Defaming you without provocation

@aninditasen (15668)
Raurkela, India
July 28, 2016 11:08am CST
Some people have the habit of gossiping and lobbying against you in your absence and defame you even if you have not harmed or provoked them in any way. Why is it so? What is their intention? How do you tackle such persons? Do you reply in the same coin or wait for the supreme power to set things right?
4 people like this
7 responses
@marguicha (214294)
• Chile
28 Jul 16
I´d just stay away from them.
2 people like this
@mythociate (21438)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
23 Mar 18
Justitia blindfolded and holding balance scales and a sword. Court of Final Appeal, Hong Kong https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lady_Justice
@aninditasen That's something I don't like about the infamous "scales of justice"---a set of scales held up by 'the blindfold-wearing goddess,' symbolizing that we come to 'the judge' to "weigh" our differences. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lady_Justice My problem with the image: usually, the scales are empty! THAT'S NOT REAL LIFE! In real life, you 'come to the judge' with a load of treasure and a load of garbage, both of which you have to carry around. And the person you have an argument-with has those two loads too. And you think some of their treasure should be yours & some of your garbage should be theirs, and/or they think some of your treasure should be theirs & some of their garbage should be yours. And the judge is there to decide how the garbage & treasure should be divided-up between you! So a more appropriate 'justice statue' would be one with many 'balance-scales'---each plate holding piles of treasure and/or garbage! My point is: 'the decision of justice' doesn't remove you from your side of the scale ... its main goal would seem to be 'to have you understand why you have to carry the things you carry.' That's why some (quote-unquote) "Christians" LIE and say that God punishes people---no, he DOESN'T "punish"; but he LETS people use the power they find to 'punish' (or reward) their fellow people!
@aninditasen (15668)
• Raurkela, India
23 Mar 18
@mythociate To get punished God allows them to become complacent and throws them headlong.
@aninditasen (15668)
• Raurkela, India
29 Jul 16
Sometimes staying away does not work when it goes to the extend your family peace.
2 people like this
@mythociate (21438)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
19 Mar 18
Where are they doing this? I ask because the response is different in different places.
1 person likes this
@aninditasen (15668)
• Raurkela, India
21 Mar 18
It all over now. They were some of my relatives.I have set things right.
1 person likes this
@skysnap (20154)
28 Jul 16
well I call it life and it happens with or without us doing anything.
1 person likes this
@aninditasen (15668)
• Raurkela, India
29 Jul 16
But how do you handle the situation.
1 person likes this
@sofssu (23662)
28 Jul 16
I believe what goes around comes around. Its good to confront the person if you have enough evidence.. but often times there is not much evidence.
1 person likes this
@aninditasen (15668)
• Raurkela, India
28 Jul 16
Yes! you are right.
1 person likes this
• Hangzhou, China
28 Jul 16
I agree that there are such people in the habit of gossiping and lobbying against you behind you. I think that it is related to their personality developed at an early age. I usually ignore this kind of people pretending nothing has happened, but I will be more careful when I know such a person.
1 person likes this
@aninditasen (15668)
• Raurkela, India
29 Jul 16
I have such a relative, but she keeps her gossip going on against me though I have severed all contacts with her.
• India
2 Sep 16
It is better to leave it to Supreme power because even if u wanna avoid them and severe all contacts from them, there is always a person who knowingly or unknowingly becomes a middleman. Such middleman person more or less are non other than your very close friend or relatives u trust the most. They will always lecture u not to get harsh, always say we aren't your enemies and will want you to forgive that person who is defaming u. Best solution is to show them directly or indirectly that u r not liking their behaviour and let them know that u r aware of their intentions. The supreme power will take care of the rest!
1 person likes this
@aninditasen (15668)
• Raurkela, India
3 Sep 16
So very true. Sometimes this defaming is done by some very close relative.
• Jacksonville, Florida
12 Aug 16
Some people are so unhappy that they can not survive unless they make others miserable. I wait for the supreme power to set things right.