Talk About Confusing
By MARILYN
@Marilynda1225 (79645)
United States
August 31, 2016 9:40am CST
I recently posted that the rehab facility where my mom is called and said she was ready for discharge on Sept. 1. I was totally shocked as I didn't feel she was ready to come home even though she's made excellent progress.
Now they called this morning and said they did a review and she is going to stay longer and not be discharged tomorrow. They don't have a discharge date set but will keep me posted.
Talk about frustrating!! Guess we'll be going day by day now and that's all I can do. I'm pretty sure it's come down to how much longer the insurance will pay and then the discharge will be scheduled.
Am I ready for her to come home? No
But, I don't see an alternative right now so it will be a see what happens from here game.
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29 responses
@CinnamonGrl (7083)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
31 Aug 16
I feel for you. Everything involved in caring for an aging parent is difficult. I try to remember it will be me in not so long, and plan out what my kids should do.
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@Marilynda1225 (79645)
• United States
31 Aug 16
I guess this is just the natural progression of life. I would hate for my children to have to deal with even half of what I'm going through. Sometimes I wonder if it's worth living such a long life
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@Marilynda1225 (79645)
• United States
31 Aug 16
sadly, I don't think there's enough time in the world for me to be ready 
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@Marilynda1225 (79645)
• United States
31 Aug 16
99% of the time it will be just me but my children are willing to help. But, I don't know how much of the daily goings on they'll be able to help with. Caring for an elderly person is difficult
@JamesHxstatic (29242)
• Eugene, Oregon
31 Aug 16
That is probably true about the insurance. Wishing you and her well.
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@Marilynda1225 (79645)
• United States
31 Aug 16
insurance is probably 99% of what the decisions they are making are based on
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
31 Aug 16
The uncertainties are sure frustrating, you have been doing this for long. You take care of yourself too.
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@Marilynda1225 (79645)
• United States
31 Aug 16
Yes I've been doing this for a long, long time and it's exhausting
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@Marilynda1225 (79645)
• United States
31 Aug 16
they will kick her out the second the insurance is over
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@Marilynda1225 (79645)
• United States
31 Aug 16
I am resigned to the fact that she is coming home and I will just have to deal with it the best I can
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
31 Aug 16
They sound like they need to get their act together.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45496)
• United States
31 Aug 16
@Marilynda1225 Now that she's not coming home tomorrow - it gives you more time to prepare for when she does.
@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
31 Aug 16
@Marilynda1225 Sorry Marilyn, I phrased that wrong. It should be based on both your mother's needs and your own capabilities.
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@Marilynda1225 (79645)
• United States
31 Aug 16
She's probably close to being able to come home but with my own health issues my concern is how much am I going to be able to do as her caregiver.
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@MarshaMusselman (38645)
• Midland, Michigan
1 Sep 16
@Marilynda1225 Is there no other possibility, or place for her to live if it means you may not be up to the task? Are you the only sibling in the area?
@BACONSTRIPSXXX (14351)
• West Haven, Connecticut
31 Aug 16
Sorry your going through that, why is she in a rehab center?
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@Marilynda1225 (79645)
• United States
31 Aug 16
she had emergency surgery a few months ago and then had to go to rehab to be able to walk again. It's been quite an ordeal
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@BACONSTRIPSXXX (14351)
• West Haven, Connecticut
31 Aug 16
@Marilynda1225 Ouch, sounds stressful and complicated, hope she recovers fine
@ElizabethWallace (12074)
• United States
31 Aug 16
It's a good thing that they reconsidered. Good luck with making the necessary arrangements for her next living location. Does it have to be at your home?
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@Marilynda1225 (79645)
• United States
31 Aug 16
yes for now her coming back to live with me is the only option
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@ElizabethWallace (12074)
• United States
1 Sep 16
@Marilynda1225 Good luck. Remember to take care of yourself too.
@PatZAnthony (14752)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
3 Sep 16
This is a tough one. Those with great insurance can stay somewhere for a very long time. We have a friend who had a policy that pays for her to be in a wonderful assisted living for the rest of her life, should she choose to do so!
@just4him (305792)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
5 Sep 16
I'm sure that is frustrating. Have you given thought to an assisted living home?
