Something Terrible Happened
By minisam
@miniam (9154)
Bern, Switzerland
August 26, 2016 5:45pm CST
My brother who l more or less have no contact with has alcohol problems,for years he`S never held down a job,even sell his clothes to buy alcohol.
Even the social system could not help him because he kept breaking their little rules so he does not even have health insaurence since long.
Last night while out drinking,he fell down and broke his hip,someone found him in the gutter and called mum.
Like all mums,she took him to the hospital,this will not be cheap and im so mad.He`s always caused us so much emotional pain but now he`s going to cost THEM money, told mum to count me out, im not giving a single cent.
I know she will ask every one of us to contribute as she herself do not have money,im not giving a cent.
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14 responses
@LeaPea2417 (36399)
• Toccoa, Georgia
27 Aug 16
I totally understand you. I wouldn't give a cent either. I have a family member in that type of situation and I am fed up with him and wouldn't help him money wise.
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@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
27 Aug 16
@LeaPea2417 , sometimes we feel it is too much tolerating an able person.
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@shivamani10 (11038)
• Hyderabad, India
27 Aug 16
Sometimes the times runs very bad for them. So they can not realize the things easily. Generally, people become addicts if their time is bad. One more thing is that there are people who cajole others and make their position bad. We must be careful with those persons.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
27 Aug 16
@LeaPea2417
Im sorry you have to go through it with a family member,they hurt you so much with their selfish acts and do not even realize it or maybe they dont care.
I feel so angry at what he`s doing to my family.
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@shivamani10 (11038)
• Hyderabad, India
26 Aug 16
This is the affection of a mother. Whatever may be his habits, as a sister it is your moral responsibility to support your mother. Imagine your son in the place of your brother. What will you do? It is only because of one's own bad period one will be addicted to such habits. In this situation, they need some support and help from family members. Otherwise, who will take care of them? I really wonder how affections are fading away in relationships.
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@shivamani10 (11038)
• Hyderabad, India
27 Aug 16
@miniam AA is very difficult to relinquish. 25 years of AA means really difficult to come out. It is only God who can change these people.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
27 Aug 16
@shivamani10
True God helps,family and loved ones help,but we as humans must also accept and appreciate the help by working together to achieve what`S best otherwise all the help is wasted in a way that it will not bring any positive results.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
26 Aug 16
Affections should come from both sides, you can not always be a burden because of family love or people feeling sorry for you.
Yes we got together once,contributed and took him to a clinic, this was good money we could all have used but we used it for his clinic to help.When he got out dry he told us where to go,called us al names and the rest.Later he stopped his AA and went right back where he was before the clinic.
Yes we`ve been trying to help for over 25 years, nothing works.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
27 Aug 16
@miniam that's like a slap in the face. i guess he'd rather die?
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
26 Aug 16
He did not have the money to pay insurance so the gov has to pay ,and sure they have rules, like you have to attend school for further education or be there on time when they need to see you and stuff like that.Such little things he could not do,the schools are not hard, maybe 2 hours a day,just to keep you busy nd they don't last forever maybe 6 months.
I can tell you exactly what he will say when he get`s out of the hospital he will say he did not ask anyone to help,he has an attitude.
The things he`s done if you tell anyone they will think it`s a lie but they are all true.He`s evil
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@celticeagle (158739)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Aug 16
I don't blame you. Sad that people can do this to themselves.
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@shivamani10 (11038)
• Hyderabad, India
27 Aug 16
@miniam A very few people will have such realization. AA is a dangerous habit. One can not come out so easily.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
27 Aug 16
@shivamani10
Addiction puts insecurity in you and former or present addicts feel they can not cope without the AA or whatever program they are attending
@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
27 Aug 16
What l do not understand is how someone can destroy himself so bad and not see the need to change.I`ve had my times, but i did not need anyone to tell me i was on the wrong path,l checked things and knew that was not the life i wanted then worked at straightening things out.
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
27 Aug 16
Sorry to hear. I hope he has a speedy recovery... That bill will be a hefty one :(
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
27 Aug 16
@miniam $600+ for a doctor's visit and laxatives? whoa!
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
27 Aug 16
@hereandthere
that`s right, he got a pack of laxatives but when the bill came,it was CHF 600+.CHF is more or less same with $ maybe a little cents different
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
27 Aug 16
The doctors here charge crazy amounts,3 weeks ago,hubby saw a doc for tummy ache,what he got were laxatives,Wednesday the bill came $600+.
This is what is making me furious,my brother does not even have insurance,his bill will come at few thousand,he dont have a cent to his name,my mum dont have that kind of money lying around,im so angry and frustrated l just want to cry.
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@Hate2Iron (15730)
• Canada
27 Aug 16
That is such a sad story but I can see where your mom is coming from. That's just what moms do. I can see where you are coming from too! You can only try for so long before it begins to tick you off!
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@CinnamonGrl (7083)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
26 Aug 16
I am very sorry your family is going through this.
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@teresatrotter (4073)
• Jacksonville, Florida
28 Aug 16
I don't know how it is where you are, but in the US...many people don't pay the bill because it is too high, so they usually get some kind of government aid to help, or it goes unpaid.
