Expectations

@CRK109 (14413)
United States
August 5, 2016 10:05am CST
I've learned in my life that our expectations of people and events in our lives can make or break us. If we expect too much of the people around us, especially new relationships, we can become sorely disappointed very quickly. If we have very low expectations of new jobs or new friends, we can find some great happiness! It's not about those other people or things. It's all about what's inside of us. When I moved to my new apartment, I didn't really have any expectations. I was moving in shock, sort of. And over the last few months as I've settled in, I began to find my real feelings about this place. They are mostly positive, although I am disappointed in a few things. People put it in my head that there would be a lot of group activities here into which I could throw myself to keep busy. But those never came to be, for a lot of reasons. Keeping myself busy has been left up to me. But that's no different from where I used to live, so it's familiar to me and not really a problem at all. I've had no expectations of the people, so no one here has let me down. We say hello and goodbye and not much in between. And that's okay. I have a good relationship with the mailman, since I see him at least three times a week to give him ebay packages that I have to ship out. Expectations of other friends has been problematic because I thought they would want to visit me here and know that I'm doing okay. That has not been the case. They are busy and try to fit me into their schedules where they can and now that I'm fully aware of that fact, my expectations of visits has disappeared. And I think that's good. Because if someone ever does come to visit, I would be ecstatic! lol Meanwhile, I'm left to do all the things I've always wanted to do and never had the time. How are you with regards to expectations? Do you find yourself expecting too much of people and places and things? Or do you just let it happen as it happens? -Claudia- photo is mine
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@Corbin5 (116393)
• United States
5 Aug 16
I learned from Dr. Abraham A. Low, "Expect to be disappointed and you won't be disappointed." Has worked well for me.
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@CRK109 (14413)
• United States
7 Aug 16
Sadly, that's the exact lesson I've learned since I lost my husband. I'm done hoping for the best from people.
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@sabtraversa (13331)
• Italy
5 Aug 16
I keep my expectations low so I can be more satisfied. Good that you don't take anything for granted, that's one of the keys to happiness. I wish others wouldn't expect as much from me, but I managed to cope with that as well.
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@CRK109 (14413)
• United States
7 Aug 16
It's a very sad commentary on people of our world, but it is what it is, I guess. We're all better off to have no expectations and be happily surprised when someone decides to do something nice.
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@peavey (16866)
• United States
5 Aug 16
I do, apparently expect too much of people. I have tried to let things go, then I find myself thinking "But they should..." or "It should be this way..."
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@CRK109 (14413)
• United States
7 Aug 16
That's how I used to be and I stayed there until the pain was too great to bear. I don't expect anything anymore.
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@peavey (16866)
• United States
7 Aug 16
@CRK109 On the other hand, there is something freeing about expecting the best, but deciding to not be too disappointed when it doesn't turn out that way. We need to be careful that we don't allow ourselves to become cold
• United States
5 Aug 16
i'm more'f a 'fly by the seat 'f yer britches' kinda gal. perhaps too many disappointments early'n life. sadly i hold not much faith'n folks, what they say they're gonna do.
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• United States
7 Aug 16
@CRK109 i believe'n the good'n folks, but actions always speak louder'n empty words. ya need to find yer own peace 'n build from there.
@epiffanie (10404)
• Australia
6 Aug 16
I have found out that expectations brought me nothing but disappointment.. So I don't expect anything from anybody anymore.. And it's all good..i' glad to know that you have settled in
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@CRK109 (14413)
• United States
7 Aug 16
I agree with you. Expectations can bring heartache. Better to have none at all.
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@Vjvals (924)
• Roseville, California
5 Aug 16
No I go with the the more cynical, like this thing looks like something positive but what is the motive behind it? People however think that it's negative to be that way but it's actually better and smarter, as long as it's not taken to far I think. It's the reason I hardly connect to people first on social sites because they say they want friends and people to seek after them while they many times will not connect back for whatever reason. As far as neighbors are concerned, as long as they are not loud and rude, I've learned to give thanks and find a social network at church or at work or school if at all possible.
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@amadeo (73426)
• United States
5 Aug 16
Nah! do not expect people too much.It aways works visa versa
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@CRK109 (14413)
• United States
7 Aug 16
You are so right!
• United States
5 Aug 16
I work in a grocery store and I expect everyone who comes through my line to be nice and polite. This is never the case though and it always frustrates me. I find myself constantly being disappointed and upset because of the customers. My dad tells me to stop expecting everyone to be good because I will always be disappointed.
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@CRK109 (14413)
• United States
7 Aug 16
I worked with the public all of my working life and people never used to be like that. But through the years it has changed in a huge way. I'm not quite sure what brought about that change but it's not right. I know that when I go to the grocery store, I always smile and treat people there well, no matter how I'm feeling personally. And they always give those smiles right back to me, which make me feel so much better!
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