Sometimes You Just Have to Back Off

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I learned a big lesson about the relationship between my sister and me this week. She is my stepsister and only came into my life about a year and a half ago. We became close almost immediately because we're both goofy and like to have fun. There are certain things though that separate us very much. She is only 16 years old and I am 30. I have learned to control my bad mood and not take it out on everyone and she has not. A pet peeve of mine is when someone starts an argument with me or causes a big scene simply because they are in a bad mood. Another pet peeve is when they refuse to admit that they did something wrong and try to push the blame on me. Here's what happened... My brother and I had been hanging out all day and having a great time. We left for church and had to pick my sister up on the way. All three of us get to church and we're getting out of the car when my brother asks his sister to grab his Bible out of the backseat since she was getting out of the back and could easily grab it. Immediately her attitude changed and she responded a sarcastic and rude tone, "Why don't you get it?" This came out of nowhere. I asked her to chill out and she turned on me and told me not to tell her what to do. She grabs the Bible and instead of handing it to my brother, puts it down on the hood of my car and storms off. She was the first one to get to the church doors and she walked in and tried to close the door in my face. Naturally, I got mad about it. I never did anything wrong and my brother never did anything wrong. None of us deserved that behavior. My sister later sent a text to me and apologized. I told her I was frustrated because the attitude came out of nowhere. Suddenly her apology meant nothing and she is arguing with me because supposedly she was "kidding" when she was giving my brother an attitude about the Bible. I'm sorry but if you're kidding about something, EVERYONE should be in on the joke. Nobody was laughing or smiling. Also, if she was kidding then she would have explained that when I asked her to chill out. Anyway, I've ranted for long enough. I'm just super mad about the whole thing. I hate that she behaved like that and I hate that she's now lying about it and trying to make it seem like I caused the whole thing. It's made me realize that it probably isn't the best idea to be that close to someone who is still a young teenager. I left the dramatic teenage years a long time ago and I have no intentions of dealing with them again. I'm still going to be there for her as a sister but maybe the "hanging out ALL. THE. TIME." thing needs to slow down. One more teenage outburst and I may lose my mind.