Jul 16
Because you are a true loving and caring person wanting the best for them.
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@Lucky15 (37346)
• Philippines
27 Jul 16
Will report that family member
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@Lucky15 (37346)
• Philippines
28 Jul 16
@miniam exactly ;)
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
27 Jul 16
And it is because you love and care about them.
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@shivamani10 (11038)
• Hyderabad, India
28 Jul 16
As is the father so is the son..need not worry about it. take it easy
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
28 Jul 16
I think parents should worry.
@dodo19 (47049)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Jul 16
This is definitely hard to answer. I'm not sure what I would do. I guess it would depend on the factors. I'd want to protect my kids, but at the same time, they do need to learn from their mistakes and pay for their crimes. Like most parents, I just hope that I don't have to worry about my kids being in this situation.
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@dodo19 (47049)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Jul 16
@miniam exactly. It's just one of those things that you'd worry about, and only time would tell. But hopefully I don't have to worry about this happening.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
29 Jul 16
I hope for you you never have to deal with such situations because no matter what you do, you will always worry if you did it right or wrong.
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@Lolaze (5093)
• St. Louis, Missouri
27 Jul 16
I would call the cops in a heart beat
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
27 Jul 16
@Lolaze Glad to know there are honest people out there
@amadeo (111948)
• United States
27 Jul 16
I will report them gladly.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
27 Jul 16
@amadeo Because you are honest to yourself and to them, because you love them enough though others in denial may see it differently.
• United States
29 Jul 16
'n that's why folks continue this sort'a behavior :( there's no consequences to their actions. not that i'd wish any 'f my family to go to prison, but if'n they did somethin' 'f this nature ('r any other law-breakin' crimes) they'd not be hidin' 'hind my skirts but face the music.
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• United States
29 Jul 16
@miniam 'n then there's that path'f destruction they leave 'long their trail...
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• United States
31 Jul 16
@miniam 'tis heartbreakin' :( many folks turn a blind eye to such't seems, not realizin' the impact such causes'n the entire community.
@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
30 Jul 16
@crazyhorseladycx I see it quite alot here,living in a little village with addicts,l know what damage they cause to their families
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@fishtiger58 (29823)
• Momence, Illinois
29 Jul 16
I would not wish they do not get a jail term, I would wish they never did such things in the first place. So glad my sons are both upstanding citizens. if I found out they were doing stuff like that I would try to stop them before they got arrested.
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@fishtiger58 (29823)
• Momence, Illinois
30 Jul 16
@miniam It is and even though they are grown I still worry about them.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
30 Jul 16
@fishtiger58 To parents,kids never stop being kids, you worry about them even if they are already parents themselves
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
29 Jul 16
Glad you have upstanding sons,it`s a jungle out there
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
27 Jul 16
Mothers will do everything for their son, but in such case, he should experience the punishment for getting involved in such illegal activity specially if it is selling meths; later on, the mother can extend other support to him so he can lead a new life (if the son is cooperative enough).
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
27 Jul 16
Well said, i`d do the same.As long as they chose to sell they are on their own.If rhey are serious about changing their lives,l will be there to support.
@supervalon (1208)
• North Las Vegas, Nevada
27 Jul 16
If i very well know my son/daughter i will surely support them! A mother/father best knows his child. If you know that it all was a period of his life and a misunderstanding of course you'd support him. And what was that question, will you report him to the police? Of course i won't report him.. Well if he really is abusive and violates the things he is doing, then i WILL.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
27 Jul 16
We all have a right to feel one way or the other. Failing to support them( in my opinion) makes them know it`s totally un acceptable and they are on their own
• Mangalore, India
28 Jul 16
In a lot of ways, i agree with you. But i also believe that you should give a person a chance to change. As his/her mother, i think i would firstly try to talk them out of it. If that doesn't work then i would move on to hitting and yelling. If it still does not work then i would call up his/her friends. I would try my best to protect my child and also at the same time i would try to get him out of this wrong business. Approaching the police would be a little hard. Don't you think that its very difficult for a mother to hand her child over to the police?
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
28 Jul 16
@Toohard_totalkto Thanks for making me laugh so much, do you still hit kids/grownups in India? Now to answer you. From experience,talking to an addict/pusher does not work, it never does,they have to want to stop. Will tell you a bitter truth,protecting them does not work. But thanks for your views
• Mangalore, India
29 Jul 16
@miniam Hitting children when they do something wrong or even when they don't , that's something Indian parents love! And the making-up routine that follows is just awsome. I dont really know. You'r probably right. Since i haven't come across such a situation, its a little difficult to think about my reaction.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
29 Jul 16
@Toohard_totalkto Let`S hope you are never in that situation,it is a very difficult situation and nothing you can really do to make it right. Sellers get used to the money so they won't stop,addicts are worse.
@quantum2020 (12040)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
29 Jul 16
I think, she is naturally defending her son. I have had the experience of knowing of some similar cases in my country, where parents do whatever it takes to keep their son out of jail. I would do the same if I were through the same situation; however, no one even a son should scape punishment from doing illegal activities.
• Austin, Texas
30 Jul 16
Never been put in a position to have to make that decision. But my late mother used to say “You're my child and I love you. But if you intentionally and willfully break the law, there's nothing I can do for you. I'll still love you. But there's nothing I can do for you. You broke the law. Surely you know there are consequences.” As for whether or not they get a jail sentence, guess that depends on how good their lawyer is.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
30 Jul 16
You had one upstanding and loving mother.My mum said the same to me and i knew she meant every word.
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@sol_cee (38223)
• Philippines
30 Jul 16
Parents' instinct is always to protect their kids. I guess she doesn't mean anything bad when she said that.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
30 Jul 16
@sol_cee Nothing bad maybe but l will not be there to protect them,they are not only destroying thir lives but other people`s lives as well
@DianneN (246595)
• United States
28 Jul 16
I don't know what I'd do in a case like that, to be honest. It is a world so far removed from ours.
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@DianneN (246595)
• United States
31 Jul 16
@miniam So far, so good. I'm sure it will stay that way.
@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
29 Jul 16
@DianneN Lucky lady,let`s hope you never have to make this decision
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@marie42 (981)
• Shreveport, Louisiana
28 Jul 16
Honestly, I don't know what I would do. I would be heartbroken and being a parent wanting to do what I could to help them.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
29 Jul 16
I too hope l never have to make decisions but should it happen, l know what l will do and why? because i love and care
@marie42 (981)
• Shreveport, Louisiana
29 Jul 16
@miniam I hope I never have to either
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