Is there a pill for heartaches?
By Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
Philippines
August 25, 2016 7:00am CST
A friend is nursing a broken heart and for two weeks now, I've been the only person he really talks to outside of work. And he's miles and miles away from me. Thank goodness for Viber.
Today, he's in such bad mood again and is in terrible pain. I wish I could do more for him, but we both know I couldn't, other than cheering him up with my funny messages once in awhile.
He can't seem to survive the day without talking to me these days. He sends me a message the moment he wakes up at 5:30 in the morning and we'd talk until it's time for me to sleep and he'd ask me to message him as soon as I get up which I do.
If only there was a pill to nurse a broken heart, i would have sent it to him a long time ago.
How do you cope with yours?
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39 responses
@Mike197602 (15487)
• United Kingdom
25 Aug 16
I plan to stay single so coping with a broken heart is not something I'll have to deal with
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
25 Aug 16
@Mike197602 You had a good hard look at yourself...
I think it's always wise to learn from our mistakes. To commit the same mistake over and over again is stupidity.
You don't do well in relationships?
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@Mike197602 (15487)
• United Kingdom
25 Aug 16
@toniganzon in some ways I think I am wise.
I've been around the block a few times and like to think I've learned from my mistakes and also have had a good hard look at myself.
I know I don't do too well in a relationship so have decided not to get into one
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32507)
• Calgary, Alberta
25 Aug 16
Anti depressants actually exists. Then there is the Banana. Yup the Banana fruit is rich in dopamine and dopamine can ease anxiety, stress and loneliness.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
25 Aug 16
So true. But you know it doesn't last long lol!
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@CaptAlbertWhisker (32507)
• Calgary, Alberta
26 Aug 16
@toniganzon I know someone who eats 10 bananas a day just to stay cheerful and happy with all that dopamine.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
26 Aug 16
@CaptAlbertWhisker 10! And how big are those bananas? Coz I can eat 20 tiny ones in one seating. Lol
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@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
21 Sep 16
One word - tequila.
You broke his heart dear sister?
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@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
23 Sep 16
@toniganzon sounds like something that tequila can help with!
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
24 Sep 16
@allen0187 listened with him. We both enjoyed the music.
The answer is NO to your question. That's something evil that I'd never do to a friend.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
21 Sep 16
Dear brother. Somebody else did break his heart and his family is fed up with all his depression and complaints. He's wallowing in self pity.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
14 Sep 16
Keeping ourselves busy is really the best distraction and promotes fast healing.
Four months! That was really long. I couldn't remember any moment that I've been in a really terrible heartache for too long.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
15 Sep 16
@toniganzon Yes, it's took that long , because i wasn't working again . I only recovered when i got this job .
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
25 Aug 16
Of my broken heart experiences in life, I did well to leave them behind rather quickly. I am not sure what the key to that was, except maybe the fact that there was always something exciting around the next corner to help me forget.
You are a good friend to your friend Toni.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
25 Aug 16
Lucky you, there's always a next one to help you forget. A big distraction is a great way.
I have learned to overcome a broken heart by keeping myself busy all the time. That way i don't have the time to even recall that sad moment in my life.
Pain can be suffocating.
@ilocosboy (45157)
• Philippines
25 Aug 16
There are none but also a heart. Heartbroken needs friendship and comfort from a family, that more than the effect of the pill. Besides, pill are just chemical and family are relatioship.
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
29 Aug 16
I am sorry to hear about your friend. What you have been doing is good because I believe you can make his burden lighter. Friends are really our treasures. I cannot imagine life without them.
I am trying to do many things when I am in a depression stage. Sometimes, I will visit a friend. Sometimes, I will read a book. Sometimes I will watch a TV. Healing a broken heart takes time. I hope that your friend will be able to overcome that depression soon.
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@annierose (18926)
• Philippines
29 Aug 16
@toniganzon Yes, it is. It is a very slow process, especially if the wound that was made was very deep.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
29 Aug 16
@annierose right. I'm actually talking to him at this very moment but we don't talk about what happened to him.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
29 Aug 16
Thank you. I hope the same for him. We all know that time heals all wounds but we just don't know for how long we have to endure. Keeping ourselves busy is a good distraction.
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
28 Aug 16
I am sorry to hear. Did he just get out of a relationship?
But hey.... speaking to someone from the time you wake up to sleep - you may develop some feelings, no?!
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Aug 16
No. He's been my friend for 6 years. We used to talk like this a lot too but we never felt anything romantic between us.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Aug 16
@infatuatedbby I always do especially to a friend in need who's honest enough to ask for help.
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
28 Aug 16
@toniganzon Oh I see! :) Very nice of you to help him out during the rough times. Hope everything gets better with him!
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
25 Aug 16
You did not tell us the cause, anyway I think broken hearts have different degrees of breakages, if we think of a cure we have to think of. It as an ailment so there's chronic, acute, curable and sad to say incurable.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
25 Aug 16
lol i don't think it's necessary to go into details.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
26 Aug 16
@toniganzon your friend is asking for a pill when he might be needing a major operation, I need to know the history to cure him
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
26 Aug 16
@louievill I think there's nowhere in my discussion where I said he was asking me for a pill. 
@antonbunot (11091)
• Calgary, Alberta
22 Sep 16
How about a piece of your heart!? hehehe
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
23 Sep 16
Now that you've mentioned it, I think I should consider that. but it's going to be really costly.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
24 Sep 16
@antonbunot a piece of my heart doesn't come cheap. 
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
25 Aug 16
That's what I did in the past as I was too proud to show anybody I could crumble and cry. But it was suffocating. I could hardly breathe!
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
26 Aug 16
@RubyHawk I know better now. That's why I'm trying to be there for my friend. Coz i know how it hurts.
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@RubyHawk (99425)
• Atlanta, Georgia
26 Aug 16
@toniganzon I know it's best to let out. I'm glad you could do that.
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@Proudmommy2boys (73)
• Fayetteville, Arkansas
26 Aug 16
I focused on my kids, and all the good things in my life, made it harder to think about the bad thing that was bothering me. Like Peter Pan said think happy thoughts lol
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
26 Aug 16
And we all know thinking happy thoughts during depressing moments couldn't easily take the pain away. If it were that easy, there won't be anybody suffering from depression anymore.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
26 Aug 16
@Proudmommy2boys That's why he talks to me. I'm his distraction.
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@Proudmommy2boys (73)
• Fayetteville, Arkansas
26 Aug 16
@toniganzon I know I was just saying it helps me I suffer from depression but try not to show it. Also it doesn't take the pain away but does help distract from it, sometimes I find being distracted is better than feeling it if that makes sense
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
21 Sep 16
Yeah, we need to be with friends or family and be distracted. The problem with my friend is that, when he's at home, he's alone.
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@CoolPeace (1566)
• Miami, Florida
21 Sep 16
@toniganzon He can join a social club or events to meet people.
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@Loverabbit (3401)
• Karachi, Pakistan
23 Sep 16
I rather drink coffee and make sure it has cream while I talk to such friends
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@Loverabbit (3401)
• Karachi, Pakistan
24 Sep 16
@toniganzon yea but maybe cause only a coffee makes me careless about the fake world
@shaggin (71666)
• United States
26 Aug 16
@toniganzon Yes it is awful. I am glad you are there for your friend! He is lucky to have someone who is able to be there for him so much.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
26 Aug 16
@shaggin Yeah he told me so. I've been there, I know how it hurts, I know the pain and nobody was there for me. So I don't want to abandon him.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
25 Aug 16
Yeah, unfortunately we all know there's no pills for that. And it sucks when there's nothing you can do but wait for time to heal all wounds.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
27 Aug 16
@cherriefic I'd prefer the mental hospital actually! My middle name is crazy. I'm crazy with few lucid intervals.
@Letranknight2015 (51523)
• Philippines
26 Aug 16
Only time can heal him and Im sure one day he'll find a new inspiration if he can muster enough courage to go on in his life. It's never too late as long as we live, I mean look at the guy who has no arms and legs, he even got married with a kid.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
26 Aug 16
He's 45. He's been in relationships in the past that didn't work too. It's easy to say time heals all wounds. The question is when. It's never a good thing to find another relationship as a rebound. I think it's best to stay single for as long as you can and when the pain is all gone before starting a new one.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Aug 16
@Letranknight2015 yeah let's hope for that. He's already 45 and hope he finds someone.
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@Letranknight2015 (51523)
• Philippines
28 Aug 16
@toniganzon Well, I am single and some how contented with my life. Im sure once he thinks he is happy again he might find some one someday unexpectedly.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Aug 16
Our time difference is 12 hours. When he's at work, we talk during the first few hours till I go to sleep and he keeps himself busy. Then I wake up by the time he gets home and we talk before he goes to bed.
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@JudyEv (325759)
• Rockingham, Australia
28 Aug 16
@toniganzon As I said, he is lucky to have your support.
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
27 Aug 16
as an older person and my students open up to me, i talk to them like a mother, but i advise them that love can wait and they should stick to their studies first
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Aug 16
That's a motherly advice. But how would you advice a 45 year old man?
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
28 Aug 16
@toniganzon well, that 45 year old man might be insecure to be alone. hope you are getting him out of his depression
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
26 Aug 16
That's why he talks to me. We all know there's no such pill lol!
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@thelme55 (76476)
• Germany
26 Aug 16
@toniganzon it is good to have you as a friend.
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