I wonder if I made excuses like that before..

@sharon6345 (118146)
United States
August 24, 2016 11:05am CST
My friend has a small budget and I get that for sure. She is not able to live on much and I am telling her that if she would turn off her boost phone and keep her free phone. I will help her buy a computer to do some sites I heard one excuse after another and you know what. I said stop don't worry about it. If you don't want my help it's ok. I am willing to hel you if your willing to work online for some hours. She told me she was tired and needed a nap. I said have a great day ok. Click.
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@GardenGerty (96645)
• Marion, Kansas
24 Aug 16
She does not see herself as being able to succeed. She will sabotage any help you try to give her. It is the same for a lot of people in a lot of ways.
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@sharon6345 (118146)
• United States
24 Aug 16
I am o k with it if that is her thing. Leave me to help my mom.
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@jstory07 (65338)
• Roseburg, Oregon
24 Aug 16
@sharon6345 You should help ypour mom first anyway.She is a sweet lady.
@marlina (71208)
• Canada
24 Aug 16
Your friend sounds like she wants everything but without doing anything in order to get it.
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@sharon6345 (118146)
• United States
24 Aug 16
She will not get it from me.
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@marguicha (90184)
• Chile
24 Aug 16
Most of those people just want others to give them things. They are not willing to work.
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@sharon6345 (118146)
• United States
24 Aug 16
It's a sad shame too.
@celticeagle (117156)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Aug 16
Some people really change their tune when they have to actually do something and work for something. As long as nice and good hearted people like you help these people they will never learn to do it for themselves. I am glad you have some what changed your tune and aren't doing that any more. People shouldn't be able to get things so easy and have others do for them so much. THey will never learn to do for themselves that way.
@sharon6345 (118146)
• United States
25 Aug 16
I don't feel good busting my tail fo people to just keep taking from me. I am putting the beaks on it big time.
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@celticeagle (117156)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Aug 16
@sharon6345 I hope you are able to do that. Takers are the pits.
• United States
25 Aug 16
's this person e'er used a puter 'fore? perhaps they jest don't wish to feel obligated? then 'gain, they could jest be lookin' fer co-dependence 'n sympathy. might be battlin' depression??
@sharon6345 (118146)
• United States
25 Aug 16
She is depressed for sure. I will leave her to manage her life.
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@ricki_911 (19012)
• Toronto, Ontario
24 Aug 16
A lot of people are like this, they don't want to help themselves. One being a friends daughter sitting at home on welfare with one child pregnent with another, expecting everything handed to her. She whines she has no money yetwhen I gave her a few links she had excuses.
@sharon6345 (118146)
• United States
24 Aug 16
I know I am not handing her anything. She needed a nap oh well go get one. I did tell her that she needs to work sites to get stuff. nope note here.
@amadeo (61398)
• United States
24 Aug 16
No comment
@sharon6345 (118146)
• United States
24 Aug 16
You made me laugh.
@Katlynn (377)
• United States
24 Aug 16
I have had the same experience. The bottom line is if someone doesn't want to help themselves, you can't do much to help them. You were generous to make the offer and it's up to your friend to do the rest.
@sharon6345 (118146)
• United States
24 Aug 16
That is why I said have a great day. screw that.
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@Hate2Iron (7664)
• Canada
24 Aug 16
You can only do so much and then they have to pick up the reins!
@sharon6345 (118146)
• United States
24 Aug 16
I sure wish someone was wiling to help me like I was willing to help her.
@jstory07 (65338)
• Roseburg, Oregon
24 Aug 16
I had lots of friends like that and when I told them about different sites they never even went to check them out. They wanted the money but not do any work to earn it. I even told my friend about bubblews and she never joined there.
@sharon6345 (118146)
• United States
24 Aug 16
Well this is ok with me I am not forcing anyone to join. I am not sharing my money with them either.
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@UncleJoe (9461)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
24 Aug 16
Sometimes when we help cure somebody else's problems it leaves them with nothing to complain about.
@sharon6345 (118146)
• United States
24 Aug 16
Oh I see and it might not be good. Thanks.
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@msiduri (5757)
• United States
24 Aug 16
Sometimes people are in the situation they because there's a comfort level to it, regardless of how uncomfortable it may be. Sometimes people are frightened of making a change. You gave her information. You know about leading a horse to water. You can still help her in round about ways (think of Tom Sawyer whitewashing that fence). But that's evil.
@sharon6345 (118146)
• United States
24 Aug 16
I forgot what happened in that book. I read it so long ago for school..
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@CinnamonGrl (5740)
• Paradise, California
24 Aug 16
My daughter has a friend like that. Maybe former friend. Not willing to do anything after asking for help. . .I bought her a computer and she just didn't want to do even the simplest things. I had asked her about it first, not just tried to tell her she had to do anything. At the time she said it sounded great, and then once she had the computer, she didn't want to use it for that.
@sharon6345 (118146)
• United States
24 Aug 16
That sucks big time and I would be upset. I am not going to bother with begging her after all it's her life.