Expectations

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I've learned in my life that our expectations of people and events in our lives can make or break us. If we expect too much of the people around us, especially new relationships, we can become sorely disappointed very quickly. If we have very low expectations of new jobs or new friends, we can find some great happiness! It's not about those other people or things. It's all about what's inside of us. When I moved to my new apartment, I didn't really have any expectations. I was moving in shock, sort of. And over the last few months as I've settled in, I began to find my real feelings about this place. They are mostly positive, although I am disappointed in a few things. People put it in my head that there would be a lot of group activities here into which I could throw myself to keep busy. But those never came to be, for a lot of reasons. Keeping myself busy has been left up to me. But that's no different from where I used to live, so it's familiar to me and not really a problem at all. I've had no expectations of the people, so no one here has let me down. We say hello and goodbye and not much in between. And that's okay. I have a good relationship with the mailman, since I see him at least three times a week to give him ebay packages that I have to ship out. Expectations of other friends has been problematic because I thought they would want to visit me here and know that I'm doing okay. That has not been the case. They are busy and try to fit me into their schedules where they can and now that I'm fully aware of that fact, my expectations of visits has disappeared. And I think that's good. Because if someone ever does come to visit, I would be ecstatic! lol Meanwhile, I'm left to do all the things I've always wanted to do and never had the time. How are you with regards to expectations? Do you find yourself expecting too much of people and places and things? Or do you just let it happen as it happens? -Claudia- photo is mine