Need advise,I am heartbroken
August 9, 2016 4:52pm CST
My boyfriend broke up with me,it has been 3 days already when we last talk.But it really hurts and I don't know how can I move on.His reason for breaking up with me is that he can't keep his promises anymore.We have this relationship for about 8 years and in a snap he decided to break up with me.Maybe,I was really so confident enough that he will not or never leave me because I know that he loves me.I don't talk to him that much because I was busy working,maybe that is also one reason because our communication is not that strong.Do you think there's a third party or maybe he is stressed because he can't find a job?But I am also thinking that maybe he has another woman because he is far away from me right now,he is there for almost two months looking for a job and there are lots of women there.I never complained about what he do in his life even if he can't even support me financially,because we are live in partners.I remained in this relationship without asking too much from him because I really love him.Sometimes I neglect him but I don't think he will just drop me like a hot potato with that kind of reason.
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9 Aug 16
I am not sure what to tell honestly. I hope you can figure out the real reason soon. It is hard to jump right away into conclusions when we do not have enough pieces of evidence. I guess I will just share with you the experience I had. My boyfriend and I broke up once as well. Just like you, I did not know his real reason for breaking up. I did not get satisfied with his reasons that's why I kept on fighting for our relationship. I found out later that he still loves me. I was able to test it. My boyfriend cannot express himself much in words. When we broke up, he never told me that he did not love me and his actions proved that there is still love. So, sometimes I guess we just need to be strong and fight as long as we know our partner loves us still.
9 Aug 16
You have a point there.I really don't have evidence and he really proved to me how he love me before.I wish I have the courage to fight for what I really feel just like you.I just believe that when you are meant for each other,you will still be together in the end.Maybe we really need a break.I really know what to do but my problem is that I am still hurt.Maybe I just need someone to talk to.
10 Aug 16
@blinjk Sorry for a very late response. I know how it feels. I agree with you. That was what my mom also told me when she learned that my boyfriend and I broke up. We have different personalities and I guess you just need some time to think. Try to do things that will somehow make you forget him even for a while.
10 Aug 16
@annierose I asked him what's his reason at first he told me that he has no feelings for me but he changed it by saying that he still loves me but he still want to let go of me.It hurts a lot.Maybe I really should do something else that will really keep me busy.
• Pasig, Philippines
10 Aug 16
I am sorry to hear about the break up but you don't need to jump in a conclusions especially negative one. There are many reasons why people break up and I know that 8 years of being together is a really tough one to break. All you have to do is give him the break that he wants. I know that it's not easy for you but he needs to breathe and do his "ME" time. Relationship needs time with each other even though you are very busy with work. Just a short message is fine. Always remember that love is not enough in the relationship.You both need to talk to each other (a heart to heart talk).
• United Kingdom
9 Aug 16
Sorry to read your post. Good point from @marguicha though - it sounds to me like he has had many options. Rather than worry about whether he has had others or has been influenced to have others, you could give him time and let him have his space. Given that you have been together for 8 years means it is a special relationship. Don't just allow him to break up.