Marriage fail
By UpbeatRae
@carebear29 (31961)
Wausau, Wisconsin
September 1, 2016 12:39am CST
So the other day I was downtown enjoying my time with friends when my husband came down a started a big fight in front of everyone. He got lucky he didn't go to jail or have the cops get called on him. He came downtown yelling at me over stupid stuff and what not in front of a bunch of people. I cried and he didn't care. We had people holding us back. It was a bad fight...
So I have decided I am still leaving him very soon. I do have a back up place to go if need be which is good. A little bit ago he came into the living room trying to apologize and say he was going to change. I don't see that happening so I'm keeping my plan on motion. He even said he didn't want to separate or divorce. Honestly I am happy with B and besides he showed up tonight downtown to check on me and heard everything and he isn't happy with my husband...
I want out. I can't do the emotional and verbal abuse anymore. I have plenty of support which is good but now to keep things rolling. Sorry I needed to vent. I can't wait to see B everyday. Thanks to those here that support me, too.
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 Sep 16
Yeah I am going to have the cops involved just in case
@Archie0 (5636)
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1 Sep 16
I don't really know who is this B person but yes if he is helping you ease out your tensions that should be fine. For your husband, I feel sad that such men would never change. They have a certain ego problems. My father is one of them, he will tear any of us down with his words and it wouldn't mind if it is in front of million known or unknown people. He has been harsh forever. I wait to get married to go away from him but I hold back in emotion for my mother as I love her. I am anyways getting married this December, my fiancé is good till now he respects me and my thoughts, supports me and is a soft person but I wonder how long that can go as my going to be husband is also a hot tempered guy. But that's true he is not dirty verbally. I prefer you leave your husband and be there where you are happy. You too have life which is limited as his is and you have all the rights to live up your life.
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@Archie0 (5636)
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2 Sep 16
@carebear29 I am taking help of sleeping pills nowdays because I can't take it anymore from my family. Even sometimes my family doesn't support me or likes me a lot
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@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
1 Sep 16
They're different types of people. Some are kind and respectful and some are harsh and evil.
@Letranknight2015 (51499)
• Philippines
1 Sep 16
It's a shame that he went to this path, I mean you're so beautiful to treated this way. you deserve better, I think he lost something very important.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
1 Sep 16
If you really know and love B, and B really loves you, then why waste your time with your husband who keeps on abusing you (verbally).
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@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
1 Sep 16
@acelawrites , That is true. The 15 year old son of my friend was verbally attacked by her husband in front of their son's classmates in high school, What that son did, he went home and ganged himself in his bedroom using his belt. sucking feeling!
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@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
1 Sep 16
@acelawrites , verbal abuse is life time to feel u like physical.The heart always feels the hurt of verbal abuse.We cannot avoid to cry for shame of the insult.
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
1 Sep 16
@cacay1 yes, it can be very hurting just like physical abuse.
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@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
1 Sep 16
There are a lot of people who can't take no for an answer. Be careful he doesn't ruin your life. Easier said than done.
@yukimori (10142)
• United States
1 Sep 16
Honestly, it might be time to contact a local domestic violence shelter. Sometimes getting out safely is more important than making sure every little duck is in alignment before you make your move.
At the very least, the people there can help you make a plan and figure out what your next step will be.
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@IlijaMarkovski (1056)
• Australia
1 Sep 16
@carebear29 I have a friend of a work colleague in the same position. They got the cops involved but unfortunately for a long period of time the girlfriend kept stalking the house.
@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 Sep 16
I am getting cops involved when I move.
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@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
1 Sep 16
Sorry to hear about your big problem.You have to decide now.Your husband may never change his attitude. He puts you down and hurts you even more.That is what I am afraid of marriage if fail.How are you this tie Nikki? I hope to hear you fine and happy with B.You deserve to be happy dear lady.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
1 Sep 16
Im so sorry this happened again.It`S only you who know what`S best for you.But speaking from the sidelines,you deserve better or nothing at all than someone always seeming to take pleasure at your pain,why would he always try to cause you pain?
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@carebear29 (31961)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 Sep 16
Its ok. Karma will get him when I leave for good
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