Being Honest Should Not Be Shocking

@BelleStarr (39591)
United States
August 22, 2016 6:13pm CST
We were at Walmart today and as we were walking out after paying for our order, I noticed a small package of boullion has slipped down and not been added to our order. I picked it out of the carriage and went to a register to pay for it. The clerk had seen us go by with our carriage and seen me come over. He was shocked that I wanted to pay them. Shocked? Why is honesty shocking? Shouldn't everyone be honest? Well I guess I live in a fantasy world, no most people are not honest he told me. My response was I like to treat even a company like I wanted to be treated. I don't want you to cheat me and I won't cheat you. I was sad that he thought I was the exception not the rule. I like to think that most people are honest and would have done the same thing I did. What do you think? Are most people honest?
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@moffittjc (44466)
• Gainesville, Florida
23 Aug 16
I think the answer to your question ("why is honesty shocking?") can be summed up in one word: Walmart. You were at Walmart. To me that answers everything. I was a manager at Walmart for 7 years, and you wouldn't believe how much theft occurred and how dishonest all the customers were. It's like Walmart attracts the worst of the worst of society (I'm not saying everyone who shops there is bad, but hopefully you get what I'm saying). You just see so much dishonesty when you're working there that you just become numb to it. Then, when someone like you comes along and displays an ounce of honesty, it shocks them because they are not used to seeing that at all!
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@akalinus (19951)
• United States
23 Aug 16
Not all the customers are like that. We took the soda in and paid for it.
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
23 Aug 16
It really is a sad commentary on the state of our world and our souls isn't it!!
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@moffittjc (44466)
• Gainesville, Florida
23 Aug 16
@akalinus I know that not all customers are like that, but you wouldn't believe how many are! It's quite depressing.
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@DianneN (81979)
• United States
22 Aug 16
I hope most people are as honest as you. I've done the same as you, but I think some people would like to get away with anything that they think is free.
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@ramapo17 (25199)
• Melbourne, Florida
23 Aug 16
I have done the opposite. I have paid for things and didn't put them in my cart and if I realize it before I leave the parking lot I will go in to the register and get it. They are aware of what I did. Other times I will just leave it as I don't feel like going back in to get it if it is inexpensive.
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
24 Aug 16
It does seem that many people would consider this a gift from heaven, like God would steal from one person to give to another, he is God not Robin Hood!!
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@jaboUK (54866)
• United Kingdom
23 Aug 16
It's rather sad that it's judged exceptional to be honest. Lovely begonia - is it yours?
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
23 Aug 16
It is from the Jeanne d'Arc garden in Quebec City.
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@jaboUK (54866)
• United Kingdom
23 Aug 16
@BelleStarr Oh yes, I remember you posted some more from there.
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
24 Aug 16
@jaboUK I have tons more , I expect they will turn up on the odd post here and there.
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@Susan2015 (21305)
• United States
22 Aug 16
I think most are honest. Yes, I would of done the same thing. It's like when you eat out and the waitress doesn't add something to the bill, we always tell them.
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
23 Aug 16
Me too and often as not they don't add it on which I always think is wrong becasue it is the restaurants money not theirs!! But I don't want to get them fired so it is a catch 22.
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@ramapo17 (25199)
• Melbourne, Florida
23 Aug 16
I never had that happen to me @Susan2015. I think I will pay more attention.
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@JudyEv (130090)
• Bunbury, Australia
23 Aug 16
It is sad that honesty isn't just a given. I think many people would have just kept walking. It's sad but that's the way it is I guess.
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
23 Aug 16
It is sad but I just don't want to live with any more guilt than I already have lol
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@JudyEv (130090)
• Bunbury, Australia
24 Aug 16
@BelleStarr I don't know if I missed the flower last time but that is beautiful.
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
24 Aug 16
@JudyEv Thank you it is from my trip to Quebec.
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@Drosophila (16702)
• Ireland
23 Aug 16
No.. having worked in a shop for 2 years.. I can say you are the exception not the rule
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
24 Aug 16
lol I never like t think of myself as exceptional in any way but I guess perhaps in this way I am a bit scrupulous.
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@Drosophila (16702)
• Ireland
24 Aug 16
@BelleStarr ya, too many people think a corporation won't miss an item or 2
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@SIMPLYD (81398)
• Philippines
23 Aug 16
I think there are more honest people like you that i have dealt with . Me, too , i would pay it since i discovered it while i am there yet .
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
23 Aug 16
I probably would even have gone back if I had found it when we loaded the stuff into the car.
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@SIMPLYD (81398)
• Philippines
24 Aug 16
@BelleStarr That's understandable .
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@cherriefic (4804)
• Philippines
22 Aug 16
Not a lot I guess. But you've done the right thing so if people are more like you, maybe the world will be a better place.
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
24 Aug 16
I would like to think that this is true, the fate of the world is in our hands.
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• Philippines
24 Aug 16
@BelleStarr Yes indeed!
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@CinnamonGrl (6066)
• Paradise, California
22 Aug 16
Geez I need my eyes checked. I thought you said the clerk had seen you go by with your "carnage." Now THAT shocked me. Anyway, strangely enough I think most people would do just what you did. I guess the clerk has had some bad experiences. Those flowers are so pretty!
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
23 Aug 16
Thank you they are from the Jeanne D'Arc garden in Quebec City.
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@akalinus (19951)
• United States
22 Aug 16
We came out of Walmart and were looking at the receipt. We noticed that the cashier did not charge for two packs of soda. We took them back in and ran them through the checkout again. We thought it was the decent thing to do even though we did not have to. I always told my kids that cheating others will bring bad things into our lives. It must have stuck because my son with me agreed that we needed to go pay for the soda.
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
23 Aug 16
It is great when we can pass this on to our children, isn't it. I am sure all of my children would do the same thing, we do talk about how disconcerting it is to clerks when wee try to tell them to charge us more lol
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@akalinus (19951)
• United States
23 Aug 16
@BelleStarr I used the example of the free sausages we got from a malfunctioning vending machine while on a trip. The sausages kept tumbling out of the machine and onto the floor. We figured that if we did not get them, someone else would. So we took a bunch. Wrong decision. Later, towards evening, we had a flat tire in rush hour traffic in Omaha. We had to unload a bunch of stuff to find the tire and jack. Somehow, we lost a sleeping bag as well. The sausages cost us a lot.
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
23 Aug 16
@akalinus The wages of sin lol yikes sometimes God has a wicked sense of humor, that would have cured me. Actually I have a story too but that is for another day lol
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@UncleJoe (10617)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
23 Aug 16
Unfortunately, honesty is not the norm. I have actually been chastised for returning too much change at a register and going back to pay for missed items.
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• Kiryat Ata, Israel
23 Aug 16
Were you chastised for returning the extra money to the salesman ? Who chastised you ? It's like saying we are a society that don't like honesty.
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@UncleJoe (10617)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
23 Aug 16
@stringer321 Coworkers thought I was nuts.
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
23 Aug 16
I have found that I often end up causing confusion and extra work when I try t explain that I was not charged enough, supervisors have to be called, it is so weird!!
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@silvermist (20085)
• India
23 Aug 16
@BelleStarr He was right.Not all people are honest..Some would have just walked away.
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• Kiryat Ata, Israel
23 Aug 16
That's the problem, the shock of seeing an honest man is like admitting we are a society where most of it are not honest.
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
24 Aug 16
I know but it is sad isn't it, that it is expected we will be dishonest.?
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@silvermist (20085)
• India
24 Aug 16
@BelleStarr When people come across dishonest people more often they get surprised to meet honest ones.
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@simone10 (21647)
• Louisville, Kentucky
25 Aug 16
I think it is shocking that more people aren't honest like you are. I would have done the same thing you did and gone back in to pay for it.
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
25 Aug 16
It was never an option not to in my head but evidently, it is rare.
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@simone10 (21647)
• Louisville, Kentucky
26 Aug 16
@BelleStarr There are a lot of people out there who wouldn't have thought twice about just packing it all up and going home with the unpaid item.
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@miniam (9235)
• Bern, Switzerland
23 Aug 16
Personally, l`d not have taken it back,l do not want the stares and having to explain myself.Some years back,same thing happened to me,l did not take it back, l did not want to explain how it got there but l was so ashamed and scared on my way home,l kept looking at my back to make sure cops were not following me. It might have been a $1.50 coffee creamer but l felt so bad.
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
24 Aug 16
It was just easier to do the right thing than to live with my conscience.
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@miniam (9235)
• Bern, Switzerland
24 Aug 16
@BelleStarr Admire your honesty.
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• Preston, England
23 Aug 16
@BelleStarr I tend to be suspicious and wary so it is always a lovely surprise when people show how honest they can be
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
24 Aug 16
Well you can trust me no matter what, I was scared straight at a young age!! But I agree, there are few people I trust completely.
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• Preston, England
26 Aug 16
@BelleStarr we can all trust one another here as there is no way friends we don't meet directly can take our things from us
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• United States
23 Aug 16
yes ma'am, i've done the same. i've e'en paid fer schtuff that i've broken by oops. the latter involved a similar query - 's to why i didn't jest walk off like others do. sad, aint 't? kudo's to ya!
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
24 Aug 16
When I was an antique dealer someone broke a beauty piece in my case and yes, walked off Very sad.
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• United States
24 Aug 16
@BelleStarr oh dear! i hope that they't least offered to pay fer such??
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@theBlock (2696)
• United States
22 Aug 16
@BelleStarr I would've done the same---no big deal. I do believe in most part that there are more honest people than dishonest ones.
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
23 Aug 16
I hope so too and among the people I know, most are honest.
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@theBlock (2696)
• United States
23 Aug 16
@BelleStarr A lot of people don't realize if one lies too much, he/she will eventually cannot know the truth, and lies either hurt themselves or others. Oh, and most people will forgive the liar if he or she fesses up. So "Honesty is the Best Policy," baby!
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@Tampa_girl7 (25825)
• United States
24 Aug 16
I would hope that everyone would do the right thing.
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
25 Aug 16
I feel the same way.
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@sharay (2776)
• India
24 Aug 16
I think "YES". In my country, India, people say that it rains as there are still some honest people left on earth....its just a saying but coming to think of it spiritually, I hope it might be true. As for me, I have done it many times, even last month, while purchasing some cosmetic and accessories for my daughter, picked a ring which was fully covered with stones (a beautiful one), in order to keep it safe...i did not put it in the shopping bag but just put it in little finger so that it could remain intact. Later when billing forgot to give it for billing and realized it only when I was about to leave the shop....then I immediately went to them and said sorry and stuffs....they did not speak a word about it but were strangely looking at me as though I have committed a crime of returning it for billing ... that is how people are now-a-days I suppose. We have to just follow our conscience, the rest rests in God's hand, even if no one else watches...I know that our God is watching our every move. Sometimes, when my shop with my daughter, she has to open the chips packet and eat it immediately before even billing it, which she does sometimes, but I make sure that I carry the empty packet and bill it by which I am satisfied that I made sure that my daughter follows the same every time in every situation of her life
@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
26 Aug 16
I think we have all seen people eating food that they will not pay for in the grocery store and they don't seem to think it is stealing.
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@sueznewz2 (10121)
• Alicante, Spain
24 Aug 16
I think it's a sad reflection of our times... I would have done the same ..I agree with the philosophy of treating others as you would like them to treat you.... but I think a lot of people would have just carried on walking...
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@BelleStarr (39591)
• United States
25 Aug 16
I know that is true but I hope it is only true for a very few
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