Would you accept an online marriage proposal?

Perth, Australia
August 15, 2016 9:23am CST
I have no idea why this popped into my head. Nor if this has actually been done before but if your lover asked you to marry them via Facebook, email, MyLot....or any other sites where you talk online, how would you feel? I mean putting aside those relationships where people live so far away from each other who rely on the internet to keep in contact. Not talking about those relationships. But how would you feel if that's how you got asked? Would you feel disappointed that they didn't put much thought into it? Be annoyed? I know I'd feel like I wasn't special.
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@MALUSE (34545)
• Denmark
15 Aug 16
Everybody knows that many people meet each other online nowadays and also marry. As far as I know such marriages are as successful as the ones which began with real life meetings. But online meetings certainly develop into personal meetings sooner or later. That means that there is the chance to propose in person. I wouldn't have the feeling of not being special. More that the partner was a coward.
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• Perth, Australia
16 Aug 16
@MALUSE That's a good point too. Cowardliness could definitely be apart of something big like a marriage proposal.
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@paigea (21397)
• Canada
27 Aug 16
@MALUSE Exactly. If marriage is being considered, certainly the people are spending time together.
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@cacay1 (32383)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
28 Aug 16
@MALUSE, wow very good explanation, agree.
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@Daljinder (20226)
• India
15 Aug 16
Depends on the person's character and personality. That special one would even make that online proposal memorable. Not necessarily by going all out. But just by being himself! Some people like to prepare and some like to do things spontaneously. So yeah ...depends!
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@topffer (31815)
• France
15 Aug 16
If you say "yes", he will make a Skype phone call to your parents to ask officially your hand.
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• Perth, Australia
16 Aug 16
@Daljinder Good point actually. If it was literally just a "Will you marry me" online, I don't know....just seems boring and like no effort was put into it. But yeah it still does depend on the person and the couple as well with how they are and what they like.
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@cacay1 (32383)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
17 Aug 16
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@moffittjc (38209)
• Gainesville, Florida
16 Aug 16
You mean I can't propose to you through myLot? LOL Seriously, that is something that needs to be done in person, and I would hope the guy would make it s special occasion somehow. And yes, the man needs to put some thought and attention into the matter, as he is soliciting his partner for what should be a lifelong commitment. And lifelong commitments can't be taken lightly. So, effort is a big deal in a marriage proposal!
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• Perth, Australia
16 Aug 16
@moffittjc lol nope. Sorry. It has to be more special! Very good answer! I sometimes wonder how I would be proposed to.....well IF it will even happen! I hope it is something special and well thought out.
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@sabtraversa (10033)
• Italy
16 Aug 16
@moffittjc A public declaration, a post on myLot. The content must be breathtaking, with a photo of my man kneeling with a ring on hand. That would only work if I met this person on myLot, that would be very romantic and meaningful. I'm easy, right?
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@moffittjc (38209)
• Gainesville, Florida
17 Aug 16
@VivaLaDani13 I will pop the question to you when you least expect it! But I promise it will be special!
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@skysnap (17489)
15 Aug 16
I know this girl online.. she's 22 young and we are communicating almost every day.. distance friendship.. and she did asked me that question. I being 10 years older than her, I directed her back to her own age group. The reason being india is conservative and it's suffering with such age gap. If i were to be in US or other first world country, I'd have given thought about it.
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• Perth, Australia
16 Aug 16
@skysnap That's fair enough. I mean you have to be comfortable with it all too anyway.
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@skysnap (17489)
16 Aug 16
@VivaLaDani13 yeah true that.
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@vandana7 (58981)
• India
26 Aug 16
I have known marriages that are successful with that age gap.
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@topffer (31815)
• France
15 Aug 16
Why not with a text message? I am perhaps conservative, but I think that a marriage proposal is something important enough to need to be done face to face, and not by email or on FB.
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• Perth, Australia
16 Aug 16
@topffer lol a text message would be so horrible! And I agree with you completely!
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@sabtraversa (10033)
• Italy
17 Aug 16
@topffer @VivaLaDani13 A text message. It makes me go back in time, now I think of a piece of paper, like in the primary school years: Will you marry me? YES or NO, check the answer! At least text messages have a cost.
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@vandana7 (58981)
• India
26 Aug 16
I am from your club...perfect marriage proposal is the guy placing a pillow on the floor, and then kneeling on it...so that there is no injury to the knee and asking for the hand, which hopefully does not come out of the arm pit, kissing it...and proposing the Romeo...or whichever Shakespearean play it was...
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@rina110383 (24224)
16 Aug 16
I'll just ignore the proposal. I prefer being asked personally and not online.
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• Perth, Australia
16 Aug 16
@rina110383 Have you ever wondered how you'd like to be asked? Like the location etc
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@rina110383 (24224)
16 Aug 16
@VivaLaDani13 No. I even doubt that someone will have the guts to ask me for marriage. People around me tell me that I intimidate them and I appear to have a strong personality to some. Most likely, no one will ever dare to propose.
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• Perth, Australia
17 Aug 16
@rina110383 You never know. Just people say so doesn't make it true. People just may like / see your personality as a challenge too. To ask you to marry them.
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@vandana7 (58981)
• India
26 Aug 16
Moles, warts, bad breath, missing teeth and body odor are important too..
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@Daljinder (20226)
• India
26 Aug 16
@vandana7 um........ you forgot this
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@vandana7 (58981)
• India
26 Aug 16
@Daljinder ... Oh yeah..the seat should be in the right place too.. or did you mean constipation.
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• Perth, Australia
26 Aug 16
@vandana7 haha true!
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• United States
22 Aug 16
seems most impersonal to me :( i'd then run screamin' like my hair 'twas'n fire :)
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@vandana7 (58981)
• India
26 Aug 16
Not at all! It is meant as a joke...nobody is serious!
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• United States
26 Aug 16
@vandana7 some're very serious from what i've been told...been some years 'go, but they'd go to the local waterin' hole (aka: boot scootin' joint, aka: local bar) pourin' their woes out when such 'twas either thwarted 'r 'twas 'xcepted 'n then regretted.
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• Perth, Australia
27 Aug 16
@crazyhorseladycx lol I can imagine someone running around like that!
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@CinnamonGrl (5772)
• Paradise, California
15 Aug 16
It's ridiculous for me to even think about it now, lol. I don't even date any more. But. . .I would not want to be asked anywhere that wasn't private. For me, that's a very romantic moment, I'd want it to be just me and my sweetheart, and I'd want it sealed with a real kiss, not a "virtual" one lol. I feel like you do, like it would make me feel not very special.
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• Perth, Australia
16 Aug 16
@CinnamonGrl I like the idea of it being private too actually. Not having a go at the ones who do this but for me personally, I'd hate to be asked with a huge crowd around me. Like how some proposals are done at a baseball game or at a family gathering or something. I mean what if the answer was no lol how embarrassing!
• Paradise, California
16 Aug 16
@VivaLaDani13 oh gawd yes, think of the humiliation.
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@msiduri (5777)
• United States
17 Aug 16
@VivaLeDani13 This is so sudden! Besides, I have to tell you, I'm already married.
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• Perth, Australia
17 Aug 16
@msiduri lol that's cool!
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@zarlamain (24146)
• United States
15 Aug 16
For me, not really. I would reject the marriage proposal if it was done online. It wouldn't seem as sincere and I just wouldn't like it. I like the traditional, face to face marriage proposal.
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• Perth, Australia
16 Aug 16
@zarlamain Yeah I understand what you mean. I'd prefer face to face too.
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@zarlamain (24146)
• United States
16 Aug 16
@VivaLaDani13 Yes, much more sincere!
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@Daljinder (20226)
• India
24 Aug 16
@zarlamain @VivaLaDani13 Butt...butt...butt.... Sincerity doesn't depend on the mode of proposal. It depends on the person doing the proposing whether online or face to face.
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@dodo19 (29276)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Aug 16
Honestly I'm really not sure. I think I'd be a little confused at first. But maybe I'd accept. I'm not quite sure at all.
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• Perth, Australia
16 Aug 16
@dodo19 It would be a very odd way to be asked and would be such a let down. I think a majority of girls / women day dream about such a day to happen and hoping it's something magical. Online doesn't sound magical or romantic at all lol
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@dodo19 (29276)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
16 Aug 16
@VivaLaDani13 lol. Doing it online doesn't have the same effect.
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@Daljinder (20226)
• India
24 Aug 16
@VivaLaDani13 If a person wants to he can make the online proposal more special than the face to face one. Plenty of sources online to do that. Skype call, roping in friends / family for special arrangements, setting up stage/ location for proposal to happen, candles, dinners, whatever, luring the girl to the location on false pretext, etc...etc... lol Imagine a park and a pathway lit up with lights leading to a private set up and a laptop screen with your guy online.
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• Otis Orchards, Washington
15 Aug 16
When I read your title the first thing I thought was you were talking about a couple who only knew each other via the internet and I thought, no way should a woman accepted such a thing. But after reading the post and understanding exactly what you mean, I think a woman would feel very let down by such a proposal. Even if they lived apart and kept in touch by the internet I would still think the woman would be somewhat disappointed that he didn't make a trip to do it in person. Doing it by the internet makes me think the man isn't confident enough to think she will say, "Yes." It would be much easier to be told "no" on the internet than in person.
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• Perth, Australia
16 Aug 16
@RichardMeister That is true. Even people who are madly in love have a chance of a marriage proposal being declined. I do feel bad for men for doing such a thing though. It is a major step and can imagine it being really stressful not knowing how the woman is going to react. But still, online is a very weak way to show you want to spend the rest of your life with them.
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• Otis Orchards, Washington
25 Aug 16
@VivaLaDani13 I agree with you. It may be a hard thing for a man to do but doing it on the internet just doesn't seem right to me.
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@Tampa_girl7 (22702)
• United States
17 Aug 16
I would prefer mine in person.
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• Perth, Australia
27 Aug 16
@Tampa_girl7 Yeah I agree! I'd rather be in person so I can then hug and kiss him.
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@paigea (21397)
• Canada
17 Aug 16
I would want it to be in person.
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• Perth, Australia
27 Aug 16
@paigea Me too!
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@sabtraversa (10033)
• Italy
15 Aug 16
If someone proposed to me in person, kneeling etc, I would be overemotional... argh, can't even think of it. I'm pretty sure my current boyfriend would propose in the classic manner though. However I would appreciate a "distant" proposal, only if it's followed by a great date with engagement ring and a bouquet of red roses. At least I would be ready.
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• Perth, Australia
16 Aug 16
@sabtraversa lol yeah that is something I wonder about. Like if I was ever to be proposed to, I hope I was wearing something nice lol
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@JESSY3236 (5479)
• United States
17 Aug 16
I would no because I'm already engaged.
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• Perth, Australia
27 Aug 16
@JESSY3236 Congratulations! How long have you been engaged for?
@JESSY3236 (5479)
• United States
29 Aug 16
@VivaLaDani13 It's been over 10 years.
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• Perth, Australia
29 Aug 16
@JESSY3236 Have you guys set a date yet?
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
15 Aug 16
i dont think yet what i will do..if i got then i will think about it..
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• Perth, Australia
16 Aug 16
@kamruzzaman5ndc That's fair enough. :)
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
17 Aug 16
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• Perth, Australia
27 Aug 16
@kamruzzaman5ndc Why the sad face?
@cacay1 (32383)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
17 Aug 16
Maybe others are glad if their love proposes marriage anywhere, hehehe.
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• Perth, Australia
27 Aug 16
@cacay1 lol that's true! I guess it just depends on the person.
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@cacay1 (32383)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
28 Aug 16
@VivaLaDani13 , yeah it depends on the person's way of thinking, it is just on line proposal by the way hehehe.
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@noni1959 (2845)
• United States
21 Aug 16
If the relationship wasn't long distance, I would not accept and would rethink the relationship.
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• Perth, Australia
27 Aug 16
@noni1959 Yeah that's very understandable!